Jess cms Posted March 9, 2015 Posted March 9, 2015 (the name of the post was supposed to end with "help", lol ) Ok, so.. this is probably nothing but I noticed there are some experienced people here in the dating world that could give me some advice and I just thought, you know.. what the hell xD So... I'm living in this small village in Switzerland and I can honestly say I'm not having a great experience in this country right now. So I want to move.. and in the past few months I've been trying to make some contacts here and there (by here and there I mean the cities I have in mind to move). So there are this foruns on the internet where foreign people go to make friends here in Switzerland. Most guys there seem to think those are dating sites which can be creepy sometimes... just a few days ago there was a guy that after talking to me for 5/10 minutes was already trying to come over and make me dinner xD Anyway.. usually they're the ones trying to talk to me in those foruns, but sometime ago I decided to talk to a guy once I realized he was a writer. I'm a writer as well (just not published yet), and I just love to get along with people who have that same... sensibility to write, if you know what I mean. So I messaged him, and then we talked a bit, not much really but I had the oportunity to read one of his stories and so on. At some point we talked about having coffee one of this days and nothing wrong so far x) Then we became friends on facebook, and after we did we just didn't talk much. I mean we were talking once but then he was busy and that was it... so the thing is, I get when a man says he's busy so I just figured he didn't like my pics or something and wasn't interested anymore in meeting me or something like that. So I just forgot about it and a few days passed untill he messaged me again, asking me to let him know when I'm going to where he lives so we can have a drink or a coffee together. Btw, he lives about 2h30 / 3h away from me (not really sure as I don't drive) but when we talked for the first time I guess I told him I had a friend there and I was thinking about going back there again soon, so that's probably why he asked me to let him know when I'm going. the thing is, I was a bit surprised cause you know, I wasn't even thinking about him anymore.. so I said something like "oh... I was starting to think you didn't want to meet me anymore " (you know, I said it like a joke but at the same time I meant it xD) and after that I just said that I'll be there when my friend has a free weekend and I'll let him know. Then after this he took a couple of days to answer and when he did he said he doesn't like to play with his phone all the time and that he likes to see people face to face, and to let him know when I'm around to have coffee. Well while I was reading that I was like "Ok... whatever..." but I found it a bit unpleasant. I'm probably too sensitive sometimes, I don't know xD But I answered him like it was fine you know x) And I have to say that, in fact, I don't see him online many times. On facebook I don't really notice it, but on whatsapp for instance, sometimes I would check it just out of curiosity really.. I don't do that now but in those few days that I did, I noticed he was online like once or sometimes twice a day xD So anyway, I'm surprised he invited me for coffee but I don't really think this is a date. The thing is, I was thinking about this yesterday and I thought, if he doesn't like to "play with his phone" like he puts it, so what's the point of us meeting? I won't be there most of the time anyway so if we would like each other somehow, what would we do about it? x) The question is, what do you guys think he really wants? Because he could've just deleted my number when we didn't talk for days.. but instead he wants to have coffee and we don't really have any kind of a connection. It's worrying me a bit cause I'm not sure I'll know what to talk about with him cause I don't know almost anything about him x) So I'm probably overthinking this, but you know... he's kind of a good looking guy and all that, and I can get a little nervous sometimes xD So what do you guys think about this? Once again I'm so sorry cause I can't just shut up x)
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