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Checkout Girl: Hostile or Flirtatious?

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Lernaean_Hydra Established Member

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Great insights here.

 

I get a lot of really extreme reactions from women, but this was a new one for me. As in: straight out hostile sarcasm + deadpan. Haven't gotten that one before.

 

I caught her staring twice, that's all I need to know.

 

edit: catching her staring even ONCE is all I need to know. Twice is proof positive. Going out of her way to draw attention to herself tells me it's a done deal.

 

Yeah, the other thing is, you know sometimes people who are like that don't even realize how they're coming off because that's how pretty much everyone is in their social circle. It's expected and everyone reacts accordingly. Her "you had to think about that, huh?" might have been met with something light like "Hey, I've been up 36hrs don't judge" or blah, blah, blah by someone else because they instinctively "know" she's not actually being bitchy.

 

I mean, I could be completely wrong but I'm speaking as someone who is very dry/sarcastic with friends who are the same. Everything is a sort of biting back and forth. When overheard by others talking to friends in public I've/we've actually had people sort of look taken aback and even say things like "You shouldn't be so mean to each other." :rolleyes:

kendahke Established Member

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Do you have a lot of experience with women flirting with you and approaching you?

 

I'm a heterosexual woman, so no on the flirting tip... but I know that a woman who is flirting acts like a woman who is flirting and doesn't act like you just threw up on her shoe.

kendahke Established Member

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No, she initiated the flirting by staring at me. And by staring again at me the next day when I was in the store.

 

Perhaps your reputation precedes you? None of us knows why she acted this way. She may have been told her job was being cut. Her mom may have just found out she's dying. She's on her period and has horrible cramps and just wants to go lie down. Her child's teacher called to say there was a discipline problem and she needs to keep them at home for the rest of the week. You may have made out with and dumped one of her bff's. Why didn't you ask her what the problem was? Turn some of this nastiness and character assassination you're dishing out here on her.

 

You came here to ask us questions about why someone is staring at you but then not returning your flirt. Not the other way around. We've answered what we think. You're in a better position to go find out than we are.

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preraph Established Member

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Uh, no. I am correcting someone who is factually incorrect. You are projecting your own hostility and calling it bickering.

 

edit: also sarcasm is a form of hostility so I know for a fact you are projecting. :)

 

Look, not trying to poke the bear, but when it seems like everyone else is projecting after you've asked for advice on an advice board, the common denominator is you. This question you asked advice on is such a minor one that I cannot fathom what it is that has made you be defensive to everyone who has tried to answer you. I know I wasn't trying to make you mad, and I think anyone here knows I'm not a troll, like you said I was. And now you're saying people are projecting. I'm not sure what answer you are looking for here that wouldn't provoke a negative reaction, but the general consensus is the obvious one: Only one way to find out and that's ask her out. Maybe she's a feisty little spitfire who doesn't find you annoying in the least.

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MidwestUSA Established Member

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Don't feed the kid.

 

Especially not anything salty. I'm thirsty just reading.

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xxoo Established Member

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That response was too meh to be salty.

 

But she definitely wasn't thirsty.

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dcannon Established Member

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Lwhen it seems like everyone else is projecting after you've asked for advice on an advice board, the common denominator is you.

 

Or, perhaps the forum is pessimistic in general and this is what is leading to such bad outcomes for you all. shrugs

 

I feel like I have such an abundance of riches I sometimes feel guilty for it all.

 

I turned down a date from a hot blonde early 20 something gal just the other day. She has a boyfriend and felt like I didn't want to pursue that girl in particular, even though she is pushing hard.

cessna Established Member

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I'm going to say this because I think most people are thinking it, but you come across as a total dick.

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SearchingForMyself Established Member

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I'm going to say this because I think most people are thinking it, but you come across as a total dick.

 

Doubt hes a TOTAL dick

 

His arrogance and delusion is clearly overcompensation for a lack of something. ;)

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dcannon Established Member

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I had a pregnant woman at church checking me out. Twice. She was working her stroller game hard. :D

Imajerk17 Established Member

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As I am reading this, I am wondering how the cashier in the Original Post would feel if she only knew her 30-second interaction sparked a 6-page-and-counting thread on this forum. :laugh:

 

This really seems like much ado about nothing.

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dcannon Established Member

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As I am reading this, I am wondering how the cashier in the Original Post would feel if she only knew her 30-second interaction sparked a 6-page-and-counting thread on this forum. :laugh:

 

This really seems like much ado about nothing.

 

This means girls don't flirt with him. Sorry to remind you!

SomeDude16 Established Member

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No, she initiated the flirting by staring at me. And by staring again at me the next day when I was in the store.

 

Usually you look at someone you're talking to...... You're thinking WAY to hard.

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katiegrl Established Member

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No, she initiated the flirting by staring at me. And by staring again at me the next day when I was in the store.

 

Just curious but how do you know she (or any girl) was staring at you? Did someone tell you? Didn't think so.

 

That means you must have been staring at her (probably to see if she was checking you out-I've known guys like that).

 

SHE is probably thinking the same thing you are.... this guy is checking me out, but too "intimidated" by me to make a move!

 

Hilarious...

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Hopeful30 Established Member

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Sometimes you just cant tell ;)

katiegrl Established Member

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Just curious but how do you know she (or any girl) was staring at you? Did someone tell you? Didn't think so.

 

That means you must have been staring at her (probably to see if she was checking you out-I've known guys like that).

 

SHE is probably thinking the same thing you are.... this guy is checking me out, but too "intimidated" by me to make a move!

 

Hilarious...

 

How? Are you psychic, clairvoyant. Wishful thinking?

 

The only time I KNOW that someone is looking at me is either if someone tells me, OR "I" I am looking at them..

 

dcannon, these girls probably notice you when you walk in for the exact opposite reason you're thinking.

 

They're thinking "oh here's that creepy guy again who keeps staring at me"!

 

Just sayin...

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katiegrl Established Member

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How? Are you psychic, clairvoyant. Wishful thinking?

 

The only time I KNOW that someone is looking at me is either if someone tells me, OR "I" I am looking at them..

 

dcannon, these girls probably notice you when you walk in for the exact opposite reason you're thinking.

 

They're thinking "oh here's that creepy guy again who keeps staring at me"!

 

Just sayin...

 

^^Oops the above post was actually in response to Hopeful's post no. 90.

Robert Established Member

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Since it's pretty obvious that the thread starter is a total dick....we are just gonna close this thread and call it done. ~ V

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