Checkout Girl: Hostile or Flirtatious?

March 9, 2015

Saying 'I can handle a 50 cent purchase' is not flirting.

Right OK.

So why not just hand over the cash and pay?

You weren't being flirty, she wasn't being flirty so you're even.

Why the thread topic?

If I had been flirty by saying 'I think I can manage that' then I may ask the same question as you are.

If I wasn't being flirty I wouldn't bother asking and the whole scenario would be forgotten after leaving the store.

March 9, 2015

I'm not the one looking for dating advice.

No, you are the one looking to cat cartoons as a source of 'wisdom.' Or, rather as passive aggressive insult. Like I said, reminds me of the checkout girl.

March 9, 2015

Right OK.
So why not just hand over the cash and pay?

You weren't being flirty, she wasn't being flirty so you're even.
Why the thread topic?

If I had been flirty by saying 'I think I can manage that' then I may ask the same question as you are.
If I wasn't being flirty I wouldn't bother asking and the whole scenario would be forgotten after leaving the store.

No, she initiated the flirting by staring at me. And by staring again at me the next day when I was in the store.

March 9, 2015

Saying 'I can handle a 50 cent purchase' is not flirting.

When I read your anecdote about saying that to the check out girl, I thought of

.

Next time, Just really ham it up. While looking around to see who's listening, announce loudly "Fifty big ones. Fifty centeroonis. Half a dollar! I've got it covered, honey. I just got paid, so I'm literally weighed down with dimes and nickels right now." That'll impress her even more.

March 9, 2015

No, it wasn't meant as an insult. You clearly are excited that this girl is, as you say "salty and cantakerous" rather than friendly to you. I just think maybe because of all your experience, you may have now entered a phase of mostly only being interested in women who aren't interested in you and that you have to chase a little bit.

Just ask her out.

March 9, 2015

No, it wasn't meant as an insult. You clearly are excited that this girl is, as you say "salty and cantakerous" rather than friendly to you. I just think maybe because of all your experience, you may have now entered a phase of mostly only being interested in women who aren't interested in you and that you have to chase a little bit.

No, not excited. Just unexpected. I am used to very obvious tells.

March 9, 2015

When I read your anecdote about saying that to the check out girl, I thought of
.

Next time, Just really ham it up. While looking around to see who's listening, announce loudly "Fifty big ones. Fifty centeroonis. Half a dollar! I've got it covered, honey. I just got paid, so I'm literally weighed down with dimes and nickels right now." That'll impress her even more.

Ha ha, good idea! No, not really. Girls are really sensitive.

March 9, 2015

Right. So this is refreshing and more of a challenge.

March 9, 2015

I am now 110% certain she is strongly interested. I have caught her staring twice, on consecutive days. Plus, she is using salty, confrontational language to make sure she has my full attention. I like this girl.

March 9, 2015

I work cashier at a clothing store I have no interest in flirtation while on the job esp when I have a line I am more interested in making as many quotas per hour I can. But I make small plesant talk with all so they have a great experience.

I too stare at the customers men also we watch for stealing, or misplaced items or chances to make a sale, doesnt mean anything.

She might be the same way

Edited March 9, 2015 by Omei

March 9, 2015

I work cashier at a clothing store I have no interest in flirtation while on the job esp when I have a line I am more interested in making as many quotas per hour I can. But I make small plesant talk with all so they have a great experience.

I too stare at the customers men also we watch for stealing, or misplaced items doesnt mean anything.

She might be the same way

That's what I am saying. People that work in customer service who have to be there are sociable because of their job, and have been known to stare because they're either bored, watching for theft, etc..

I think you've made a way bigger deal in your head about it then what's actually going on. But in the end you've got nothing to lose by asking her out.

March 9, 2015

I work cashier at a clothing store I have no interest in flirtation while on the job esp when I have a line I am more interested in making as many quotas per hour I can. But I make small plesant talk with all so they have a great experience.

I too stare at the customers men also we watch for stealing, or misplaced items or chances to make a sale, doesnt mean anything.

She might be the same way

Yeah, I used to think like this. I was wondering if this blonde 19 year old hottie was staring at me for theft concerns. She was not.

March 9, 2015

That's what I am saying. People that work in customer service who have to be there are sociable because of their job, and have been known to stare because they're either bored, watching for theft, etc..

I think you've made a way bigger deal in your head about it then what's actually going on. But in the end you've got nothing to lose by asking her out.

Perhaps you are making a way bigger deal of convincing me she is not interested. You've tried many times in this thread already.

March 9, 2015

I can usually read most women pretty well. They usually have a "tell" that serves as a green light or red light.

Some girls are great at deadpan though. Like this very pretty checkout girl. I put my water down on the counter, and catch her staring when I look back up.

I usually buy small knick knacks.

Her: 'fifty cents'

Me: 'I think I can handle that.'

Her: 'You had to think about that, huh?'

I was caught off guard: this girl is sharp and sharp edged. I look at her facial expression to make sure she is joking or even flirting.

But, this girl has no 'tell.' No smile, smiling eyes, nothing. Just a totally flat, expressionless appearance. I was taken aback by her total lack of reaction and just say nothing afterwards.

How do you 'tell' when there is no 'tell?'

This all sounds like New England sarcasm. I remember when I moved out to California from Massachusetts... people thought I was one nasty, vicious bastard. But I'm just being sarcastic! That to me sounds like what we are dealing with here, but I might be wrong.

March 9, 2015

This all sounds like New England sarcasm. I remember when I moved out to California from Massachusetts... people thought I was one nasty, vicious bastard. But I'm just being sarcastic! That to me sounds like what we are dealing with here, but I might be wrong.

Thanks, that's an interesting take, for sure.

This is in a very casual, laidback friendly college town, and in a store that is also very friendly and laid-back.

That's probably why her comment stood out so much. Very salty.

March 9, 2015

Personally from experience by the way she's taking to you and staring in your direction she might not like dealing with you

There is one guy in my store who is very annoying to me he comes regularly as well I look in his way all the time hoping when he will leave the store he makes me very uncomfortable and im very short with him as well, im in my 20's and he's like over 50 he just gives off a creepy feeling.

If this girl is 19 and your much older it could be that.

if this girl is looking at you, but never smiling or being pleasant I think you're reading the situation totally wrong.

March 9, 2015

Personally from experience by the way she's taking to you and staring in your direction she might not like dealing with you

There is one guy in my store who is very annoying to me he comes regularly as well I look in his way all the time hoping when he will leave the store he makes me very uncomfortable and im very short with him as well, im in my 20's and he's like over 50 he just gives off a creepy feeling.

If this girl is 19 and your much older it could be that.

if this girl is looking at you, but never smiling or being pleasant I think you're reading the situation totally wrong.

Haha. Well, it sounds like you have issues with hostility then. Best to get it sorted sooner rather than later.

That's the first time I've checked out with her so your assumptions are all incorrect.

March 9, 2015

We are two different people with different experiences. How often are you approached by people off the job?

I am approached by women in the double digits every weekend, get several phone numbers and random makeouts every weekend. Do you have a similar experience and track record with women?

I intimidate a lot of women, too, so I have to take that into account as well.

If you're so great with women and get laid every day, why are you here asking for advice?

March 9, 2015

Haha. Well, it sounds like you have issues with hostility then. Best to get it sorted sooner rather than later.

That's the first time I've checked out with her so your assumptions are all incorrect.

The guy follows me around talking rather rambling about his weird life while im trying to do my job it's got nothing to do with being hostile some people give off a very desperate sign of loneliness and that's creepy to a gal sometimes.

If you only checked out with her once , and she was that cold yes Id say your def looking into the situation way too much that's not flirtation.

Given the past comments tho with everyone thinking the same thing seems you're totally convinced this girl's into you no matter the opinion, and you should just ask her out then but don't be shocked if the outcome is not what you expect given what you've said about her.

Edited March 9, 2015 by Omei

March 9, 2015

The guy follows me around talking rather rambling about his weird life while im trying to do my job it's got nothing to do with being hostile some people give off a very desperate sign of loneliness and that's creepy to a gal sometimes.

If you only checked out with her once , and she was that cold yes Id say your def looking into the situation way too much that's not flirtation.

Given the past comments tho with everyone thinking the same thing seems you're totally convinced despite everyone's opinion and you should just ask her out then but don't be shocked with so little interest she's shown for a different outcome than expected.

I asked a question: perhaps that constitutes "looking into the situation way too much?" This is a dating forum after all.

Perhaps you are being "hostile and negative too much?"

It sounds like you don't like your life or your job too much.

March 9, 2015

If you're so great with women and get laid every day, why are you here asking for advice?

Now that is creepy.

March 9, 2015

I think you are spending too much time debating people giving you their perspective and not enough time asking this girl out. If you're 110% sure she is interested, this should be a no-brainer.

March 9, 2015

I think you are spending too much time debating people giving you their perspective and not enough time asking this girl out. If you're 110% sure she is interested, this should be a no-brainer.

I have no idea what this girl's schedule is, and it's not like I visit the store every day, so I'll see her again when I see her again.

I'll ask her out and/or get her contact info when I feel it's right.

March 9, 2015

I asked a question: perhaps that constitutes "looking into the situation way too much?" This is a dating forum after all.

Perhaps you are being "hostile and negative too much?"

It sounds like you don't like your life or your job too much.

I love my job, best job I ever had I enjoy my regulars very much im only talking about one particular customer

March 9, 2015

Now that is creepy.

I wasn't hitting on you.

Most likely that's your problem...

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