Checkout Girl: Hostile or Flirtatious?

[dcannon]

I can usually read most women pretty well. They usually have a "tell" that serves as a green light or red light.

 

Some girls are great at deadpan though. Like this very pretty checkout girl. I put my water down on the counter, and catch her staring when I look back up.

 

I usually buy small knick knacks.

 

Her: 'fifty cents'

 

Me: 'I think I can handle that.'

 

Her: 'You had to think about that, huh?'

 

I was caught off guard: this girl is sharp and sharp edged. I look at her facial expression to make sure she is joking or even flirting.

 

But, this girl has no 'tell.' No smile, smiling eyes, nothing. Just a totally flat, expressionless appearance. I was taken aback by her total lack of reaction and just say nothing afterwards.

 

How do you 'tell' when there is no 'tell?'

[kendahke]

You did right by not saying anything. She was rude--next time, go to another cashier.

 

You don't waste your time looking for a 'tell' from someone who is acting anti social.

[dcannon]

Actually, I have quite a few checkout girls who are flirtatious with me but they are usually smiling.

 

Like one of the bank checkout girls. I asked for change in 1's, and she began teasing me.

 

Her: "I'm used to handling BIG money!"

 

Me: 'What's big?'

 

Her: 'I don't know!'

 

I get my change and as I'm walking off she yells: 'enjoy your tips!' Implying well....

 

It was very salty and off color, but I understood her intentions because she was smiling. This girl was also very salty, but not smiling.

[kendahke]

Actually, I have quite a few checkout girls who are flirtatious with me but they are usually smiling.

 

Like one of the bank checkout girls. I asked for change in 1's, and she began teasing me.

 

Her: "I'm used to handling BIG money!"

 

Me: 'What's big?'

 

Her: 'I don't know!'

 

I get my change and as I'm walking off she yells: 'enjoy your tips!' Implying well....

 

It was very salty and off color, but I understood her intentions because she was smiling. This girl was also very salty, but not smiling.

 

She might not like you.

[dcannon]

She might not like you.

 

Do you have a lot of experience with women flirting with you and approaching you?

[preraph]

Doesn't sound like she even knows you're alive and is just trying to get through her day in the most expedient way possible.

[dcannon]

Wrong. I caught her staring at me. Nice try at trolling though.

[dcannon]

Doesn't sound like she even knows you're alive and is just trying to get through her day in the most expedient way possible.

 

Also, how much experience do you have with the opposite sex approaching you, staring at you, flirting with you? Do store employees regularly check you out or flirt with you?

[preraph]

Yes, I met most of the people I still know when I was working at a record store, most of the men and most of the girlfriends. Interest is not that hard to detect. It is not usually masked with disdain.

[dcannon]

Yes, I met most of the people I still know when I was working at a record store, most of the men and most of the girlfriends. Interest is not that hard to detect. It is not usually masked with disdain.

 

We are two different people with different experiences. How often are you approached by people off the job?

 

I am approached by women in the double digits every weekend, get several phone numbers and random makeouts every weekend. Do you have a similar experience and track record with women?

 

I intimidate a lot of women, too, so I have to take that into account as well.

[fitnessfan365]

I don't know. Sounds like you might be seeing things that aren't there. Just because a woman in a customer service job smiles or jokes around with you, doesn't mean she is flirting or expressing interest. It probably just means she is sociable and doing her job.

[preraph]

I AM a woman.

[dcannon]

I don't know. Sounds like you might be seeing things that aren't there. Just because a woman in a customer service job smiles or jokes around with you, doesn't mean she is flirting or expressing interest. It probably just means she is sociable and doing her job.

 

Well it was a borderline insult, not really generically 'sociable.'

[dcannon]

I AM a woman.

 

Now you are starting to sound like the checkout girl.

[GemmaUK]

Interest is not that hard to detect. It is not usually masked with disdain.

 

 

100% agree.

 

 

I would say that 'very pretty checkout girl' was probably bored of being flirted with that day and the best way to stop it is cut it dead.

[fitnessfan365]

Well it was a borderline insult, not really generically 'sociable.'

 

I was referring to the other one you mentioned about 'big money".

 

One time I went into a grocery store pretty late around 11:30pm. No one was really in the store, so three checkout girls were able to stand around and gab. They saw me come in, and were staring me down, and then started whispering. I treated it like no big deal and went on my with my shopping.

 

When I got up to the check out line, one says "Did you find everything you need/" I say "Definitely". One of them looks right at me and says "Are you sure about that?' and smiles. Now that is a woman expressing definite interest. Unfortunately I wasn't attracted to her whatsoever. But if I had been, I would have asked for help out to my car and gotten her number.

[dcannon]

100% agree.

 

 

I would say that 'very pretty checkout girl' was probably bored of being flirted with that day and the best way to stop it is cut it dead.

 

Saying 'I can handle a 50 cent purchase' is not flirting.

[dcannon]

I was referring to the other one you mentioned about 'big money".

 

One time I went into a grocery store pretty late around 11:30pm. No one was really in the store, so three checkout girls were able to stand around and gab. They saw me come in, and were staring me down, and then started whispering. I treated it like no big deal and went on my with my shopping.

 

When I got up to the check out line, one says "Did you find everything you need/" I say "Definitely". One of them looks right at me and says "Are you sure about that?' and smiles. Now that is a woman expressing definite interest. Unfortunately I wasn't attracted to her whatsoever. But if I had been, I would have asked for help out to my car and gotten her number.

 

We have different experiences. I intimidate a lot of women, so I can expect salty comments from time to time.

[preraph]

Now you are starting to sound like the checkout girl.

 

All I can say is if she's looking at you with a flat expression and her responses are minimal, there's not much to indicate she cares. If I liked someone, I followed them around the store talking to them and helping them and told them to come back soon and asked them if they were going to hear such and such live band, hoping they'd show up, and that's usually what happened. But of course, every situation calls for a different approach. But the key word is "approach." So far, she hasn't done anything much in the way of being friendly. But since you're used to all this, just ask her out. Rip the BandAid off.

[rester]

That doesn't sound hostile to me at all. Maybe slightly more flirty than hostile, if I had to put in on a scale, although I'd mostly interpret it as her way of getting through a boring work-day. It probably means absolutely nothing.

[dcannon]

So far, she hasn't done anything much in the way of being friendly.

 

Yes, that is correct. She has been the opposite of friendly. Salty and cantankerous.

 

But you are right. I have a lot of experience with women.

[dcannon]

That doesn't sound hostile to me at all. Maybe slightly more flirty than hostile, if I had to put in on a scale, although I'd mostly interpret it as her way of getting through a boring work-day. It probably means absolutely nothing.

 

I was there the next day and she was also checking me out also.

[preraph]

You just reminded me of my favorite cat cartoon. This cat is standing on a man's lap who is clearly not into cats, and the cat is thinking "You hate me. I like that in a man."

[dcannon]

You just reminded me of my favorite cat cartoon. This cat is standing on a man's lap who is clearly not into cats, and the cat is thinking "You hate me. I like that in a man."

 

Passive aggressive non-sequitur.

 

Perhaps you should get dating advice from places other than cat cartoons.

[preraph]

I'm not the one looking for dating advice.