Eller Posted March 9, 2015 Posted March 9, 2015 (edited) Not really sure this is the right forum but ill take a chance. The things is, there is no one in the world im more hot for right now then my mother in law. It might seem very wrong and it might be, although me and my girlfriend broke up a few months ago so I guess its not as bad as ut could be. Even though I'm around 30 and my mother in law is around 50 ive always just connected, intellectually, better with her than my ex. Ive also had real easy laughing with her. Ive always had kind of a thing for older women so after a naked sauna-experience with here ive never been able to stop thinking about her. Ive always been quite bad at reading these kinds of signs, but in all honesty in not sure she's ever given me any, more than a few (probably innocent) comments about me being a "good looking guy". I would do almost anything being with her for just one night. Any way. I'm a bad person if I'm trying to make a move on here? I don't really have any grudges with my ex and we are sort if friends still so if she some how found out it wouldnt be the best thing. Although I wouldnt care that much. Should I go for it? How should I go for it? Is there a big risk she'll get offended? Or is it more probable she'll get flattered? She's not overly good looking, so its not like I'm out of her lauge, its just our connection and the fact that she older that turns me on Quite hard questions I guess but how would you react? Would you tell you daughter? I'm I totally out of line here? Thanks for any help. She single her self btw.. Edited March 9, 2015 by Eller
catchthedrift Posted March 9, 2015 Posted March 9, 2015 You are not a bad person and it seems you really like her. Make a move. Don't tell your ex. Nothing has happened yet. if you decide to wed that woman, different issue.
gaius Posted March 9, 2015 Posted March 9, 2015 I always warn women I date I might end up hitting on their mothers. =/ No joke. Can't really tell your chances based on what you wrote. She's going to be flattered on some level if you go for it but the conditioning that says it's a boundary she shouldn't cross might end up being too powerful. =/ Even if she's into you as well. Depends on the woman really. The first step I'd take would be figuring out some excuse to communicate with her on a regular basis. Your chances probably go way up if you can get her comfortable with it slowly rather than just showing up out of the blue with a boquet of flowers and asking her for a date. 1
kendahke Posted March 9, 2015 Posted March 9, 2015 I don't really have any grudges with my ex and we are sort if friends still so if she some how found out it wouldnt be the best thing. Although I wouldnt care that much. She's going to care because if she's a good mother, she will not do anything to cause her child emotional pain and letting you hit it for one night would qualify as causing her child emotional pain. Might as well call on Rosie Palm and think your thoughts about her. This is D.O.A. 1
CalvinM Posted March 9, 2015 Posted March 9, 2015 My exes mother hit on me at a family Christmas party. She slipped me a little bit of tongue at the end of the night, so anything is possible. 2
Author Eller Posted March 9, 2015 Author Posted March 9, 2015 My exes mother hit on me at a family Christmas party. She slipped me a little bit of tongue at the end of the night, so anything is possible. So what happened after that? Did she/you regret it? Did the daugther find out? What Kendahke says is something i count in though. I mean, it could be a very bad movie from the mother considering her daugther. How was the mother-daugther relationship in you case CalvinM?
AVarma Posted March 9, 2015 Posted March 9, 2015 The fact that people actually believe this is a serious question blows my mind. 4
Author Eller Posted March 9, 2015 Author Posted March 9, 2015 The fact that people actually believe this is a serious question blows my mind. You really think there isnt these senarios playing out all over the world? If you don't believe my desire, why even brother answering? 1
somedude81 Posted March 9, 2015 Posted March 9, 2015 So this is your ex-girlfriend mom, not your mother in law. Sure, go for it if things are completely over with your ex. "after a naked sauna-experience with her" How did this happen? Can you make something like it happen again?
Author Eller Posted March 9, 2015 Author Posted March 9, 2015 So this is your ex-girlfriend mom, not your mother in law. Sure, go for it if things are completely over with your ex. "after a naked sauna-experience with her" How did this happen? Can you make something like it happen again? Yea, sorry wasnt too clear on this. My ex mother in law, yes. However, sa i said, i still have a little contact with the daugther so its still a little risky. I don't know... That sauna thing, mostly just a vacation where me, my (then) girlfriend and her mother used the sauna naked together. Nothing sexual really. Quite hard to look away though. And by thats mean, probibly impossible to get in to that situation again.
Clockwork Posted March 9, 2015 Posted March 9, 2015 I'll say this, if she was in a "naked" sauna with you, she probably isn't all that innocent herself when it comes to this and just the way you describe her she sounds more likely because of that to go for it with you. Keep in mind though, you can't be a good mother if you do this. She just can't. I'm sorry, there is a line you have to draw. Going out or even sleeping with your daughter's ex is "Jerry Springer" material. So if your ex finds out it will NOT end well. These never do. Her mom may not tell her, so you might be in the clear but this is a huge risk. As a man, I get it. My wife and I are great together and I have never cheated on her. But yeah, the mother in law is almost like forbidden fruit. My mother in law is not attractive really, has some extra weight on her, but has it in the right spots. She's in her 50s, but in moment of weaknesses I have checked her out, had a steamy dream about her, etc. Never in a million years would I tell my wife this let alone do anything, but yeah, we're men, we can have weird fetishes. My mother in law has a sassy personality, looks nothing like my wife (my wife is attractive) and my wife will never look like her, they aren't similar that way. But yeah, it has popped up. However, even if this is your ex, the damage that can be done if she finds out her mother did this could be permanent. Choose wisely. 1
somedude81 Posted March 9, 2015 Posted March 9, 2015 Yea, sorry wasnt too clear on this. My ex mother in law, yes. However, sa i said, i still have a little contact with the daugther so its still a little risky. I don't know... That sauna thing, mostly just a vacation where me, my (then) girlfriend and her mother used the sauna naked together. Nothing sexual really. Quite hard to look away though. And by thats mean, probibly impossible to get in to that situation again. LOL, you're still using the word mother-in-law. The mother-in-law is your wife's mother. If you didn't marry your ex, then her mother is not your mother-in-law. Wow, I can't imagine getting into a sauna naked with a girlfriend and her mother. That sounds like something that only happens in porn. If you still her contact information then suggest getting a glass of wine together. Just be aware that doing anything with the mom will most likely mean the definite end of things with the ex.
stillafool Posted March 9, 2015 Posted March 9, 2015 My exes mother hit on me at a family Christmas party. She slipped me a little bit of tongue at the end of the night, so anything is possible. What did you do? Was it awkward afterwards?
Author Eller Posted March 9, 2015 Author Posted March 9, 2015 LOL, you're still using the word mother-in-law. The mother-in-law is your wife's mother. If you didn't marry your ex, then her mother is not your mother-in-law. Wow, I can't imagine getting into a sauna naked with a girlfriend and her mother. That sounds like something that only happens in porn. If you still her contact information then suggest getting a glass of wine together. Just be aware that doing anything with the mom will most likely mean the definite end of things with the ex. Well sorry then. Always kind of used that word. And still do in these situations, seems easier and faster. Hehe, as i said, it wasnt really that sexual. Their finnish so its quite natural for them.
Author Eller Posted March 9, 2015 Author Posted March 9, 2015 I'll say this, if she was in a "naked" sauna with you, she probably isn't all that innocent herself when it comes to this and just the way you describe her she sounds more likely because of that to go for it with you. Keep in mind though, you can't be a good mother if you do this. She just can't. I'm sorry, there is a line you have to draw. Going out or even sleeping with your daughter's ex is "Jerry Springer" material. So if your ex finds out it will NOT end well. These never do. Her mom may not tell her, so you might be in the clear but this is a huge risk. As a man, I get it. My wife and I are great together and I have never cheated on her. But yeah, the mother in law is almost like forbidden fruit. My mother in law is not attractive really, has some extra weight on her, but has it in the right spots. She's in her 50s, but in moment of weaknesses I have checked her out, had a steamy dream about her, etc. Never in a million years would I tell my wife this let alone do anything, but yeah, we're men, we can have weird fetishes. My mother in law has a sassy personality, looks nothing like my wife (my wife is attractive) and my wife will never look like her, they aren't similar that way. But yeah, it has popped up. However, even if this is your ex, the damage that can be done if she finds out her mother did this could be permanent. Choose wisely. Great answer, thanks! But they're from Finland so its kind of a natural thing to do there. Nothing sexual or slutty or so. 1
kendahke Posted March 9, 2015 Posted March 9, 2015 Keep in mind though, you can't be a good mother if you do this. She just can't. I'm sorry, there is a line you have to draw. That is a really, really effed up, messy person who would do this to the child she carried for 9 months, birthed and raised. She's have to really hate her child to square her mind to run her through the back with a dagger like that. For some dicque.
Gary S Posted March 9, 2015 Posted March 9, 2015 Yes he is a bad person. Let's just risk driving a wedge between mother and daughter by sleeping with both of them, and have one night stands and up the chance of STD's, unplanned pregnancy, and broken hearts. Marvelous - not!
Buddhist Posted March 9, 2015 Posted March 9, 2015 Honestly just put it out there you're looking for a 50yr old Finnish woman for fun times. There will be plenty to choose from. Don't go there with the mother, that's the kind of situation that gets penii severed with kitchen knives.
PogoStick Posted March 9, 2015 Posted March 9, 2015 Since you don't care about your ex...DO IT! Call her up or something, say you're bored and would like some company for a beer. See what happens.
MrMeh Posted March 9, 2015 Posted March 9, 2015 You just have to bring some pizza over and wait at her house with the mom while the daughter is out working or something...at least that's what I have seen "acted" out. P.S- There always has to be a couch!
mrs rubble Posted March 10, 2015 Posted March 10, 2015 If one of my ex's slept with my mum, I'd find a way to make his life miserable and I'd never talk to my mum again.
sagamore Posted March 10, 2015 Posted March 10, 2015 Do you want an actual relationship with your mother in law? Or just to bang her for a night, and then send the story to Penthouse Letters?
Author Eller Posted March 10, 2015 Author Posted March 10, 2015 Do you want an actual relationship with your mother in law? Or just to bang her for a night, and then send the story to Penthouse Letters? Just a one night experience i think.
CalvinM Posted March 10, 2015 Posted March 10, 2015 What did you do? Was it awkward afterwards? She's a very sexual woman, so I wasn't totally shocked. I told my ex on the way home after the party and she didn't believe me, accused me of saying her mother was coming on to me (she clearly was, all I said was that she was being overly friendly). It obviously still bothered my ex a year later when we broke up, since she asked if I wanted her mom's number. Nothing happened between her mom and I because there was zero attraction. If it had been her sister on the other hand though..
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