Halo777 Posted March 9, 2015 Posted March 9, 2015 Hi everyone! There's this guy, who goes to my gym, I only see him about 3 times a month I would say, we've spoken before about general stuff, this only came about because he interrupted my workout session once. I'm super focused, have a routine and wear headphones. Anyway he smiles to me, I always catch him looking at me, he seems to always be on a machine near me. But I'm super confused by this action versus what he actually says. Here's the 2 scenarios: First conversation (4 months ago): I tell him I wear headphones so I don't get approached by the wrong kind of people (there was a guy who did seriously stalk me once) I didn't tell him that though. He then said, 'so you only want the hot guys to approach you' in response I said 'no not really.' At this point I'm not thinking I like this guy nor want anything romantic to do with him. Have always wondered what that comment meant, hot guys????! Conversation 2 days ago: We are in the same area, he says Hi, sits down, he was doing lunges with weights, as I know a lot about fitness I suggested a few things to help, we've talked about this kind of stuff before, so it seemed like no big deal. I also said why don't you wear headphones so you don't get distracted. He gets up and says 'I get distracted by women' then walks off. Immediately I thought why would he say that? To stop this crap from whirling round in my head any much longer, please help my sanity by giving me your opinions... Thanks!
rester Posted March 9, 2015 Posted March 9, 2015 He might be interested in you, but isn't getting the vibe that you are interested in him. It's possible you telling him to wear headphones is being interpreted by him as you meaning, "I don't want to talk to you".
Frank2thepoint Posted March 9, 2015 Posted March 9, 2015 First conversation (4 months ago): I tell him I wear headphones so I don't get approached by the wrong kind of people (there was a guy who did seriously stalk me once) I didn't tell him that though. He then said, 'so you only want the hot guys to approach you' in response I said 'no not really.' At this point I'm not thinking I like this guy nor want anything romantic to do with him. Have always wondered what that comment meant, hot guys????! His comment means he thinks you want to avoid talking to any guy, except the ones you find really attractive. Since it is impossible to know who the right or wrong kind of person is without talking to them, or at least observing their behavior for a period of time, he thinks your answer was bullsh*t, and that you'll take off your headphones for an attractive guy. Conversation 2 days ago: We are in the same area, he says Hi, sits down, he was doing lunges with weights, as I know a lot about fitness I suggested a few things to help, we've talked about this kind of stuff before, so it seemed like no big deal. I also said why don't you wear headphones so you don't get distracted. He gets up and says 'I get distracted by women' then walks off. Immediately I thought why would he say that? Poor choice of words and actions on his part, but I'm guessing he means that he fancies you. But him saying "women" sounds like he checks out all the women that exercise.
Author Halo777 Posted March 9, 2015 Author Posted March 9, 2015 Thanks guys, appreciate your help. That last comment he made really threw me, I just saw it as a huge red flag. The fact he said 'women' I mean would a guy really say that to a woman he was interested in...truly confusing and this is why I just act cool and maybe a bit aloof I guess
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