Amy77 Posted March 9, 2015 Posted March 9, 2015 So my ex left me for someone else in January which broke my heart, went NC up until last Saturday when I drunk text him that I miss him, which I regret as I was kinda getting over him at that point. A week and 2 days later we are still texting. He asked me to send him nudes 2 nights ago which I did, which I now also regret. He said we should meet up secretly as things aren't working out with him and the other girl and he said he made a mistake, and we should meet up on the sly until he knows what to do. All my old feelings for him are returning what should I do should I meet him? Please help everyone I'm so confused I love him but feel he could be manipulating this fact
Author Amy77 Posted March 9, 2015 Author Posted March 9, 2015 Also forgot to mention him and the other girl aren't officially dating yet?
Satu Posted March 9, 2015 Posted March 9, 2015 1. Don't get so drunk that you do things that you know you shouldn't. 2. Stop texting. 3. Never be anyones Plan B. 2
Ruby65 Posted March 9, 2015 Posted March 9, 2015 If he had real feelings for you, he wouldn't be asking you to send him nude pics while he's seeing someone else. He wouldn't want you to sneak around to meet him. He wouldn't keep you as a Plan B option. Delete him off your phone! He's not being respectful, he's not treating you the way you deserve. 2
lumberjac Posted March 9, 2015 Posted March 9, 2015 I'm not experienced but I think he's just keeping you as a backup plan. If you're happy keep in contact with him, hold his hands, until he find himself a new girl then yeh, keep replying to his messages. Otherwise I would suggest NC and stay away from him. 1
sabd Posted March 9, 2015 Posted March 9, 2015 we should meet up on the sly until he knows what to do. Definitely not! If he's serious about you then he'll end it with this other girl FIRST. And that's what you should insist on. Otherwise, you are just an option, a little bit on the side. That's disrespectful. And cheating. Else, delete his number from your phone so you can never drunk text him again. 3
Stercrazy Posted March 9, 2015 Posted March 9, 2015 It's a booty call that he's using because of your vulnerability. Stop! Go NC.....for yourself.
PegNosePete Posted March 9, 2015 Posted March 9, 2015 So my ex left me for someone else in January which broke my heart, went NC up until last Saturday when I drunk text him Hold it right there. So some guy leaves you for someone else, breaks your heart. And 2 months later, you still have his number in your phone? Seriously? Why?
Zahara Posted March 9, 2015 Posted March 9, 2015 So my ex left me for someone else in January which broke my heart, went NC up until last Saturday when I drunk text him that I miss him, which I regret as I was kinda getting over him at that point. A week and 2 days later we are still texting. He asked me to send him nudes 2 nights ago which I did, which I now also regret. He said we should meet up secretly as things aren't working out with him and the other girl and he said he made a mistake, and we should meet up on the sly until he knows what to do. All my old feelings for him are returning what should I do should I meet him? Please help everyone I'm so confused I love him but feel he could be manipulating this fact 1) He left you 2) He's seeing someone else 3) He wants nude pictures of you 4) He wants to meet you secretly 5) He wants to see *sleep with you* while he decides what to do with the other woman. And you are asking if you should meet him? Respecting yourself and having dignity should be far more important than your "love" for him. And of course he is manipulating you, you are an easy target. 3
spiderowl Posted March 9, 2015 Posted March 9, 2015 So my ex left me for someone else in January which broke my heart, went NC up until last Saturday when I drunk text him that I miss him, which I regret as I was kinda getting over him at that point. A week and 2 days later we are still texting. He asked me to send him nudes 2 nights ago which I did, which I now also regret. He said we should meet up secretly as things aren't working out with him and the other girl and he said he made a mistake, and we should meet up on the sly until he knows what to do. All my old feelings for him are returning what should I do should I meet him? Please help everyone I'm so confused I love him but feel he could be manipulating this fact Please tell me this is not a real post? The guy is talking to you behind his girlfriend's back and you are sending him nude pictures? Doesn't sound like a recipe for true love to me, more a disaster movie. Do you think a guy who left you once and is now wanting to see you behind his girlfriend's back is good relationship material? He isn't. He knows how to manipulate you though and you are willing to let him, perhaps because you think it's the only way to get him back. He's not worth it. I'm sure you are a great person who could interest lots of decent guys. Why do you feel you have to persuade a low-life like him to be in your life? Are you only used to being treated badly? Perhaps you are so accustomed to drama you feel it is passionate behaviour and therefore loving in some way. People don't have to be badly behaved to show you love. Therapy of some sort may help you. I doubt you are heading for anything good with this guy and you deserve much better.
ZiggyZoo Posted March 9, 2015 Posted March 9, 2015 You thought you felt really bad when you broke NC and sent the nude pictures? Imagine how terrible you'll feel if you hook up with him, he finishes and gets dressed and leaves. Don't do that to yourself...you deserve to be THE woman in a man's life, not just A woman. 1
Jonp219 Posted March 9, 2015 Posted March 9, 2015 Please don't do it. This will not end well for you.
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