totenkopf Posted March 9, 2015 Posted March 9, 2015 Hi all just after some opinions here. So my ex gf of nine months said to me she had wanted me for years and she also wanted to get married move in together and have kids with me. She even went as far as getting a wedding dress and measuring her finger. Anyway she broke up with me shortly before we were going to move in together. Two months later shes with a bouncer at her work who is everything she claimed to dislike anyway not even two months into their relationship they are engaged and he has very kindly been sending me pictures of the ring and insulting me. It really seems she has told him everything but flipped it in a negative way. Apparently she planned leaving me for months and always thought I was an ugly nutcase with mental issues yet she left her son with me all the time which she has told him it was only a few also that she kept the kid away at the end as she knew what she was going to do which is also a lie as the last week he stayed at my house twice and was even laying in bed with me and his mother watching films. Does this woman have some sort of issue with lying as she is now lying to her husband to be is he what would be considered a rebound? I really cant see how you go from dreaming of a date you will be married with one guy to then breaking up and being engaged like four months later to another, it is all a little weird could she have BPD?
Stercrazy Posted March 9, 2015 Posted March 9, 2015 Wow.......OK......take a deep breath and say...."Thank God I dodged that one". She's got some issues. Especially if she's having her new BF rubbing it in your face. If she prentends to hate you it might be easier for her to move on. And if she's marrying someone after 2 months....whom she works with well that sounds like a good recipe for disaster. Follow the rules on this board and move on. You were wrong about her and it might be the best thing for you. Post here when you need it. 3
Author totenkopf Posted March 9, 2015 Author Posted March 9, 2015 Wow.......OK......take a deep breath and say...."Thank God I dodged that one". She's got some issues. Especially if she's having her new BF rubbing it in your face. If she prentends to hate you it might be easier for her to move on. And if she's marrying someone after 2 months....whom she works with well that sounds like a good recipe for disaster. Follow the rules on this board and move on. You were wrong about her and it might be the best thing for you. Post here when you need it.[/QUOT Thanks for the reply. Well they are engaged you think the last person they would want to tell is me! She has made me out to be a complete scumbag to this guy and has even gone as far as to say I was abusive yet she left her kid with me I just dont see how if I was abusive she would leave a five year old in my care. Do you think he is a rebound in some way?
ApexTitanium Posted March 9, 2015 Posted March 9, 2015 You should block all ways of communication from both of them, change your number if you have to. That way it will help you move on and not allow them to send these things to you. They are doing it just to hurt you....so why allow it to continue? 3
Author totenkopf Posted March 9, 2015 Author Posted March 9, 2015 You should block all ways of communication from both of them, change your number if you have to. That way it will help you move on and not allow them to send these things to you. They are doing it just to hurt you....so why allow it to continue? Yeah I shall do that the whole thing is just stupid
No Limit Posted March 9, 2015 Posted March 9, 2015 For the future, when a girl approaches you with "I want to marry and have kids with you", run out of the door. You dodged a hell of a bullet there but not all bombs explode before you're legally attached to them. 3
Author totenkopf Posted March 9, 2015 Author Posted March 9, 2015 For the future, when a girl approaches you with "I want to marry and have kids with you", run out of the door. You dodged a hell of a bullet there but not all bombs explode before you're legally attached to them. Thanks for the advice Is that generally a sign of them being bipolar?
sabd Posted March 9, 2015 Posted March 9, 2015 Is that generally a sign of them being bipolar? Sign of being desperate to get married, more like. 2
Author totenkopf Posted March 9, 2015 Author Posted March 9, 2015 Sign of being desperate to get married, more like. Yeah she probably just likes the idea of getting married but the reality shall most likely be different as anyone can get married but staying married is a different matter 1
kendahke Posted March 9, 2015 Posted March 9, 2015 Thanks for the reply. Well they are engaged you think the last person they would want to tell is me! She has made me out to be a complete scumbag to this guy and has even gone as far as to say I was abusive yet she left her kid with me I just dont see how if I was abusive she would leave a five year old in my care. Do you think he is a rebound in some way? you should call child services about her abandoning her child with you. 2
Michelle ma Belle Posted March 9, 2015 Posted March 9, 2015 Why do you feel a need to label her or her actions; bipolar, rebound. Who cares? This woman sounds unstable at best and I couldn't agree more with others who've said you dodged a massive bullet. Consider yourself very lucky! As for the nut job and her scumbag boyfriend, block, delete, ignore, report, whatever it takes! Nothing good will come from letting them torment you as they have. And don't worry so much what she's told her meat head fiance about you. Eventually her true colors will show through and he too will realize what a liar she really is. I feel sorry for her child 1
angiefly Posted March 9, 2015 Posted March 9, 2015 you should call child services about her abandoning her child with you. With all due respect this ^^^, IMO, is awful advice and vindictive in nature. 1
Author totenkopf Posted March 9, 2015 Author Posted March 9, 2015 Why do you feel a need to label her or her actions; bipolar, rebound. Who cares? This woman sounds unstable at best and I couldn't agree more with others who've said you dodged a massive bullet. Consider yourself very lucky! As for the nut job and her scumbag boyfriend, block, delete, ignore, report, whatever it takes! Nothing good will come from letting them torment you as they have. And don't worry so much what she's told her meat head fiance about you. Eventually her true colors will show through and he too will realize what a liar she really is. I feel sorry for her child I dont know to be honest my brain is just searching for answers. I just find it so hard to believe that this woman who basically lived with me and I did everything for would do this. I mean I week before she left I wrapped every single present for her sons birthday and we even wrote a joint birthday card to him. When the new guy said I looked after her son a few times big deal I was totally shocked! It was not a few times and regardless if it was once or fifty times she still left him in my care. I certainly feel sorry for him too and although he was not the most adorable child I miss him a great deal which has made it harder along with missing the lifestyle I was living such as taking him places and bonding with him. I have now blocked him on instagram and I am sure that the true colours of both parties will soon come out. It certainly is not a good start when she is already lying or twisting the truth to her husband to be! Thank you for your reply
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