Rko28 Posted March 9, 2015 Posted March 9, 2015 Ive posted in the dating section about my age gap "relationship" with me being 13 years older than the other girl. In a nutshell, weve almost got together a few times in the past but she always ended it with fears of commitment. This time she showed a keen interest in me whilst I had a girlfriend, and made no attempt to hide the fact she wanted to be with me and have everything, she even told me she loved me. When my relationship ended with my ex (nothing to do with the age gap girl) we started hanging out, we had sex, agreed to be exclusive whilst dating. That was over a month ago and she started making noises how commitment scared her and she didnt want anythign serious. This weekend it got to the point where I needed to know where I stood, i realised I had fallen in love with this girl and am crazy for her, I told her I wanted to be 100% official with her. She didnt respond how I had hoped, but as I thought she would going off my gut feeling, she asked for space to think things over. Today she came back to me saying she wanted to leave it, she loves me but isnt in love with me and that commitment scares her, how I'll always be special to her but she cant do it. So she says all this after promising me she had changed, wanting to be with me and saying she loved me. I feel stupid I fell for her all over again and that I let myself be fooled yet again by this girl. She has some kind of hold over me that I hate, I am besotted with her and hate the thought of her being with someone else. Ive had break ups before but them girls I dont see around anymore, with her im goign to bump in to her everywhere as shes local to me, im goign to see her with other boys, there will be no escaping her. Im venting here but if anyone has any tips please help me. thank you.
badpenny Posted March 9, 2015 Posted March 9, 2015 Think of it this way: When you're 90, she will be 77. She would be your primary carer, nurse, housekeeper, and her main focus would be tending to you. I saw it happen with my mother & father, where there was an 11-year age-gap. It becomes a difficult, challenging and at times thankless task. Is that what you envision for her? You BOTH deserve people you can grow old WITH.
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