vickimonster Posted April 8, 2005 Posted April 8, 2005 Hi Guys, need some help, advice, sympathy! My boyfriend dumped me just over two months ago. I have been struggling but things have been going well for a couple of weeks in my life and I have been dealing with everything, but something really threw me just now. Just before we split up he was getting a little to close to a female friend of ours for my liking. However since then despite the fact they are very close I am pretty sure I would know if something was going on. Having said that I still find i get jealous about her friendship with him, and I feel we would have had more of a chance at dealing with the break up without her around. Today I was talking to another girlie friend. I asked if among others this girl was coming to the pub. Now the friend I was talking to obviously said to this girl in passing I had asked. Next thing I get a tt from this girl saying no I won't be at the pub, she is going to see my ex. Why on earth does she think it is a good idea to tell me this. More importantly how do I deal with it. I don't want to know if I can help it that she is going over there. On the one hand if I am likely to find out anyway I would rather be told, but this is just rubbing it in my face. Thing is if I say to her can you stop txting me with things like that, it will get back to my ex and he will think I am being childish. God this is so frustrating!!!
Fallen_Angel Posted April 8, 2005 Posted April 8, 2005 Oh wow. I can guarantee I'd be very frustrated myself if I were in your shoes. What kind of "friend" of yours would be close with your ex? She doesn't sound like much of a friend to me. Ugh. This is why I don't like girls. I totally agree that you don't want to come off as childish, but knowing she's spending time with your ex will definitely irritate you. Maybe you should cut your ties with this so-called friend. Evade her calls, delete any text messages, etc. If she's a mutual friend, she should understand being friends with you and your ex is an awkward situation. Other than this, though, I'm glad to hear things are going well for you.
Author vickimonster Posted April 9, 2005 Author Posted April 9, 2005 thanks fallen_angel. I appreciate your advice. I think you are right, she isn't really my friend and it is time I let go of both of them. Easier said than done, but I will try!
Lonestar Posted April 9, 2005 Posted April 9, 2005 Originally posted by vickimonster Hi Guys, need some help, advice, sympathy! My boyfriend dumped me just over two months ago. I have been struggling but things have been going well for a couple of weeks in my life and I have been dealing with everything, but something really threw me just now. Just before we split up he was getting a little to close to a female friend of ours for my liking. However since then despite the fact they are very close I am pretty sure I would know if something was going on. Having said that I still find i get jealous about her friendship with him, and I feel we would have had more of a chance at dealing with the break up without her around. Today I was talking to another girlie friend. I asked if among others this girl was coming to the pub. Now the friend I was talking to obviously said to this girl in passing I had asked. Next thing I get a tt from this girl saying no I won't be at the pub, she is going to see my ex. Why on earth does she think it is a good idea to tell me this. More importantly how do I deal with it. I don't want to know if I can help it that she is going over there. On the one hand if I am likely to find out anyway I would rather be told, but this is just rubbing it in my face. Thing is if I say to her can you stop txting me with things like that, it will get back to my ex and he will think I am being childish. God this is so frustrating!!! I had an old friend of mine pull this friendship sh*t with my ex-husband. The next thing I hear is they're doing things together with our child and hers, but supposedly nothing was going on. It made me want to rip them both into a million pieces b/c it showed no respect for my feelings. One of the reasons my ex and I can't get along is because of this bullsh*t, and my personal feeling about that c*nt is that she's getting in the way of a child's parents getting along b/c she thinks she has a right to hang with whoever she wants to. Of course his actions aren't exactly dismissed either. I hope they both get run over by a train, bulldozer, or something else the next time they're hanging out as "friends" - as long as the kids aren't around that is. So that's how I feel about that!
Author vickimonster Posted April 11, 2005 Author Posted April 11, 2005 I am so glad I am not the only one who thinks they way they are being is wrong! Thanks
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