Bobbi7 Posted March 9, 2015 Share Posted March 9, 2015 I think I may have encountered these types of guys on OLD. There has been at least 3 that I can remember. On their profiles they seem very educated, always put they are looking for love, is a true gentlemen, then when I meet them, they are pushy as hell, demand why I don't want what they ask for, ask the nerdy types of questions and get pissy when things don't go their way, also they are serial texters-they like to text everyday, call everyday. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted March 9, 2015 Share Posted March 9, 2015 I don't know why you repeatedly seem to encounter the same type but since you do, you need to examine why. What is it about guys like this that makes you keep being drawn to them? Can you deviate from that pattern? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Buddhist Posted March 9, 2015 Share Posted March 9, 2015 The only place I've encountered men like that are on dating discussion forums like this. They typically start threads on the basis of believing in some stereotype about women, spew forth all sorts of negatives attitudes about women and......wait for it. Have little success with women. Yet somehow fail to connect the dots. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
fitnessfan365 Posted March 9, 2015 Share Posted March 9, 2015 (edited) This is exactly why you want to meet in person ASAP with minimal emailing and texting. When you don't build any expectations, you can judge someone for who they really are in person. I exchange like 2-3 emails tops. Then if I want to meet, I'll put this in my final email. "It's been fun getting to know you so far, and I'd like to meet in person. So feel free to text me your availability for this week, and I'll call you to finalize once I look over my schedule." If it was real life approaching I would ask for a woman's number. But since it's online, you have no way of knowing what her intentions or true interest level is. So I find that giving my number and letting her reach out, shows that she's genuine. Edited March 9, 2015 by fitnessfan365 Link to post Share on other sites
Assada Posted March 9, 2015 Share Posted March 9, 2015 As strange as it sounds, and as imposible as it sounds. when youre on OLD,try to cut through the BS, andlook for the person thatis the genuine 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mangina Posted March 9, 2015 Share Posted March 9, 2015 The answer here is simple. Guys like that do not get much attention from girls hardly any to be truthful so when they finally land a date for the first time since new year or whatever occasion they feel they have finally lucked out. Then they find out it is a dead end so they get upset and question why you met with them. But really why did you meet with them if they are not your type? Link to post Share on other sites
catchthedrift Posted March 9, 2015 Share Posted March 9, 2015 I don't know why you repeatedly seem to encounter the same type but since you do, you need to examine why. What is it about guys like this that makes you keep being drawn to them? Can you deviate from that pattern? This! I think you definitely have a pattern. Perhaps you should stop looking for that kind of guy and date someone out of your usual pattern? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
serial muse Posted March 9, 2015 Share Posted March 9, 2015 The answer here is simple. Guys like that do not get much attention from girls hardly any to be truthful so when they finally land a date for the first time since new year or whatever occasion they feel they have finally lucked out. Then they find out it is a dead end so they get upset and question why you met with them. But really why did you meet with them if they are not your type? I thought she was saying that they're not what they present themselves to be. So on paper they're her type - educated and "gentlemen" - but in actuality they're pushy and rude. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Starship Posted March 9, 2015 Share Posted March 9, 2015 The only place I've encountered men like that are on dating discussion forums like this. They typically start threads on the basis of believing in some stereotype about women, spew forth all sorts of negatives attitudes about women and......wait for it. Have little success with women. Yet somehow fail to connect the dots. So true. I also wonder about the inability to connect the dots....some type of passive/aggressive syndrome? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
mstie Posted March 9, 2015 Share Posted March 9, 2015 I get that too, great profile. My kinda guy, the emails go ok, I give my number and they blow up my phone. Even getting pissy if I don't respond timely. What is this? Link to post Share on other sites
catchthedrift Posted March 9, 2015 Share Posted March 9, 2015 So true. I also wonder about the inability to connect the dots....some type of passive/aggressive syndrome? Reminds me of people like Eliot Rodger. Disgusting and Sad. Link to post Share on other sites
Justanaverageguy Posted March 9, 2015 Share Posted March 9, 2015 (edited) On the plus side for us men though .... the whole tinder online dating phenomenon has made life a little easier for many of us. With a subset of guys seemingly thinking they can just send a few texts or turn up on date one buy dinner and get laid (then getting annoyed when they don't). It really has set the bar quite low for a good first date. Seriously these days you just have to act like a normal human being and they think you are prince charming Edited March 9, 2015 by Justanaverageguy 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted March 9, 2015 Share Posted March 9, 2015 On the plus side for us men though .... the whole tinder online dating phenomenon has made life a little easier for many of us. With a subset of guys seemingly thinking they can just send a few texts or turn up on date one buy dinner and get laid (then getting annoyed when they don't). It really has set the bar quite low for a good first date. Seriously these days you just have to act like a normal human being and they think you are prince charming This is quite true in my recent experiences actually.. Lol. Link to post Share on other sites
Buddhist Posted March 9, 2015 Share Posted March 9, 2015 I get that too, great profile. My kinda guy, the emails go ok, I give my number and they blow up my phone. Even getting pissy if I don't respond timely. What is this? Sexual frustration coupled with a useless hand. Link to post Share on other sites
Buddhist Posted March 9, 2015 Share Posted March 9, 2015 So true. I also wonder about the inability to connect the dots....some type of passive/aggressive syndrome? Confirmation bias. They believe so ardently in the unfairness of life and their position as special little victim snowflakes that they actively seek out (or rather, create) situations that confirm their bias. Aka....rejection. But also believe the rejection has nothing to do with their behaviour, rather it's to do with whatever uncontrollable variable they choose to believe in this week. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Mangina Posted March 9, 2015 Share Posted March 9, 2015 I thought she was saying that they're not what they present themselves to be. So on paper they're her type - educated and "gentlemen" - but in actuality they're pushy and rude. i made a connection when she said they ask why she does not want nerdy when she asked for nerdy I got the impression that is what they said after she rejected them. judging by what i have seen these guys play nice until they get rejected then they say stuff like that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bobbi7 Posted March 13, 2015 Author Share Posted March 13, 2015 Everything seems nice on paper- in their profile- they write how educated, how gentlemen like, how they treat women the right way, how they would give the right attention to the right girl. On the phone they sound chill, tell every girl what they want to hear, etc etc. One time I told the guy that I was busy and couldn't go out. Well, then he got angry and said,"busy with what? You don't have kids and you are single." I'm like wth? If someone tells me that their busy, I leave it at that. Who demands to know what they are busy with when they haven't even met yet? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Daisy-oliviaWentcher Posted March 13, 2015 Share Posted March 13, 2015 I've encountered the same. Yes, guys who often get pissy, use to rejection, nerdy can equal pushy, demanding and controlling. I was dating someone for about four months. I was basically dating him because he liked me and I liked being liked. Didn't realize that at the time but hindsight is a wonderful thing. He loved the fact that I hadn't been in many relationships because his ex cheated on him and he never fully recovered. He would call at inappropriate times like in the middle of university lectures even when I told him not to. Wouldn't let me go home even when i was feeling sick, turn up at my house uninvited or get pissy if i had to cancel last minute if their was an assignment I had to do. He had some sort of ambandonment issues and was very controlling and over bearing. The guy I dated after him was the same except he use to physcoanalyze me. Condescend me because of my qualification, condescend me because I was " less experienced than he was and was single for longer " even though he was single for ages. He also wanted to plan another date before we had even sat down for our date to eat. He was boring as hell. But thought he was awsome and thought that he knew much better and much more. These guys think they're smarter because they are educated and therefore educated enough to know better than the woman they date. Ordering for them, condescending them, telling their date who they are, demanding their time. Both guys I've dated told me to quit uni because i couldn't handle it. Both were nerdy,both make me so mad. Link to post Share on other sites
MGX Posted March 13, 2015 Share Posted March 13, 2015 Some nerds and geeks might seem harmless, but they could be jerks too --just like ANY sort of man. At least you give nerds and geeks a chance. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted March 13, 2015 Share Posted March 13, 2015 Everything seems nice on paper- in their profile- they write how educated, how gentlemen like, how they treat women the right way, how they would give the right attention to the right girl. On the phone they sound chill, tell every girl what they want to hear, etc etc. One time I told the guy that I was busy and couldn't go out. Well, then he got angry and said,"busy with what? You don't have kids and you are single." I'm like wth? If someone tells me that their busy, I leave it at that. Who demands to know what they are busy with when they haven't even met yet? Apparently he couldn't fathom that some people have an actual life. What that tells you is that he is not very social and you have to wonder if he's still living with his mommy. Link to post Share on other sites
road Posted March 13, 2015 Share Posted March 13, 2015 I think I may have encountered these types of guys on OLD. There has been at least 3 that I can remember. On their profiles they seem very educated, always put they are looking for love, is a true gentlemen, then when I meet them, they are pushy as hell, demand why I don't want what they ask for, ask the nerdy types of questions and get pissy when things don't go their way, also they are serial texters-they like to text everyday, call everyday. How short sighted are you? Come on you can not catch a trophy fish in non trophy waters. If a man has game, social skills, wealth, good job/income, looks, in any combination that they can get a woman to date them they would not been on line trying to get a girl friend. Just look at the men and women on the Millionaire Matchmaker. They are successful at making money. Yet you are left in disbelief for how can someone so lacking in social skills can be that successful in business. This does not have to mean that you need to date them or even like them. Though why do you deem it necessary to bad mouth them? They don't make the cut then you drop them. Last I have read that people tend to find a better quality of potential mates on the sites that are not free. That makes sense. Not successful in their career life they would be hard to be able to afford the sites that have a fee. Link to post Share on other sites
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