Davidcee Posted March 8, 2015 Posted March 8, 2015 MY gf has friends that aren't really the most good girls out there. Her friends sneak out and go out to parties and drink and all other kinds of things. i personally don't care about her friends or if she hangout with them. what i do care is how she's changing and thats what i don't want. we been together for 4 years and i fell in love with her because she was different from the rest of the other girls. thats what i love most about her. Now she's starting to sneak out and go to raves with her friends and lie to her parents about where she is going because her parents are really strict. she's also wanting to start drinking and lie after lie to her parents.. she also wants to get piercings just because her friend is getting one. She's known me longer than her friend. i just don't know what to do i don't want to make it seem like I'm pulling her away from her friends but i want the girl i fell in love with not the girl her friends are. please help!!!!
Satu Posted March 8, 2015 Posted March 8, 2015 Whats important is her right to be who she wants to be, even if it doesn't appeal to you. Her life belongs to her. 2
katiegrl Posted March 8, 2015 Posted March 8, 2015 Since she still lives with her parents, I presume she's young. As a young woman, she is growing and evolving, learning who she is and coming into her own. While I don't advocate the lying to her parents part, you need to allow her to grow into whomever she desires to be. I am 37 and I am still evolving! Reinventing myself so to speak. Fortunately my boyfriend understands me and my need for change.... and accepts me for who I am, whatever I am...at any particular point in time. I even got a tattoo last year, a star on my upper back! He's always hated tattoos on women, but hell he has accepted mine and now thinks it's really cute! So there ya go. acceptance dude...that's the secret. 2
preraph Posted March 8, 2015 Posted March 8, 2015 She's just changing and exploring. I assume you guys are in your twenties or younger. It's natural to grow apart and go explore at that age. Painful, yes, but don't blame her friends for it. Why not join them? 2
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