HD93 Posted March 8, 2015 Posted March 8, 2015 So, it's quite a short story. I matched with a girl on tinder 4 months ago, and we had messaged quite a bit up until 3 weeks ago. It began daily, and then turned into weekly messaging thing. Hadn't met her in person. So we were at a University social on Tuesday, and she recognized me. We were both under the influence of alcohol of course, but by no means out of it. Tipsy at best. She was probably in better shape than I! We chatted for a good hour, laughing and joking. Went back to hers. She specifically said that I shouldn't expect anything, which I was fine with. Original plan was for me to sleep on a blow up bed in her room, and then she decided that I could sleep in bed with her while reminding me not to expect anything. She got into bed, she instantly made a move on me and we kissed and what not. Basically we didn't have sex. I didn't want to seem too keen so I didn't message her afterwards. It had been a while since I last stayed over a girl's house since the end of my relationship (8 months ago) so I had no idea what to do. She messaged me 2 nights later, joking about stuff for a few hours. Then dropped a medical chat up line at the same time. I replied with a message, and then a medical chat up line myself. Then she didn't reply. It's been a about three days now of nothing at all. I don't know if my options/moves are painfully obvious, but what should I do next people?
Satu Posted March 8, 2015 Posted March 8, 2015 So, it's quite a short story. I matched with a girl on tinder 4 months ago, and we had messaged quite a bit up until 3 weeks ago. It began daily, and then turned into weekly messaging thing. Hadn't met her in person. So we were at a University social on Tuesday, and she recognized me. We were both under the influence of alcohol of course, but by no means out of it. Tipsy at best. She was probably in better shape than I! We chatted for a good hour, laughing and joking. Went back to hers. *She specifically said that I shouldn't expect anything, which I was fine with. Original plan was for me to sleep on a blow up bed in her room, and then she decided that I could sleep in bed with her while reminding me not to expect anything. She got into bed, she instantly made a move on me and we kissed and what not. Basically we didn't have sex. I didn't want to seem too keen so I didn't message her afterwards. It had been a while since I last stayed over a girl's house since the end of my relationship (8 months ago) so I had no idea what to do. She messaged me 2 nights later, joking about stuff for a few hours. Then dropped a medical chat up line at the same time. I replied with a message, and then a medical chat up line myself. Then she didn't reply. It's been a about three days now of nothing at all. I don't know if my options/moves are painfully obvious, but what should I do next people? *Do nothing for now. Give it a couple more days before you do anything else. Reassess the situation then.
smackie9 Posted March 8, 2015 Posted March 8, 2015 She expected you to ask her out the next day on a nice date or something. Your radio silence may have made her think you changed your mind about her....women do like to feel desired in some way, like being chased. So she messaged you, still waiting for you to compliment her, flirt with her, ask her out....I'm assuming you didn't so by this time you are looking like a dud. Girls like forwardness and confidence in a guy that isn't afraid to express his desires on a woman.......you lost her interest. Next time, either you decline and go home or you have sex with them....you do not sleep in their bed to be their cuddle b ich. It spoils their perspective of you. 1
Author HD93 Posted March 8, 2015 Author Posted March 8, 2015 *Do nothing for now. Give it a couple more days before you do anything else. Reassess the situation then. Appreciate that. Just to make sure though, when she said "Don't expect anything", she meant as in sex. Not "This is just one night ok?" I'm sure you clocked that, but yeah just thought I'd just clarify the wording of my post.
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