Shetland Posted March 8, 2015 Posted March 8, 2015 Hey Guys, I posted my story last month but here's just some background: We are both 22 and in CollegeShe broke up with me while she was studying abroadShe's going through an "identity crisis"She wants to focus on herself and finding a job she likesShe felt a relationship was too much work Honestly, its probably all BS and there's even a good chance she is seeing someone else already. I've been on NC for a little more than 2 months and I had no intention of contacting her for the rest of my life. I deleted her number and all my social media profiles, so I have no idea what's going on in her life (or any of my friends LOL) Btw, NC does help, but it is still a very slow process so don't expect feeling better after a month. Then again, that's just me. Anyways, I realized that later this month will mark 3 years since one of her best friends died in a car crash. She has been quite torn from this event and has never opened up about it except with me and a few friends. I know there are nights she spends awake crying about it. I still care for her as a person, and I would feel guilty ignoring her when I know how much pain she's going through at this time of the year. I know if this happened to any other friend, I would definitely call to see how they are doing. She's always complained how she felt that nobody really cared for what she's going through Should I text her, email, or call her? Or should I just maintain NC? Thanks guys!
Ruby65 Posted March 8, 2015 Posted March 8, 2015 No. If it makes you feel better..... put on some special music, have a glass of wine, and light a candle in remembrance to mark the day. Write her your best wishes in a note, then burn it. But no need to break NC and set yourself back in your healing. She wants this time to *focus on herself*.... so let her. 4
Satu Posted March 8, 2015 Posted March 8, 2015 Stick to NC. She's chosen not to have you in her life, so she will find another source of comfort. Do what Ruby65 suggested, its good advice.
FancyFace Posted March 8, 2015 Posted March 8, 2015 What exactly do you seek to achieve by doing that? Don't. Do. It.
HBK3317 Posted March 8, 2015 Posted March 8, 2015 Yeah sure go ahead and throw down all the hard work you did and **** you pulled through when she left you in the Gutter! It's fine really Just Go ahead and take her out on a nice dinner and give her a shoulder to mourn on... And while you're at it why not stab yourself right through your heart! I hope I made myself clear.
smellysocksuni Posted March 8, 2015 Posted March 8, 2015 Stay NC. You will gain nothing from contacting her.
sabd Posted March 9, 2015 Posted March 9, 2015 I'm going to echo everyone else's responses: maintain No Contact. I know if this happened to any other friend, I would definitely call to see how they are doing. She's not your friend. 1
ZiggyZoo Posted March 9, 2015 Posted March 9, 2015 Maintain your NC. One of the sad facts of being broken up is that you two are no longer each others' emotional support. 1
irresolute Posted March 9, 2015 Posted March 9, 2015 You're just looking for excuses to contact her. Been there. I'd recommend stop remembering about her and focus on build something meaningful in your life you can remember later
Author Shetland Posted March 10, 2015 Author Posted March 10, 2015 Haha thanks guys, I'll take the advice 1
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