blank_123 Posted March 8, 2015 Posted March 8, 2015 Hey everyone, first I think I should provide my story and I hope I get feedback. So my girl friend and I started going out with each other back in November. We were the happiest we could be. We spent every other day with each other and were inseperatble. Our relationship was going good and we never fought. The one time we got mad at each other we quickly made up. She was my first and I thought I got her pregnant back in December and thats when she told me she loved me. A week later back in Janurary she told me she doesnt feel that way anymore and I was perfectly fine. The upcoming semester was also about to start and she told me its going to be hard to find the time to spend quality together, I said it was ok and wanted to make this work, she said it wasnt fair to me ect. A week passes and she decided to call it quits. This break up didnt last long because she felt terrible and I was so good about it. At first I was against the idea, i was feeling so much pain but when the actual breakup occured I was taking it better than her. 4 days later were talking on the phone about our feelings between each other. She really missed me. So 6 days after she broke up with me we hung out one thing left to another and we started dating again. We were the happiest we could be again until last night. After we had sex, we went through the same conversation. She told me shes going to get promoted and will work more hours and spending time with each other would be hard. I knew this would lead to another breakup as it did.before. I got more into a serious conversation and she then told me what happened. During our 6 day break up she ended up sleeping with her Guy friend. She told me she had so much guilt, and realized what she really wanted and that was to be with me. Upon hearing this I was in total disbelief. I didnt react in angry way and decided to take this more proffessional. I had a serious talk with her ect. Gave her my stance on the relation ship.and she gave me hers. I told her she had to change as a person etc. I could go on about how deep our conversation went and give better more accurate details but Im making this post on my phone. So long story short, I broke up with her. I told her I wasnt mad. I know i touched her because she just looked depressed. Saying stuff like, after what i did to you, why are you so good to me. Why are you so kind. I dont deserve you and so on. I know she didnt want to break up but she knew she had to. I told her if she really wanted to change as a person and change her thought process, then Ill welcome her back. To give it time. She still has a special place in my heart but right now I see her as a friend I want to help. What are your thoughts? And please ask me.questions. ill appreciate the feedback.
HBK3317 Posted March 8, 2015 Posted March 8, 2015 Dude... Back the **** off and walk away. Believe you me Once a cheat, always a cheat. You seem like a real nice guy, you'll find someone faithful soon enough. I will go as far in saying she doesn't even deserve your friendship. How do you know she didn't find the guy attractive and broke off with you for him only to find out that he was interested only in sex or was not what she thought he was ? You can take her back the balls totally in your cout but what if she pulls this sort of stunt again? And trust me it happens... A lot! Just move on brother. 5
Ruby65 Posted March 8, 2015 Posted March 8, 2015 Agreed -- at just 4 months, she's barely your girlfriend. And how many breakups have there been? Now she's already cheating on you? She says "I don't deserve you"..... and she's RIGHT. Believe her. Move on and find someone better! 5
minimariah Posted March 8, 2015 Posted March 8, 2015 During our 6 day break up she ended up sleeping with her Guy friend. http://www.theorchidboutique.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2013/10/wewereonabreak.gif 1
Author blank_123 Posted March 8, 2015 Author Posted March 8, 2015 Dude... Back the **** off and walk away. Believe you me Once a cheat, always a cheat. You seem like a real nice guy, you'll find someone faithful soon enough. I will go as far in saying she doesn't even deserve your friendship. How do you know she didn't find the guy attractive and broke off with you for him only to find out that he was interested only in sex or was not what she thought he was ? You can take her back the balls totally in your cout but what if she pulls this sort of stunt again? And trust me it happens... A lot! Just move on brother. Trust me I'm moving on. She has no class. I know where I stand. I'm just wondering If I want to keep a sexual relationship with her. I know it might be wrong and degrade me as a person but up until I find a faithful women. Thoughts?
Ruby65 Posted March 8, 2015 Posted March 8, 2015 Trust me I'm moving on. She has no class. I know where I stand. I'm just wondering If I want to keep a sexual relationship with her. I know it might be wrong and degrade me as a person but up until I find a faithful women. Thoughts? Worst idea ever. 2
Author blank_123 Posted March 8, 2015 Author Posted March 8, 2015 Agreed -- at just 4 months, she's barely your girlfriend. And how many breakups have there been? Now she's already cheating on you? She says "I don't deserve you"..... and she's RIGHT. Believe her. Move on and find someone better! I hope so. And One break up, and I guess two now lol.
Author blank_123 Posted March 8, 2015 Author Posted March 8, 2015 Worst idea ever. Love your feedback. I appreciate it. 1
Zahara Posted March 8, 2015 Posted March 8, 2015 Trust me I'm moving on. She has no class. I know where I stand. I'm just wondering If I want to keep a sexual relationship with her. I know it might be wrong and degrade me as a person but up until I find a faithful women. Thoughts? Terrible idea. You can't just have sex with someone you are emotional about. The "sex" excuse is often used when one can't fully let go. How about you go out and date, meet new women and move on to finding someone better rather than still engaging a woman you deem classless. The sex isn't worth it. 1
Satu Posted March 8, 2015 Posted March 8, 2015 Trust me I'm moving on. *She has no class. I know where I stand. I'm just wondering If I want to keep a sexual relationship with her. I know it might be wrong and degrade me as a person but up until I find a faithful women. Thoughts? No. You deserve something much better.
HBK3317 Posted March 8, 2015 Posted March 8, 2015 Trust me I'm moving on. She has no class. I know where I stand. I'm just wondering If I want to keep a sexual relationship with her. I know it might be wrong and degrade me as a person but up until I find a faithful women. Thoughts? No you do not. Just turn on some old fashioned Pornography and Masturbate if you are having that strong off an urge! On a serious note though, Bad idea. You need to stay away. Period.
No Limit Posted March 8, 2015 Posted March 8, 2015 Trust me I'm moving on. She has no class. I know where I stand. I'm just wondering If I want to keep a sexual relationship with her. I know it might be wrong and degrade me as a person but up until I find a faithful women. Thoughts? Nope. Nope and nope. For one, what future serious girlfriend would even think about dating a guy that's been sleeping with his ex all the time? Second, if she's that active in bed sports you might catch a STD. 1
Tayla Posted March 8, 2015 Posted March 8, 2015 Trust me I'm moving on. She has no class. I know where I stand. I'm just wondering If I want to keep a sexual relationship with her. I know it might be wrong and degrade me as a person but up until I find a faithful women. Thoughts? neither of you seem to carry genuine "class", stay together and use each other. you are both too quick to go to bed with people and think nothing of the reprecussions. you are both ripe for fwb. Can you call your parents and get their feedback? I"m sure they would be more then willing to give you advisal that sets you on a mature path.
marcelo.santos Posted March 8, 2015 Posted March 8, 2015 from what I understood she slept with another guy while you had a break up - so she did nothing wrong - also she told you what happened in the end. If you think that its ok for a man to sleep with a girl during a break up but is not ok for a woman to sleep with a men during it - move on as She don't deserves you. She is a bit confused and you are having a poor quality relationship - but what she did is not wrong as she was single and she have not cheated on you.
SycamoreCircle Posted March 8, 2015 Posted March 8, 2015 You want to help her? Help her by guiding the other man's penis into her. She has no class, you say? From reading your first post I don't get that from you. That sounds like something you're saying to appease us, the angry Gods. By Zeus, the wax holding your wings together has melted and you've crashed into the sea. You are fortunate that you were able to see this Medusa for who she really is and not turn yourself to stone. Pick yourself up, pick up your phone and delete this siren's song. There are plenty other burdensome boulders to heave up the side of a mountain over and over. Let this be a lesson to you about boundaries. Begin to define boundaries for yourself.
SawtoothMars Posted March 8, 2015 Posted March 8, 2015 I hope so. And One break up, and I guess two now lol. Meh... You got played. Is it OK to sleep with her while looking for some one better? Sure. In fact it can make you MORE attractive to women. The problem is that you need to be able to make sure your feelings are detached. If you can do that... go for it. This girl is a sneaky trick and karma bites. from what I understood she slept with another guy while you had a break up - so she did nothing wrong - also she told you what happened in the end. She is a bit confused and you are having a poor quality relationship - but what she did is not wrong as she was single and she have not cheated on you. Holy crap... are you the most naive person ever? I'm going to let you in on a little secret. IF a woman dumps you and then bangs another guy within... Oh I don't know... lets say 6 days... She PLANNED this from the start. You would have to be really stupid not to see this. His GF had a guy friend she was emotionally cheating with... and decided to make a play for a relationship. The guy slept with her and likely rejected the idea of a relationship. Now... OP has NOT been cheating so he hasn't found anyone new so she thinks he will take her back because so many guys are "fuc*tards" and don't realize she did this by design. I'm going to assume you know this is the scenario and just choose to ignore it.
Author blank_123 Posted March 8, 2015 Author Posted March 8, 2015 Meh... You got played. Is it OK to sleep with her while looking for some one better? Sure. In fact it can make you MORE attractive to women. The problem is that you need to be able to make sure your feelings are detached. If you can do that... go for it. This girl is a sneaky trick and karma bites. Holy crap... are you the most naive person ever? I'm going to let you in on a little secret. IF a woman dumps you and then bangs another guy within... Oh I don't know... lets say 6 days... She PLANNED this from the start. You would have to be really stupid not to see this. His GF had a guy friend she was emotionally cheating with... and decided to make a play for a relationship. The guy slept with her and likely rejected the idea of a relationship. Now... OP has NOT been cheating so he hasn't found anyone new so she thinks he will take her back because so many guys are "fuc*tards" and don't realize she did this by design. I'm going to assume you know this is the scenario and just choose to ignore it. To be honest before we started going out she told me straight forward how she was as a person and her commitment issues she's had with her previous ex's. I knew from the start she had commitment issues. She really liked me emotionally, so I saw past who she use to be as a person. But her old habits caught up to her and she became the person she was trying to avoid. I know she didn't have the intention to hook up with the guy, but it was rather a "Lets have a **** night for old time sakes like we use to years back." She still has a place in my heart but as far as me being emotionally attatched, head over heels for her, that feeling is gone. Maybe I'm an idiot, or just nice. But I still want to help her change as a person because I don't want her to feel regret or feel like a ****ty person, or repeat the same mistakes, even if I know we will probably never try us again. And if I start wanting nothing but a sexual relation with her, I know I won't be helping her at all and she probably will never change, and I'll be the guy she's cheating with if she chooses to begin another relationship.
HBK3317 Posted March 8, 2015 Posted March 8, 2015 from what I understood she slept with another guy while you had a break up - so she did nothing wrong - also she told you what happened in the end. If you think that its ok for a man to sleep with a girl during a break up but is not ok for a woman to sleep with a men during it - move on as She don't deserves you. She is a bit confused and you are having a poor quality relationship - but what she did is not wrong as she was single and she have not cheated on you. I am sorry in advance but I just have to ask... Are you related to the girl in question in some way? I mean your defense is just way off the charts! Oh and by the way it was six days not months that the break up lasted. So unless you are a very politically correct nobleman I guess for the lesser beings it would be somewhere around the lines of cheating if not it itself. Enough said.
sabd Posted March 9, 2015 Posted March 9, 2015 Wait. You want to keep her as a friend and still sleep with her? Why? That's going to be very unattractive to any girls that might be interested in you. And she's off sleeping with another guy after 6 days? That's just about cheating. Just leave it. Seriously. This is messed up.
marcelo.santos Posted March 9, 2015 Posted March 9, 2015 Holy crap... are you the most naive person ever? lol, is just funny how you deal with someone who have a different opinion from you - your mind, your world. IF a woman dumps you and then bangs another guy within... Oh I don't know... lets say 6 days... She PLANNED this from the start. You would have to be really stupid not to see this. maybe: in some cases she had planned it - in other cases it just happened - both situations are possible: in both situations she have not cheated on him and my opinion is not a case that he should just give up from she and not analysing other points from what is going on: For example he could check in deep if he did something wrong that lead to this - its just my opinion, you do not need to be so disappointed that someone has a opinion different from you - it happens. Try to work this with yourself instead of attacking who have a different opinion from you calling he "most naive person ever?" and maybe you will be a better person in the future. I am sorry in advance but I just have to ask... Are you related to the girl in question in some way? I mean your defense is just way off the charts! Oh and by the way it was six days not months that the break up lasted. So unless you are a very politically correct nobleman I guess for the lesser beings it would be somewhere around the lines of cheating if not it itself. Enough said. No! I'm not related with this girl - I just have a different opinion from you!! It happens! (look the other post) Ok - its ok for we men to have sex with a girl after 6 days - but if she have sex she deserves the hell - its funny how you say "around the lines of cheating" - this is not a cheating - she was a single girl, so she was not cheating - if you dont accept this in any circumstances good for you - there is nothing wrong with you.
HBK3317 Posted March 9, 2015 Posted March 9, 2015 Ok - its ok for we men to have sex with a girl after 6 days - but if she have sex she deserves the hell - its funny how you say "around the lines of cheating" - this is not a cheating - she was a single girl, so she was not cheating - if you dont accept this in any circumstances good for you - there is nothing wrong with you. No one said that it was Okay for a guy to do so! It's wrong both ways. Well that's just me so lets just agree to disagree.
mightycpa Posted March 9, 2015 Posted March 9, 2015 I see her as a friend I want to help. What are your thoughts?Help with what, exactly? Your main complaint seems to be that she has not given herself to you exclusively. She doesn't seem to be willing, either. Is that what you want to "fix"?
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