rov Posted March 8, 2015 Posted March 8, 2015 Yesterday I had a first date with a girl from my university, we went for coffee and spent 4 hours together. The conversation flowed smoothly and we talked about our lives, our likes, our families, music, sports, everything. At the end of the date I told her that we could see each other this next week and I told her when she was free and she told me that any day of the week except wednesday or thursday. So I told her that if she would like to go to a concert with me on tuesday and she told me she would get in contact with me because she was not sure if she had a concert that day. I was thinking in not texting her after a few days but I stopped playing games and texted a few hours later saying I had a great time and that I hop that she could come with me on tuesday and if she can't that we can see each other on the weekend. And she replies: Yeah, I ll tell you if I can go to the concert with you on tuesday, if my work schedule doesn't change I can't see you on the weekend. What confuses me is that she spent 4 hours with me and i thought we had a good time, then at the end of the date I told her when she was free to see each other again and she told me any day except wednesday or thursday and then when I set up a date for the concert on tuesday she acts kind of flakey saying she will get back in touch with me because she has a concert and she wasn't sure if it was on tuesday or wednesday and when I texted her saying I had a good time and that if she can't come on tuesday we could see each other on the weekend, when she replied she didn't mentioned anything about having a good time, she just said that she would get in touch to tell me if she can go on tuesday and that on the weekend she could not see me if her work schedule doesn't change when in the first place she told me she was free all days except wednesday and thursday. What should I do now, any tips?. thanks!!
d0nnivain Posted March 9, 2015 Posted March 9, 2015 Sadly you can't do much. Her lack of enthusiasm is her not having the backbone to outright tell you that she's not interested. I am pretty direct so I might reach out once more on Monday to see if she is free for the concert on Tuesday but if you don't get an enthusiastic response, assume she is not interested & move on. 2
Gary S Posted March 9, 2015 Posted March 9, 2015 She's not interested, or she would know or would have checked her schedule. Time to date other girls. Just because she seemed to have a good time on the date means nothing... women can be academy award winning actresses. Not accepting another date tells the real story. Talk is cheap but actions scream. But some advice for next time... don't make a date while you are on a date. You are too easy. Playing hard to get doubles love level.
Assada Posted March 9, 2015 Posted March 9, 2015 She could be GeTTING interested. She may not know if she likes you yet. if you keep putting needy pressure on her, she'll KNOW that she doesnt like you. So you can either be like Fonzy and play it cool, or you can hound her like an annoying puppydog
Author rov Posted March 9, 2015 Author Posted March 9, 2015 She's not interested, or she would know or would have checked her schedule. Time to date other girls. Just because she seemed to have a good time on the date means nothing... women can be academy award winning actresses. Not accepting another date tells the real story. Talk is cheap but actions scream. But some advice for next time... don't make a date while you are on a date. You are too easy. Playing hard to get doubles love level. Yes you are right, I have been on dates with girls that lasted 3 or more hours and some of them i never saw them again or told they were not interested. So how should I play it here?. If she doesn't contact me till tomorrow would you wait a week and ask her out again or it is just a waste of time?. In the case she contacts me and tells me that she is not available on tuesday would it be a good idea if i tell her if she is free on another day of the week or that will look very needy?
catchthedrift Posted March 9, 2015 Posted March 9, 2015 She seems busy, and confident enough to tell you if she wouldn't want to see you again, so don't overthink it and just wait and see. What concerns me more is this: What confuses me is that she spent 4 hours with me and i thought we had a good time, then at the end of the date I told her when she was free to see each other again and she told me any day except wednesday or thursday and then when I set up a date for the concert on tuesday she acts kind of flakey saying she will get back in touch with me because she has a concert and she wasn't sure if it was on tuesday or wednesday and when I texted her saying I had a good time and that if she can't come on tuesday we could see each other on the weekend, when she replied she didn't mentioned anything about having a good time, she just said that she would get in touch to tell me if she can go on tuesday and that on the weekend she could not see me if her work schedule doesn't change when in the first place she told me she was free all days except wednesday and thursday. What should I do now, any tips?. thanks!! This is one sentence. Did anybody ever tell you about punctuation marks? Haha. 1
Gary S Posted March 9, 2015 Posted March 9, 2015 Yes you are right, I have been on dates with girls that lasted 3 or more hours and some of them i never saw them again or told they were not interested. So how should I play it here?. If she doesn't contact me till tomorrow would you wait a week and ask her out again or it is just a waste of time?. In the case she contacts me and tells me that she is not available on tuesday would it be a good idea if i tell her if she is free on another day of the week or that will look very needy? - Well, she said she would get in touch with you, correct? That means you have to wait for her to get in touch with you. Unfortunately I think she's giving you the blow-off and you won't hear from her again. Time will tell. Don't worry about it.. there are very few second dates, but you only need to find one good girl... talk to some others.
catchthedrift Posted March 9, 2015 Posted March 9, 2015 - Well, she said she would get in touch with you, correct? That means you have to wait for her to get in touch with you. Unfortunately I think she's giving you the blow-off and you won't hear from her again. Time will tell. Don't worry about it.. there are very few second dates, but you only need to find one good girl... talk to some others. Exactly, give it time. If she is into you, she will contact you again. Dont contact her until then.
stillafool Posted March 9, 2015 Posted March 9, 2015 This is just another reason why I think phone conversations are best. I think you can tell so much more about their interest by the tone of their voice.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted March 9, 2015 Posted March 9, 2015 Unless you had an AMAZING first date with a kiss and everything, I would shy away from setting up plans right that moment. Just tell her you had a really good time, give her a hug good night and then wait a day and ask her if she wants to get together again sometime. Gotta play it coy You can text her after you get home and say something like "Hey I had a fun time tonight, let me know you got home safely? "
Author rov Posted March 10, 2015 Author Posted March 10, 2015 Guess what, she never contacted me to confirm if she will come to the concert tomorrow. So I guess she has no interest
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