chelseamoon Posted March 8, 2015 Posted March 8, 2015 Hi all. Im a 29 yr old bi girl. My gf of 2 yrs who lives with, broke up with 3 mts ago. She said she didnt fancy me anymore. So after some time i decided rather be friends than nothing. Finally we are gettin on better. We went out the other day for first time for drink, all was great but stupid me i made a pass & she pulled away. The next day i asked her why, she explained she doesn't want be a couple, she needs to live each day & be single to see what she wants. I asked if she sees us ever working on us again in future but she didnt give me straight answer, just that she loves me but doesnt want anymore right now. She say yes theres times she misses me and wants kiss me but tells herself no. I also find her checking me out or that look. I dunno whats she doing to me she knows i miss her and tells me she'd be jealous if i was with someone but accepts if i do as she broke us up Shes screwing my head up. I dont understand what she wants, she says were still a fam and wants to still do stuff (as we both have children from prev rel who are close) It sucks.I can't be all sad as it effects my mood with my child or been a ***** it's not me. SO PLS HOW DO I BEHAVE AROUND HER SINCE WE HAVE TO LIVE TOGETHER. help
badpenny Posted March 8, 2015 Posted March 8, 2015 You act like room-mates. You close off all unnecessary contact. You go your own way, make your own social arrangements, go out with other people - and you move out as soon as you can. You may live under the same roof, but that does not denote any commitment or obligation. Like a bunch of separate students who happen to share the same house, but different rooms, you should behave in such a way as to establish an emotional separation. And yes, find somewhere else to live.
deathandtaxes Posted March 8, 2015 Posted March 8, 2015 You definitely don't need to be living together. That's the solution. The end of the relationship should have included one of you making new living arrangements.
preraph Posted March 8, 2015 Posted March 8, 2015 You shouldn't keep living with her. That business about still a fam sounds to me like she wants you for a babysitter. This isn't good for you. You need to move out and move on so you can find a new relationship. 1
Gary S Posted March 8, 2015 Posted March 8, 2015 There is a saying.... don't poop where you eat. Start dating.... nothing can take your mind off the old flame like a new one can.
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