Ara-bella Posted March 8, 2015 Posted March 8, 2015 After ending a bad relationship, I got involved with a guy. We first met over Playstation (but we live in the same city haha), talked a LOT, were friends while we both had a relationship, and are now single. We've talked for months before actually meeting for the first time today. I was nervous because I didn't know if he'd find me attractive or not so I waited for him to text me afterward and surely he did, saying I was really gorgeous etc. I'm not sure if he's the player type, but he seems like a really nice guy. Who knows if he's talking to other girls as well though. What I'm worried about is, we've had sexual conversations before and he seemed more interested in that. While that's cool and all, I'm interested in a relationship moreso I guess. I'm just waiting for us to hang out next.. but any tips on how to act? My friends say to play hard to get (don't reply right away) I don't want to screw up a potential relationship.. but I don't know if he's even interested in that.. any tips?!
SawtoothMars Posted March 8, 2015 Posted March 8, 2015 I'm just waiting for us to hang out next.. but any tips on how to act? My friends say to play hard to get (don't reply right away) I don't want to screw up a potential relationship.. but I don't know if he's even interested in that.. any tips?! Flirt like it's your last day to live! Don't do anything sexual. Beyond that there are no games you need to play... like waiting to reply.
fitnessfan365 Posted March 8, 2015 Posted March 8, 2015 People connect in the strangest ways. If it works out, that's awesome. Just be sure to base as much as possible on real interaction, phone conversations, etc.. Stray away from online chatting and texting. As we all know, the written word version of someone, can vastly differ from the in person version. I actually became really great friends with a woman from Krytonsite back when Smallville was on. When we learned we were in the same city, we exchanged email addresses. She sent a few pics and I wasn't attracted to her at all. But since she knew I was into fitness, she would ask for advice and eventually turned into a sexy hot swan. So once my physical attraction and emotional attraction matched up, I asked her out. The honeymoon phase was amazing between us. But once I got to know the real her, it was a complete 180 from the written version. So that's why I feel so strongly about phone calls and meeting ASAP, as opposed to endless emails and texts.
DoesntGetIt Posted March 8, 2015 Posted March 8, 2015 Your friends are what make dating annoying. Playing hard to get serves no purpose. If you're concerned he might just want sex, don't have sex and don't have sexual conversations. If his level of interest stays strong, then it would seem he wants more than sex.
Perrier Posted March 8, 2015 Posted March 8, 2015 As already stated, don't have sexual conversations early on/before meeting unless a sexual relationship is what you want. Once a guy turns the convo sexual I steer it in a different direction. If he doesn't get the message, I'm off.
GTR King Posted March 8, 2015 Posted March 8, 2015 Id say tell him up front that you want see him again... Best to phone him or chat to him via party chat (On PS3/PS4). Don't play hard to get guys get annoyed when girls do that. If he likes you he will accept your invitation for another date. if keeps having sexual conversations with you then tell him your not just into for sex. if he likes you he will accept that...
Zahara Posted March 8, 2015 Posted March 8, 2015 (edited) I'm confused, Arabella. Only weeks ago you were struggling with the ending between you and your ex but you've been talking to this guy for months? Honestly, I don't think emotionally and mentally you're in a good place to get entangled with another guy. You made some really bad choices and even before you've resolved your recent hurts or found some peace and self-reflection on the destruction you recently went through, you're already on another guy. Why can't you just be alone for awhile? Nurse your wounds. Find some emotional stability. Invest some time in yourself. Reflect on why you did what you did with the ex. It doesn't bode well when one needs to find a man to fill that void and that's what you're doing. "What I'm worried about is, we've had sexual conversations before and he seemed more interested in that." Giant red flag. You make bad decisions when your head is muddled. I only see you jumping from frying pan into fire. Edited March 8, 2015 by Zahara
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