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Mangina Established Member

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Let's say there is a guy you encounter when you take your pet to the vet clinic. Or a guy who goes to the grocery store you work at. Assuming you could possibly date him, are you comfortable with him asking for your number the first time or would you be more comfortable after the second or third time you see him?

 

If it does not matter please say so.

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It doesn't matter. Either way shows interests.

d0nnivain Established Member

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I'm a grown woman not a girl but . . .

 

 

I need to have at least laid eyes on somebody a few times or be introduced by a mutual friend before I'm comfortable giving out a #. That said, I'll give my business card to anybody.

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I'm a grown woman not a girl but . . .

 

 

I need to have at least laid eyes on somebody a few times or be introduced by a mutual friend before I'm comfortable giving out a #. That said, I'll give my business card to anybody.

 

So you would be okay with him call your work phone?

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I have a block on my phone so its hard to get hold of me anyway :)

 

If you have seen her a few times and chatted why not give her your number?

 

I think it depends entirely on comfort levels. If she is relaxed and comfortable around you go for it. If not don't.

 

If I had been chatting to a chap and it was comfortable I would have no problems giving him my number. If it was awkward then no I would not give out my number.

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So you would be okay with him call your work phone?

 

 

I own the company. . . so yeah. If it was more formal, like I worked for a corporation, maybe not.

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I have a block on my phone so its hard to get hold of me anyway :)

 

If you have seen her a few times and chatted why not give her your number?

 

I think it depends entirely on comfort levels. If she is relaxed and comfortable around you go for it. If not don't.

 

If I had been chatting to a chap and it was comfortable I would have no problems giving him my number. If it was awkward then no I would not give out my number.

 

So it is not an issue for you whether he asks for number during your first encounter?

 

I ask this because I want to ask the first time I see them but I am not sure if she is comfortable with that or if she would be more comfortable during the second encounter. At the same time I am thinking what if I do not see her again.

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Since you met at the vet clinic, did you play with her animal? I was always more open to people who liked my dog.

 

My vet is also small so they know everything about everybody. If a guy asked for my # in that context I might give it to him, if the vet staff had called him or his animal by name & I was reasonably certain I could pump a vet tech or the vet for info about you. In that context, although it's not a formal introduction, at least there was somebody else involved that knew both of us.

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So it is not an issue for you whether he asks for number during your first encounter?

 

I ask this because I want to ask the first time I see them but I am not sure if she is comfortable with that or if she would be more comfortable during the second encounter. At the same time I am thinking what if I do not see her again.

 

After I meet a chap for the first time if he is relaxed, happy in his own skin, interesting, fun and I get on with him. I have no problem at all.

 

If he is stressed in any way, in anyway aggressive or comes across as "desperate" or likely in any way to hassle me then no he would not get my number.

 

The key is all about being relaxed and happy in yourself and not being worried if you do actually get her number or not. I know that sounds back to front but if you expect nothing and its just a hey "lets keep in touch or go and do something" then 99% of the time you will get the number. If you are stressed or worried in any way they will pick up on that and it will possibly translate into them being cautious and not giving you their number.

 

As Donnivain said everyone knows everyone at the local vets. Its a relaxed place to pass on a number. Perhaps if you are worried give her yours and just ask her to ring you if she wants to catch a film or something. Keep it relaxed and not expecting anything.

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After I meet a chap for the first time if he is relaxed, happy in his own skin, interesting, fun and I get on with him. I have no problem at all.

 

If he is stressed in any way, in anyway aggressive or comes across as "desperate" or likely in any way to hassle me then no he would not get my number.

 

The key is all about being relaxed and happy in yourself and not being worried if you do actually get her number or not. I know that sounds back to front but if you expect nothing and its just a hey "lets keep in touch or go and do something" then 99% of the time you will get the number. If you are stressed or worried in any way they will pick up on that and it will possibly translate into them being cautious and not giving you their number.

 

As Donnivain said everyone knows everyone at the local vets. Its a relaxed place to pass on a number. Perhaps if you are worried give her yours and just ask her to ring you if she wants to catch a film or something. Keep it relaxed and not expecting anything.

 

Thank you toodaloo. I do not get very nervous anymore after of years trying I have kind of gotten use to being told they have a boy friend or flat out rejected. I always felt like maybe second or third time they would be more comfortable I am not what most girls would call handsome I am one of those guys you either have to get to know to be attracted to or you like me as just a friend. I am considering not waiting for a second time see.

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Thank you toodaloo. I do not get very nervous anymore after of years trying I have kind of gotten use to being told they have a boy friend or flat out rejected. I always felt like maybe second or third time they would be more comfortable I am not what most girls would call handsome I am one of those guys you either have to get to know to be attracted to or you like me as just a friend. I am considering not waiting for a second time see.

 

Agh well you see it really doesn't matter how good looking you are. What matters is if you come across as a good guy, who doesn't any bull, but equally isn't going to produce any bull either!!!

 

Even the great looking guys and the ones with all the confidence in the world get turned down. Women also get turned down all the time too!!!

 

So the attitude to go in with is that you are just nattering, nothing special, just meeting people to see if you get along. Thats it. Nothing more.

 

Just relax and be comfortable in your skin. If you get turned down well that sucks but its not the end of the world... if you don't try you wouldn't get anywhere anyway! :)

 

Another way to do it is to give them your number and ask them to ring you instead.

 

Good luck!

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