ukitake Posted March 8, 2015 Posted March 8, 2015 Hi everyone! So recently, i went out with another classmate for date, as she was my classmate, i've known her for a few years. I've found out that i have some infatuation for her. We have texted each other everyday for a month and I've confessed to her. I've got rejected cos she says its sudden and she liked me as a friend only. So there's some questions i would like to asked for opinions: 1) Should I try and chase her again? If so how? 2) Should I ask what is the reason for her rejecting me? 3) Should I just treat her as a friend and move on? Personally, i would like to chase her again cos i really like her and think that shes a keeper and worth it but i am afraid i will come in too aggressively and annoy her which in turn i might lose her as a friend. I have already broken one of golden rule : Never date any circle of your friends. So if i really chase her and still fails, it would really get awkward and both of us are in the same clique so i don't really want that to happen. Moreover, after her rejection, everything was cool and it was not awkward at all. Any advices or opinions are welcomed. Stories to share are even better. Thanks!
preraph Posted March 8, 2015 Posted March 8, 2015 No, don't keep chasing her or trying to hang around because she's told you she's not interested in you that way. It's very unlikely that that will change. She already knows you very well, so if she was going to feel romantic, she already would. Sorry. I know it sucks. Happens to everyone. Best to just completely move on.
Buddhist Posted March 8, 2015 Posted March 8, 2015 Don't bother. She has already told you she's not sexually attracted to you. That's what I see you as a friend, means. If you persist you will only get yourself blocked on all social media, and never hang out with you ever again. Although if you are unable to control your feelings this might just be the best thing for you. Why ask? Its only going to hurt your feelings no matter what the answer is. The answer is.....I'm not into you.
Author ukitake Posted March 8, 2015 Author Posted March 8, 2015 No, don't keep chasing her or trying to hang around because she's told you she's not interested in you that way. It's very unlikely that that will change. She already knows you very well, so if she was going to feel romantic, she already would. Sorry. I know it sucks. Happens to everyone. Best to just completely move on. But guys i really think she has some feelings for me. It's maybe just because of other reasons like she isn't ready for it? The best relationship works out from being good friends and i really felt shes worth a second try. Should i really try again?
Author ukitake Posted March 8, 2015 Author Posted March 8, 2015 Don't bother. She has already told you she's not sexually attracted to you. That's what I see you as a friend, means. If you persist you will only get yourself blocked on all social media, and never hang out with you ever again. Although if you are unable to control your feelings this might just be the best thing for you. Why ask? Its only going to hurt your feelings no matter what the answer is. The answer is.....I'm not into you. But guys i really think she has some feelings for me. I mean who would bother to text u EVERYDAY even though we are friends and also tease each other over text. It's maybe just because of other reasons like she isn't ready for it? The best relationship works out from being good friends and i really felt shes worth a second try. Should i really try again?
Buddhist Posted March 8, 2015 Posted March 8, 2015 But guys i really think she has some feelings for me. I mean who would bother to text u EVERYDAY even though we are friends and also tease each other over text. It's maybe just because of other reasons like she isn't ready for it? The best relationship works out from being good friends and i really felt shes worth a second try. Should i really try again? Girls text each other every day and joke about. You are her girl friend...
DoesntGetIt Posted March 8, 2015 Posted March 8, 2015 I have a female friend who I text all the time, doesn't mean either of us want anything. You can't take communication as interest. She said no, and that you're a friend, there's nothing else to do here but decide if you can handle just being friends or not. It not, tell her that and move on with your life. Honestly, you should be happy that you had the good sense to let her know how you felt and she had the courtesy to be upfront and honest with you. You no longer have to wonder, just have to accept the answer.
Author ukitake Posted March 8, 2015 Author Posted March 8, 2015 Has anyone tried to court or chase the girl again after failed confession? Cos shes really like the perfect kind of character girl for me and is definitely a keeper, thats why i felt it was worth it to try again even if our friendship is on stake.
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