kissmybooty Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 I've been talking to this guy we met finally a few days ago had a good time together . He promised me he will help me with something that I am struggling with which he has all sorted out. He said he cannot wait for the universe to bring us all the way together and that we would learn so much from each other, enhance each other. When I returned home we continued talking on the phone. But he asked me a weird question. Now a little background about Us: we are both recent graduate doctors and we've obviously learnt that vaginal delivery of a baby has some side effects that are undesired. But anyway, he asked me the question last night when we were talking whether I would rather have a vaginal delivery or a c section? Then added, I'd rather have the woman have a c section because (explaining the medical reason). Does this mean he's seeing us so far that he wants to have a baby already? I am so stupid when it comes to dating because I've spent years in my room studying and Never dated when I was busy etc. so try not to be too harsh just answer the relevant question please.
TigerCub Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 No necessarily - it could just mean I want a woman with a tight cootch! ** No offense to any woman that gave birth vaginally - I'm just assuming because OP was talking about the undesirable effects of vaginal birth**
Author kissmybooty Posted March 7, 2015 Author Posted March 7, 2015 Just to make it clear : when he asked, I said vaginal. His reply: I'd rather have my lady have a c section because (medical reason)
Author kissmybooty Posted March 7, 2015 Author Posted March 7, 2015 No necessarily - it could just mean I want a woman with a tight cootch! ** No offense to any woman that gave birth vaginally - I'm just assuming because OP was talking about the undesirable effects of vaginal birth** Lol well I've never been pregnant and I am not currently either. He already know that but his question was implying in the future what would be my choice,making me think that he is considering something serious with me to enquire that far in the future. I'm just curious whether he's serious or trying to play me (bad experience in the past)
TigerCub Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 Lol well I've never been pregnant and I am not currently either. He already know that but his question was implying in the future what would be my choice,making me think that he is considering something serious with me to enquire that far in the future. I'm just curious whether he's serious or trying to play me (bad experience in the past) It really doesn't mean anything IMO. You guys are talking about a certain topic, he just wanted to see what your personal opinion on it is. That's how I would read it.
Author kissmybooty Posted March 7, 2015 Author Posted March 7, 2015 Great,FML. I guess I'll never find love. I was really hoping too since I like him and vice versa. But I've always met the wrong guys who have hurt me after I gave everything to be relationship. Loner for life, I guess
TigerCub Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 Great,FML. I guess I'll never find love. I was really hoping too since I like him and vice versa. But I've always met the wrong guys who have hurt me after I gave everything to be relationship. Loner for life, I guess Just because that 1 specific question doesn't necessarily mean that he's asking for the long term doesn't mean that he doesn't like you - I know nothing about this guy and what you 2 might have - I was just answering the question. Why do you think that just because his 1 question doesn't have a hidden meaning that that means you're gonna be alone forever? 1
Buddhist Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 But anyway, he asked me the question last night when we were talking whether I would rather have a vaginal delivery or a c section? Then added, I'd rather have the woman have a c section because (explaining the medical reason). Does this mean he's seeing us so far that he wants to have a baby already? No. It means he's a selfish arse and is only thinking about how such an event would affect him and his sexual enjoyment of your vagina after having a child. He obviously wants you to have a C section so that your vagina doesn't get stretched. I would stop talking to this guy immediately, he's all kinds of time waste. One of the reasons why women just don't want to date or have anything to do with men these days.
1040 Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 I think women in general spend way too much time trying to analyze hidden meanings in what men say. We really are not that complicated, certainly much less than you are.
Buddhist Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 I think women in general spend way too much time trying to analyze hidden meanings in what men say. I agree with this. It's been my experience that many men are in fact silly enough to just spit out their internal mess and women habitually gloss it over, telling themselves it didn't mean anything. Only to find out later that he was in fact telling her outright about his broken aspects and she should have stopped talking to him at that point. Now, when I hear crap like this coming out of the mouth of a man I believe it, at face value and run. 1
katiegrl Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 (edited) Lol well I've never been pregnant and I am not currently either. He already know that but his question was implying in the future what would be my choice,making me think that he is considering something serious with me to enquire that far in the future. I'm just curious whether he's serious or trying to play me (bad experience in the past) Sweetie, it's way too soon for him to be considering something serious with you...so please don't give that a second thought. He probably asked thinking if, down the road, you "were" to become serious, marriage, children, he would prefer his wife have a c-section, for the obvious reasons. And wanted to get your thoughts on that in case you DO turn out to be that woman he ends up marrying.. So no he is not considering something serious with you now, but later on, if it works out, it's a possibility... Edited March 7, 2015 by katiegrl
Dallers Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 (edited) Lots of different opinions here. But there is one thing everyone is missing. It does not matter what the question is but what he is confirming about himself. He is a selfish. He only cares about his own enjoyment and pleasure and not about well-being or suffering of a women he is suppose to love while she is delivering his child. This is what man has become. Personally he deserves a slap but everyone to their own. Edited March 7, 2015 by Dallers
d0nnivain Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 I've been talking to this guy we met finally a few days ago had a good time together . He promised me he will help me with something that I am struggling with which he has all sorted out. He said he cannot wait for the universe to bring us all the way together and that we would learn so much from each other, enhance each other. That sounds very touchy feely new aged & like malarkey especially coming from people who are both "recent graduate doctors". Based on that odd syntax, I am also guess you are not a native English speaker. It's not a crack against you but I am trying to understand your Q. I do not know any doctors (& I know a LOT of doctors, socially & professionally) who advocate a C section except when absolutely necessary. The act of pushing the baby through the birth canal is what triggers the baby's biological understanding that it has to breathe & eat; C-section babies are often blue because it's more of a tough transition to know they have been born & are independent of the placenta. Based on that your Q seems off. Anyway to your specific Q assuming you are both recent med school graduates I would conclude that his Q to you about your birth preference was born of intellectual curiosity & not a desire to procreate with you now or in the immediate future
Author kissmybooty Posted March 7, 2015 Author Posted March 7, 2015 Isn't it like a woman asking a man if he has enough money to spend on her incase they were together in the future? Well after all these opinions my opinion about him has slightly altered so glad I asked the question. I'm not going to shun him but just go about with my life and not waste that much time on him or his thoughts anymore.
Author kissmybooty Posted March 7, 2015 Author Posted March 7, 2015 That sounds very touchy feely new aged & like malarkey especially coming from people who are both "recent graduate doctors". Based on that odd syntax, I am also guess you are not a native English speaker. It's not a crack against you but I am trying to understand your Q. I do not know any doctors (& I know a LOT of doctors, socially & professionally) who advocate a C section except when absolutely necessary. The act of pushing the baby through the birth canal is what triggers the baby's biological understanding that it has to breathe & eat; C-section babies are often blue because it's more of a tough transition to know they have been born & are independent of the placenta. Based on that your Q seems off. Anyway to your specific Q assuming you are both recent med school graduates I would conclude that his Q to you about your birth preference was born of intellectual curiosity & not a desire to procreate with you now or in the immediate future I am Typing on my iPhone sorry for the typos it autocorrects. I tried to edit them, but it sent me a message that I couldn't. Well we were taking about the pelvic diaphragm becoming lose and thus a lose vagina which of course I did not want to state directly because subconsciously that just did not sound like I'm talking to the right guy. Ugh. Why me why do I meet the worst guys ?
katiegrl Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 Lots of different opinions here. But there is one thing everyone is missing. It does not matter what the question is but what he is confirming about himself. He is a selfish. He only cares about his own enjoyment and pleasure and not about well-being or suffering of a women he is suppose to love while she is delivering his child. This is what man has become. Personally he deserves a slap but everyone to their own. I am pretty sure women suffer more during vaginal delivery as opposed to c-section, which is just one reason why some women prefer c-section. Just saying.... 1
d0nnivain Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 Any man who is more concerned about the tightness of his partner over the health & safety of his child & it's mother is not worth the time of day. the exposure to anesthesia & other drugs needed for a C section alone makes the procedure risky. Since you know you meet the "worst guys" take a look at your past & see if you can recognize any common denominators. Then work to eliminate them.
Author kissmybooty Posted March 7, 2015 Author Posted March 7, 2015 I am pretty sure women suffer more during vaginal delivery as opposed to c-section, which is just one reason why some women prefer c-section. Just saying.... He did justify that vaginal delivery is more painful even with an epidural and that is what he said was the reason that his woman should get a c section but who knows.. For me I don't like scars on my body so vaginal is my reference. For the baby obv vaginal is the best. C section can have more complications for both the baby and the mother, but anyway that's for the ob forum. Btw I'm 30 he's 32. The
Author kissmybooty Posted March 7, 2015 Author Posted March 7, 2015 Any man who is more concerned about the tightness of his partner over the health & safety of his child & it's mother is not worth the time of day. the exposure to anesthesia & other drugs needed for a C section alone makes the procedure risky. Since you know you meet the "worst guys" take a look at your past & see if you can recognize any common denominators. Then work to eliminate them. Like what ? I am really nice I do like to dress well and wear makeup. Is makeup what gives the wrong impression ?
Timshel Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 That sounds very touchy feely new aged & like malarkey especially coming from people who are both "recent graduate doctors". Based on that odd syntax, I am also guess you are not a native English speaker. It's not a crack against you but I am trying to understand your Q. I do not know any doctors (& I know a LOT of doctors, socially & professionally) who advocate a C section except when absolutely necessary. The act of pushing the baby through the birth canal is what triggers the baby's biological understanding that it has to breathe & eat; C-section babies are often blue because it's more of a tough transition to know they have been born & are independent of the placenta. Based on that your Q seems off. Anyway to your specific Q assuming you are both recent med school graduates I would conclude that his Q to you about your birth preference was born of intellectual curiosity & not a desire to procreate with you now or in the immediate future Agree, off/strange to me too. Medical and general. Oh well
SunnySide0418 Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 Lol well I've never been pregnant and I am not currently either. He already know that but his question was implying in the future what would be my choice,making me think that he is considering something serious with me to enquire that far in the future. I'm just curious whether he's serious or trying to play me (bad experience in the past) It was just a hypothetical question.
SunnySide0418 Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 (edited) I've been talking to this guy we met finally a few days ago had a good time together . He promised me he will help me with something that I am struggling with which he has all sorted out. He said he cannot wait for the universe to bring us all the way together and that we would learn so much from each other, enhance each other. When I returned home we continued talking on the phone. But he asked me a weird question. Now a little background about Us: we are both recent graduate doctors and we've obviously learnt that vaginal delivery of a baby has some side effects that are undesired. But anyway, he asked me the question last night when we were talking whether I would rather have a vaginal delivery or a c section? Then added, I'd rather have the woman have a c section because (explaining the medical reason). Does this mean he's seeing us so far that he wants to have a baby already? I am so stupid when it comes to dating because I've spent years in my room studying and Never dated when I was busy etc. so try not to be too harsh just answer the relevant question please. Please explain the medical reason of why he would prefer his wife to have a C section .. I had epidurals with both my kids and hardly felt anything. Now once the numbness wears off you feel as if you were literally torn open but I can't see that having your belly cut open would feel much better. Edited March 7, 2015 by SunnySide0418
katiegrl Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 He did justify that vaginal delivery is more painful even with an epidural and that is what he said was the reason that his woman should get a c section but who knows.. For me I don't like scars on my body so vaginal is my reference. For the baby obv vaginal is the best. C section can have more complications for both the baby and the mother, but anyway that's for the ob forum. Btw I'm 30 he's 32. The Isn't it also true that with vaginal delivery, the risk of birth trauma to the BABY increases, due to the baby's passage through the birth canal and the possible need for forceps?? Maybe he's concerned about that too!
Author kissmybooty Posted March 7, 2015 Author Posted March 7, 2015 Please explain the medical reason of why he would prefer his wife to have a C section .. I had epidurals with both my kids and hardly felt anything. Now once the numbness wears off you feel as if you were literally torn open but I can't see that having your belly cut open would feel much better. Loose pelvic diaphragm muscles. Well this definitely makes the sex less enjoyable for the guy. But also for the female. Looser vagina makes it harder to stimulate the g spot therefore harder to achieve the same intensity of orgasms.
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