DRStone Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 Let me start this off by saying it has nothing to do with me. I saw a programme about living with HIV and thought it might spark some interesting opinions on here. I'm not talking just HIV, any STD really. You meet a girl/guy and you've been on a few dates and he/she tells you they have an incurable, contagious STD... Would you still continue dating them? Or cut it off there and then?
katiegrl Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 Let me start this off by saying it has nothing to do with me. I saw a programme about living with HIV and thought it might spark some interesting opinions on here. I'm not talking just HIV, any STD really. You meet a girl/guy and you've been on a few dates and he/she tells you they have an incurable, contagious STD... Would you still continue dating them? Or cut it off there and then? Since it's incurable AND contagious, yes I would cut it off... most definitely. 1
DoesntGetIt Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 I'd be gone. I just couldn't do that type of situation. Sex is an important part of a relationship to me, and I couldn't live with that constant fear of catching anything that I'd be stuck with for life (or worse could kill me). 1
Lernaean_Hydra Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 I don't even see how people do that. I could never. I'm sorry but I just couldn't.
Timshel Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 How wonderful that the person would be kind/conscientious enough to inform you. A very sad truism is that quite a few may not. Also true that there are many people walking around right now that don't even know. That should give any dater pause. To answer, no I would not continue to date them, as Doesn'tGetIt said, sex is too important in a romantic relationship for me. I will wait to be sure that he is completely clean (test) so that we can go bareback. I'm celibate and clean and I will wait for all the bells and whistles.
TigerCub Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 I wouldn't risk it. I'd definitely appreciate their honesty though. 1
katiegrl Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 Let me start this off by saying it has nothing to do with me. I saw a programme about living with HIV and thought it might spark some interesting opinions on here. I'm not talking just HIV, any STD really. You meet a girl/guy and you've been on a few dates and he/she tells you they have an incurable, contagious STD... Would you still continue dating them? Or cut it off there and then? Why do you ask? Were you presented with having to make this choice?
LostOnes05 Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 ABORT MISSION(ARY)!?! Nope, I wouldn't get involved with a woman that told me that. I would probably maintain a friendship with them because they were honest with me from the jump though.
alphamale Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 I've only had the "talk" with a couple of women before having sex. Usually I just tell that I'm clean and that is ok. One woman wanted me to get a lab test from the doctor. I did because she was hot hot hot. Came back negative for all STDs. So then we had sex. BTW I don't use rubbers
Timshel Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 ABORT MISSION(ARY)!?! Nope, I wouldn't get involved with a woman that told me that. I would probably maintain a friendship with them because they were honest with me from the jump though. LOL Serious topic and I busted out laughing, thank you!
Author DRStone Posted March 7, 2015 Author Posted March 7, 2015 Why do you ask? Were you presented with having to make this choice? I have not been, no. I have been in a situation where a previous sexual partner contracted chlamydia and there was a chance I had it also (She got it after having sex with me, so I was ok). But - all of these STDs can be 'stopped' by using protection. OK, protection isn't 100% guaranteed but if you think about how many people you sleep with that could potentially have something, then really, what is the big deal? People go out, have sex, go home. They could quite easily catch something - at least if this person has told you, you can always take the right precautions!
PogoStick Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 Let's go from hypothetical to real. So your real more or less incurable diseases are: HPV - 50%+ of the population has it (so 50% of the respondents here are hypocrites) yet few have any measurable problems from it. HSV - manageable with acyclovir and other meds. After the first year, outbreaks become very uncommon and predictable. Many partners stay HSV free after decade long relationships. Hep C - Mentioned as sexually transmissible, but evidence for this is lacking. It's a bloodborne disease, meaning anal sex or sharing needles is necessary to transmit. HIV - scary voodoo, but very manageable today. Viral levels can be pushed to undetectable range making transmission very unlikely, even without condom use. Education wins. Fear rules the ignorant.
Perrier Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 TBH I would quit any possibility of a romantic relationship for an STD that is contagious AND incurable. But I'd keep that person as a friend if they wish. Bug points for their honesty though.
alphamale Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 But I'd keep that person as a friend if they wish. why would you want to stay friends with someone who has the cooties
Timshel Posted March 8, 2015 Posted March 8, 2015 why would you want to stay friends with someone who has the cooties Always the antagonist? Cute
Omei Posted March 8, 2015 Posted March 8, 2015 No, and I feel terrible for those that have it nearly everyone would shun them away, how much sadness they must feel at times only being seen as their transmitted instead of who they are on meeting basis. 1
mstie Posted March 8, 2015 Posted March 8, 2015 You could have herpes right now and never know. Many people never show symptoms and a doctor won't test for it Unless you do. And yet, you can still spread it. Instead of shunning people educate yourselves.
gaius Posted March 8, 2015 Posted March 8, 2015 I was going to date someone who had herpes when I was younger, because I thought she was the one for me and we were meant to be together but it ended up falling apart in epic fashion. Fortunately before we had any physical contact. I doubt I could bring myself to be that doe eyed again, and feel that the overall potential benefit outweighed the downside of getting stuck with something incurable. 1
Gary S Posted March 8, 2015 Posted March 8, 2015 They have their own online dating site.... Positive Singles.
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