ASV Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 When I was younger I felt an indescriptible shyness at approaching women, I got nervous when talking to them and I didn't have enough guts to look straight in their eyes and just get closer and try to kiss them. I dreaded enormously their rejection and that doomed my first datings out of insecurity and with really low results. Some years later I've been getting more self-confidence and boosting my ego, lessening a bit the expectations and without actually feeling like sh*t when a woman rejects my kiss. So with time I've found quite the opposite: I've outnumbered my one-night victories but also some dates due to getting extremely anxious to know if she's into me (or so I think). What I mean is, could a woman truly like you and reject your kiss if she thinks that you're just going for her crotch and most likely try the same with another one at the moment she's not watching you? I remember one time I dated a woman from an online dating site. She seemed wonderful to me, though far from being physically perfect. I truly enjoyed her conversation and liked her looks. I started to feel some kind of oneitis from the first date and she texting me weekly. Once she told me to go out with her female friends at night and went alone with a friend of mine. Told her how I liked being with her, she smiled with shyness and bang, she rejected my wet mouth, which felt like a bucket of cold water to me. I was already secure it was going to work and not only she refused but told me angrily that I had just destroyed all that I was accomplishing. At first I felt extremely sad, but some minutes later I thought she was just stupid to think that. I'd like a female oppinion on this, by the way. Oh, and she kept texting me weekly as if nothing happened. She told me to go out for some drinks last week and we had a lil' chatting before entering to classes (she goes to my same uni). Haven't even considered trying again, but I'm really questioning my actions and if could I have prevented this to happen by delaying my actions or if our relationship was doomed from the start due to her not liking me from minute zero. And sorry for my messy grammar.
mightycpa Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 What I mean is, could a woman truly like you and reject your kiss if she thinks that you're just going for her crotch and most likely try the same with another one at the moment she's not watching you? not sure what that means.
Author ASV Posted March 7, 2015 Author Posted March 7, 2015 not sure what that means. That I was just thinking of her in sexual terms, that I had chosen her just like I could have chosen any of her friends or the ladies in the same venue.
DoesntGetIt Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 If she both rejected and got that mad about the kiss than either she was reading the situation as friendship, or she is ultra conservative. In either case, I wouldn't try for anything there again.
Author ASV Posted March 7, 2015 Author Posted March 7, 2015 Thing is that she replied something in the lines of "what are you doing? why so fast with me?". At first I thought that implied a little chance. Then, a more rational thinking, made me think that "if she rejects you, she's not into you at all". But it was after browsing this particular sub-forum and the thread on "how women can get into someone with time" that this came to my mind. Not that I'm anxious to try again. Maybe if she wants to keep in contact I'll eventually tell her that I actually held feelings for her (what can I lose?), but it is definitely not my main concern at the moment.
preraph Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 Tell her that you're looking for a girlfriend, not just a friend, and that having a "friend" around can hinder you looking for a girlfriend. So bye.
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