Would it me weird if I text ask out a girl I haven't seen for a few months?

[you_can_not_see_me]

This is a girl I used to work with a few months ago, I never came around to asking her out since I thought going out with a coworker was trouble and also cause I left the work very abruptly. Since I left the place we texted back and forth a couple of times but that's it.

 

 

I just thought of texting her and asking her how she's been, then possibly suggest a meetup, so that if things go alright we might start date or something.

 

Question is, will it seem weird (even creepy) for me to just text her out of the blue, having not talking for a while?? what do you guys think?

 

I got the vibe that she was interested, but she never tried anything which always puzzled me, but I figure that she might be one of those girls who is very passive and doesn't do anything unless the guy explicitly makes a move.

[rocketman122]

a lot of women believe its the mans job to pursue. you saw she was interested and didnt make your move.

 

man up and call. that takes balls. text is for manginas who didnt ask when they were working and waiting for the woman to make the move and then ultimately months passed and now theyre thinking of texting but should call instead. although I think you may have lost your shot.

[you_can_not_see_me]

a lot of women believe its the mans job to pursue. you saw she was interested and didnt make your move.

 

man up and call. that takes balls. text is for manginas who didnt ask when they were working and waiting for the woman to make the move and then ultimately months passed and now theyre thinking of texting but should call instead. although I think you may have lost your shot.

IDK the girl is one of the shyer types, I think a call would overwhelm her a bit out of the blue. I ll admit I also find it uncomfortable to do so.

 

I m down to call her later, but I just think getting talking to her again via text might be a smoother way of checking back in.

[Stefanie]

I think it's fine to initiate contact out of the blue. Sometimes a friend I haven't seen all summer or for years will text just to say they miss our coffee/dumpling dates. Obviously, you're not as close with this ex-coworker but I think these days it's never too weird (considering things like Tinder exist).

 

I wouldn't put too much pressure on the first 'date' or meeting though. After finding out how she's been lately, maybe mention that you guys should catch up in person, maybe over a coffee. I wouldn't pick a venue that seems too serious. Then, she gets to 'scope' you out as well in a comfortable environment. Based on how that went, maybe then you can decide on a more intimate setting.

[d0nnivain]

Touching base after a while is OK, not creepy if it's well received. If she seems creeped out, back off. After chatting regularly a few times -- using voice not just text -- then you can ask for a face to face.

[rocketman122]

IDK the girl is one of the shyer types, I think a call would overwhelm her a bit out of the blue. I ll admit I also find it uncomfortable to do so.

 

I m down to call her later, but I just think getting talking to her again via text might be a smoother way of checking back in.

 

sometimes you need to take that chance. call and introduce yourself and see how she reacts and ask if shes busy. texts to me is a bit passive. a call takes guts. its like walking up to a girl in a bar and asking her out versus finding her on facebook and doing it that way. she might talk with you but tells you shes either not intersted or with someone and it might also go good. you never know till you try. im a pursuer and believe thats how courting should go so I see something I go take it. I dont beat around the bush.

[sedona]

No, it's not creepy, unless you say something that's creepy. Be sincere. Maybe admit you're a but nervous... but that you've been thinking about her and wondered if she'd like to meet you over a glass of wine (or whatever you think appropriate).

Do you know if she's single? Otherwise you need to ask, or just say that you felt you had to take a chance.

The worst thing that can happen is that she doesn't answer or she says no thanks. That's not such a huge risk.