In dating, should people "go with the flow" or make a decison to commit right now?

[Bobbi7]

So... in the early stages of dating, should people go with the flow and see what happens or actually have the discussion for an exclusive relationship? I like the though of whatever happens, happens and let things go naturally, instead of forcing for a commitment. Or is asking about it just scare them off and look like a control freak?

[mightycpa]

So... in the early stages of dating, should people go with the flow and see what happens or actually have the discussion for an exclusive relationship? I like the though of whatever happens, happens and let things go naturally, instead of forcing for a commitment. Or is asking about it just scare them off and look like a control freak?

I'm with you. I definitely prefer to get to know the person very well before we start to consider exclusivity and all that stuff. Too early, and it reeks of desperation or neediness to me.

[DoesntGetIt]

There has to be a time of just rolling with it. That time is going to vary from person to person as some people move faster than others.

 

 

Some people might want to bring it up after a month of 1-2 dates a week and talking a lot on non date nights.

 

 

Others might want to wait until 3 months.

 

 

Depends on how often you see each other as well as talk and at what speed you tend to move in a relationship.