irresolute Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 I blocked him from everywhere (Phone and Facebook) Tuesday night because we both said I love you last week, we met on thursday and it was perfect, he said he was going to miss me until we meet again BUT five days passed and he never texted me. Plus, he was logging in dating sites, two times per day. I assumed something was happening so I texted Tuesday night and we chat and everything was good until I asked him why he never texted me in 5 days. His reply: he was BUSY. boo I told him I was in love with him (just in case the I love you's we exchanged weren't enough) and his response: "Baby, I'm not the guy to fall in love with" Fine. I let him know I was blocking him, that I will never forgive him for playing with me. So I did. Today, I log in adult friend finder and noticed he visited my profile. And he was online, but when I logged in, he went offline. Isn't he selfish for still visiting me when I told him to stay away? He doesn't love me yet he can't let me go?
Mi7522 Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 I blocked him from everywhere (Phone and Facebook) Tuesday night because we both said I love you last week, we met on thursday and it was perfect, he said he was going to miss me until we meet again BUT five days passed and he never texted me. Plus, he was logging in dating sites, two times per day. I assumed something was happening so I texted Tuesday night and we chat and everything was good until I asked him why he never texted me in 5 days. His reply: he was BUSY. boo I told him I was in love with him (just in case the I love you's we exchanged weren't enough) and his response: "Baby, I'm not the guy to fall in love with" Fine. I let him know I was blocking him, that I will never forgive him for playing with me. So I did. Today, I log in adult friend finder and noticed he visited my profile. And he was online, but when I logged in, he went offline. Isn't he selfish for still visiting me when I told him to stay away? He doesn't love me yet he can't let me go? I think you're over thinking things, I know when I've been on dating sites and an ex suddenly appeared online I quickly logged out so I wouldn't have to deal with any messages she may or may not have sent me. He's probably just being curious but I wouldn't worry about, why don't just block his profile?
Author irresolute Posted March 7, 2015 Author Posted March 7, 2015 I think you're over thinking things, I know when I've been on dating sites and an ex suddenly appeared online I quickly logged out so I wouldn't have to deal with any messages she may or may not have sent me. He's probably just being curious but I wouldn't worry about, why don't just block his profile? He visited my profile, not just went offline. AND he had the choice to visit it being invisible, so no one would notice, yet he chose to visit it so I could see it.
Jessie1231 Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 Isn't adult friend finder a site to find people for things other than dating?
Author irresolute Posted March 7, 2015 Author Posted March 7, 2015 Isn't adult friend finder a site to find people for things other than dating? yes. That's right. Why?
Jessie1231 Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 yes. That's right. Why? Because it seems reasonable for a guy you met from a site like that to tell you not to be in love with him. He's on a site looking for sex, so for him to disappear once feelings become involved seems normal. 2
Author irresolute Posted March 7, 2015 Author Posted March 7, 2015 Because it seems reasonable for a guy you met from a site like that to tell you not to be in love with him. He's on a site looking for sex, so for him to disappear once feelings become involved seems normal. I haven't met him there. your response is totally irrrelevant and biased based on one fact. You're not being helpful.
Stercrazy Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 I haven't met him there. your response is totally irrrelevant and biased based on one fact. You're not being helpful. Why would you both be on adult friend finder?
Author irresolute Posted March 7, 2015 Author Posted March 7, 2015 Why would you both be on adult friend finder? Well, why not? we both had the account long before we met.
todreaminblue Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 I think you should just ignore him what he thinks or feels towards you is irrelevant now.... if he is stalking your page profile or whatever unless it becomes a case of harrasment and or rude or obscene messages...ignore him and continue looking for someone who is right for you...best wishes...deb 1
Jessie1231 Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 I haven't met him there. your response is totally irrrelevant and biased based on one fact. You're not being helpful. I'm sorry you feel that way. But based on the fact that he's on adult friend finder, regardless of how you met him, it doesn't appear he's seeking a relationship that involves feelings.
Author irresolute Posted March 7, 2015 Author Posted March 7, 2015 I think you should just ignore him what he thinks or feels towards you is irrelevant now.... if he is stalking your page profile or whatever unless it becomes a case of harrasment and or rude or obscene messages...ignore him and continue looking for someone who is right for you...best wishes...deb Thank you so much, Deb, for reading and for replying what I've asked. Can't believe this other people, asking me why I have an account on Aff...gezz. OK, but what if he wants to tell me something? Is it just too late for him to say he is in love with me indeed???
Jimmyjackson Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 I don't really think it means anything. He probably looked out of curiosity more than anything, I know it's hard but I'd try not to read into it too much.
Author irresolute Posted March 7, 2015 Author Posted March 7, 2015 I don't really think it means anything. He probably looked out of curiosity more than anything, I know it's hard but I'd try not to read into it too much. But he visited me before (because he told me, what a dumbass) and he was invisible. now he chose to go visible, so I could see him. I don't think it was a random act. I don't think it at all
Simon Phoenix Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 If this is the same guy as before, her question is definitely relevant because it's you chasing after something unattainable and unrealistic just like you have been. It's not up to him to let you go -- it's up to you to break away from him on your own. Is it possible to block him? If it is, do that instead of getting caught up in the drama again. If it's a different guy, then maybe just stay away from guys that have an account on that site altogether, at least if you're looking for a romantic relationship. If you are looking to just hook up, then by all means ...
Author irresolute Posted March 7, 2015 Author Posted March 7, 2015 If this is the same guy as before, her question is definitely relevant because it's you chasing after something unattainable and unrealistic just like you have been. It's not up to him to let you go -- it's up to you to break away from him on your own. Is it possible to block him? If it is, do that instead of getting caught up in the drama again. If it's a different guy, then maybe just stay away from guys that have an account on that site altogether, at least if you're looking for a romantic relationship. If you are looking to just hook up, then by all means ... I don't know if I can block him, I'll have to check...
Jimmyjackson Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 But he visited me before (because he told me, what a dumbass) and he was invisible. now he chose to go visible, so I could see him. I don't think it was a random act. I don't think it at all I don't know this site and I've never been on it in all honesty so maybe I don't have a good understanding of it, but isn't it possible he forgot he was 'visible' or whatever?
Zahara Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 You met Johnny on Adult Friend Finder. And when it went bust you kept going on about how he kept looking at your account, logging in, logging off, playing cat and mouse. And that site is for people looking for sex. Again, another pattern. Isn't it sinking in. This is no different from the rollercoaster you went through with Johnny -- analyzing every single thing. In the end, it was all for nothing. 5
Author irresolute Posted March 7, 2015 Author Posted March 7, 2015 You met Johnny on Adult Friend Finder. And when it went bust you kept going on about how he kept looking at your account, logging in, logging off, playing cat and mouse. And that site is for people looking for sex. Again, another pattern. Isn't it sinking in. This is no different from the rollercoaster you went through with Johnny -- analyzing every single thing. In the end, it was all for nothing. All for nothing. but this guy told me he loved me...J never told me that. EVER. What if he wants to tell me something but I've blocked him on iphone and facebook?? What if he is in love with me indeed?? Should I give him abother chance?
todreaminblue Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 Thank you so much, Deb, for reading and for replying what I've asked. Can't believe this other people, asking me why I have an account on Aff...gezz. OK, but what if he wants to tell me something? Is it just too late for him to say he is in love with me indeed??? i dont know irresolute...how do you feel...is that what you want to happen with him for him to say he does love you? people can change their minds and hearts...happens all the time... and sometimes when a person realizes what they have lost they want it back and realize they did love them... what is important is what you feel...not what he feels....i dont know him.....i dont think you should pin any hope to a message declaring feelings....i think though you should maybe understand what you feel for him......and then go with your heart.....if it were to happen.....just know you as a person have elove to give its what you really want to give....and any man should feel grateful to share it with you.....him....or any other man.. i have found adult friend finder to be mainly geared towards casual sex....what is it you want and need....that is what counts...dont let yourself be used by any man...you deserve to be loved for who you are not just sex.........if that is what you seek...to be loved.....and i think you do want to be loved.......deb
Author irresolute Posted March 7, 2015 Author Posted March 7, 2015 I don't know this site and I've never been on it in all honesty so maybe I don't have a good understanding of it, but isn't it possible he forgot he was 'visible' or whatever? no, you have to go to your account to change that setting. He did it on purpose. Hence my question. Isnt that selfish, given the fact I told him to leave me alone if he was not in love with me?
xxoo Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 He's not in love with you. Even if he begged you back, you should run from the drama. Nothing good will come of this.
Zahara Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 All for nothing. but this guy told me he loved me...J never told me that. EVER. What if he wants to tell me something but I've blocked him on iphone and facebook?? What if he is in love with me indeed?? Should I give him abother chance? He doesn't love you, Irresolute. Someone that loves you doesn't tell you he's not the kind to love. He said the words because you said it and he was just telling you what you wanted to hear. He said he wants to meet other women. A man that loves you, doesn't need to seek other women. No, no more chances. You need to give yourself a chance to heal and get healthy.
Simon Phoenix Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 All for nothing. but this guy told me he loved me...J never told me that. EVER. What if he wants to tell me something but I've blocked him on iphone and facebook?? What if he is in love with me indeed?? Should I give him abother chance? Ok, so this is a new guy. That's a bit of a relief. That being said, if he truly loved you, the fact that you blocked him isn't going to stop him from telling you so. In the meantime it allows you to decompress without looking at your phone or at your account wondering if he's trying to reach you. If you block and he wants to reach you, he'll go way over the top to do so.
Jimmyjackson Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 no, you have to go to your account to change that setting. He did it on purpose. Hence my question. Isnt that selfish, given the fact I told him to leave me alone if he was not in love with me? To answer the question you're looking for: does he love you? I think if he loved you, you blocking him wouldn't stop him from telling you...if he wanted to tell you of course.
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