mortensorchid Posted March 6, 2015 Posted March 6, 2015 Just for the hell of it I decided to join Tinder. I'd been on it once about a year ago, went nowhere and thought it was pretty useless. But I joined it once again just for the hell of it. Today I had connected with someone, and he passed on his cell to me and mine to his. This all went on via text message: Him: Can I see another picture of you? Me: If you feel the need to do so. H: I don't feel the need to send you one of me, but I want to see another of you. M: I'm not sending you a naked or semi naked photo of me if that's what you're asking. H: No, I don't want to see a naked photo of you, just another. So I sent him a recent photo of myself taken a few weeks ago. As it's winter, I was in my winter coat with a scarf on. I figured he wanted to verify that I was in fact the person that whose image he saw on the app. His response? Him: Oh, you're covered up in this. You are either very conservative or not comfortable with your body. Good luck. M: Good luck? H: Yeah, no biggie. Plenty of fish in the see (that's how he spelled "sea") M: Well love makes you fat doesn't it? H: It's a confidence thing not a fat thing. Just when you think you've heard it all. A confidence thing? He doesn't even know my last name and he tells me I have no confidence? Wow. I guess I am happy I never met his obnoxious ass.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted March 6, 2015 Posted March 6, 2015 Um your body is fine probably. Tinder has a lot of time wasters and trolls. 1
Versacehottie Posted March 6, 2015 Posted March 6, 2015 um, that's just lame of him. don't pay it any attention. he's the one who is overly paranoid and obnoxious. Know how you feel about your body for your own standards. If you feel like you need to lose and he has hit a nerve because it's something you yourself want to work on--then know he's still a complete idiot, but work on it because you want to. If you are fine with your body, no matter what size it is, go with that. I guess it's a reality that guys like to see a girl's shape. Avoid the lame ones who jump straight to the conclusion that there is nothing good underneath or you are hiding something. Or have the gall to ask for it as a condition of meeting you. I do think to avoid the whole situation as well as a recognition that men have attraction to shape, it's smart to use it to your advantage. But do that proactively, in the selection of photos you show to begin with or when you are out and about during your life (obviously totally understandable when it's winter freezing to be bundled up). If I had been in your shoes, I wouldn't have responded to that guy's request for more photos. It's an a**hole move straight from the beginning. Ugh. Sorry what a jerk.
guest569 Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 "No i dont want to see a naked photo. Oh, you're very covered up in this photo, good luck." Weirdo.. Be glad you found out now and not later that he cant differentiate between "see" and "sea" deal.. broken... 3
gaius Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 Sounds like he was just trolling for pictures. If he had any confidence he would have showed up to see you in person. 3
sagamore Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 How amazing that he could see into your soul over the internet... "Conservative" means "not going to f*ck me immediately, regardless of how little effort I expend on trying to make myself seem attractive" Can I have him when you're done? 9
guest569 Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 Even if someone was very comfortable about their body and flaunting it, a bikini in the middle of winter?
preraph Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 God, if that's all the guy is interested in, good riddance. Even in a coat, you can tell if someone is reasonably in shape. Tinder started as a meat market, and it sounds like it still is. 1
Gary S Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 If you already have a pic on a dating site and they ask for more, move on to the next fishy.... one pic is enough, if they want to see more they can meet you. Meeting somebody new for a quick coffee won't put them out much. Don't waste time with high-maintenance peeps. 3
Conners Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 Sounds like a massive douche bag. It sounds like he was trolling for a really revealing photo and if he got it he would of assumed you were an easy lay. I feel sorry for any girl who meets him. 1
Treasa Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 Ha, the second he busted out the **** about not having the need to send you another picture of him, but that he wanted another one of you, you should have sent him a picture of your middle finger. MO, you and I are the same age. And once upon a time I thought we were very similar. But now I feel like I've pulled away from you in terms of confidence. Even if I had gone on Tinder, I would have immediately told this idiot to **** off when he said what he did. And sweetie, you are STILL. VERY. YOUNG. God, if I'm still young (and immature and all the other fun stuff), you are still young. It's not too late to find someone. It never is. Just don't settle for any of these morons. Own yourself. You shouldn't have time for this crap, you know? Sorry, hopefully this makes sense. I'm watching reruns of ANTM and doing work on a phone sex hotline at the same time (no calls right now), so I might be rambling incoherently. But at some point in your life, hopefully the "click" will go off and you'll automatically filter out all of the *******s. It took me nearly 37 years to get there, but I did. This guy didn't even deserve a reply. 3
fitnessfan365 Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 The only time I want a recent full body picture is if I meet a woman online and she claims to be "curvy". A legitimately curvy woman is voluptuous, hourglass, but still fit. This is actually my physical preference. But unfortunately women can be very liberal with the term. In the past, I would take a woman's word for it, and on the phone she'd swear she liked to workout and was in good shape. Then in person she is massively obese.
Ruby Slippers Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 Hi, Treasa. Long time no see! mortensorchid, ignore this dope. I always ignore the guys who ask for more pictures. Some creep the other day told me I should show off more of my body in my pictures And I'm thinking, there's a reason I don't flaunt my skin on my dating profile, and it's to weed out creeps like you. I'm not going to show off my body to just any old schmo on a dating site. 2
Leigh 87 Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 He wanted a thin woman. Some men chase after a certain type. The way he went about it was rude and without any tact or class whatsoever:sick: But some men simply want a slim woman and there is no way around it. No biggie. Men all have set preferences just as us women prefer.. I dunno, some people prefer a college bachelors degree, and so on and so forth...
Arieswoman Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 mortensorchid, Please don't let a-h*les like this get you down. One pic is plenty. If they want more then smell a rat. It doesn't take much time out of anyone's schedule to go for a half-hour "coffee date". Just be glad you didn't invest any more time with this creep. Good luck ! 1
candie13 Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 Tinder can work great if you know what you're looking for and if you're not afraid to weed people out. Lots of normal people who want normal relationships. Lots of trolls. Lots of people fishing for easy sex. In all honesty, I am better at reading men on Tinder than in real life )). that dude's a troll. What did you expect him to say when you said you're not sending naked pics? It's where you played it wrongly. You were supposed to ask what sort of pics he wanted. To be more specific. The more men talk, the more they expose themselves. So it's up to you to ask the right questions and decide if you like the answers you read and go ahead with the conversation. Play it smarter next time and have very very clear ideas as to what sort of a man/ relationship you're seeking. as this guy put it, there are TONS of people out there, it's up to you to decide what you're going after. 1
fitnessfan365 Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 (edited) mortensorchid, Please don't let a-h*les like this get you down. One pic is plenty. If they want more then smell a rat. It doesn't take much time out of anyone's schedule to go for a half-hour "coffee date". Just be glad you didn't invest any more time with this creep. Good luck ! If a woman outright mis-represents herself and facilitates a meet with a guy knowing his preferences before hand, even 30 minutes is too long to spend with a liar that wastes your time. This has happened to me several times. My profile states my preferences very clearly. A woman that says she's "curvy" reads my profile and responds. Then when I call her on the phone and re-emphasize my preferences she swears that she's fit. In person, she's massively obese. Now when I say massively obese, I'm not talking about a size 12 carrying 20-30 extra lbs. I'm actually attracted to women with hourglass hips, and asses that are a bit larger. I'm talking 100 plus pounds obese. I've actually walked out on first meets because of this. If someone knows what I want and lies to me about it, I'm not going to sit with her just to be nice. Screw that. Edited March 7, 2015 by fitnessfan365 1
Conners Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 He wanted a thin woman. Some men chase after a certain type. The way he went about it was rude and without any tact or class whatsoever:sick: But some men simply want a slim woman and there is no way around it. No biggie. Men all have set preferences just as us women prefer.. I dunno, some people prefer a college bachelors degree, and so on and so forth... Why do you assume the OP isn't thin? :/ Your assumption alone is rude. 3
katiegrl Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 Sweetie, you just dodged s major bullitt! Clearly he was just interested in the bootie, and if you had sent him a more revealing photo....my guess is his next request would have been for an even more revealing photo..leading up to partial nude or full nude. Since you didn't bite, he moved on. Next.
katiegrl Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 (edited) Ha, the second he busted out the **** about not having the need to send you another picture of him, but that he wanted another one of you, you should have sent him a picture of your middle finger. MO, you and I are the same age. And once upon a time I thought we were very similar. But now I feel like I've pulled away from you in terms of confidence. Even if I had gone on Tinder, I would have immediately told this idiot to **** off when he said what he did. And sweetie, you are STILL. VERY. YOUNG. God, if I'm still young (and immature and all the other fun stuff), you are still young. It's not too late to find someone. It never is. Just don't settle for any of these morons. Own yourself. You shouldn't have time for this crap, you know? Sorry, hopefully this makes sense. I'm watching reruns of ANTM and doing work on a phone sex hotline at the same time (no calls right now), so I might be rambling incoherently. But at some point in your life, hopefully the "click" will go off and you'll automatically filter out all of the *******s. It took me nearly 37 years to get there, but I did. This guy didn't even deserve a reply. Hi Treasa, in reading MO's post, I think she "did" get that this guy was (is) an idiot, she did call him an obnoxious ass after all... and was happy she never met him. And although I cracked up when reading you would have sent this bozo a photo of your middle finger (that was hilarious...lol), the fact she chose to ignore him instead was perfectly appropriate too. I interpreted her post as more of a rant, not a request for advice. Edited March 7, 2015 by katiegrl
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