Managing a crush on a coworker

[Lionclub2001]

It can become a challenge. Often we can't help who we develop crushes on but there are things we can do to manage the crush feelings like managing an illness.

 

I'm going through that myself. I've been crushing on a coworker for the last 6 months. Here's some self imposed guidelines I have implemented. I will list those in a moment. Before I do I would say it is my personal belief that even if the person I am crushing on feels the same way it is probably not a good idea to date people from work. That's a high risk for trouble down the road. No matter how you feel about a coworker protecting your job security is top priority.

 

 

So here are some guidelines I have implemented.

 

1. Limited contact. That is all contact must be strictly on a professional level on my side. Don't choose her as a work partner if I have other options.

 

2. When tempted to do favors for her make sure I do it for other coworkers at the same time. This way my actions don't look suspicuous and that I am not making special trips just for her. The idea is to treat her the same as the other coworkers so that my crush feelings are not obvious.

 

3. Don't be rude and cold to her but don't be overly nice either. This sort of ties in with guideline number 2 and that is we aren't going to treat her with more or less kindness than the other work colleagues.

 

4. Try not to look at her too much.

 

5. Leave work at different times than she does. Change work schedule when you can so you have less shifts with her.

 

6. Do not talk about her at all to other work colleagues. If they bring her up in conversation then change the subject.

 

7. Avoid places she goes to outside of work.

 

8. Do not tell anybody about your feelings for her except for forums like loveshack. Discussions about your feelings for her should not go outside of this forum. This forum is for discussing internal feelings.

 

9. Do NOT accept favors from your crush. If they offer to help you with something politely decline.

Edited March 6, 2015 by Lionclub2001

[Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646]

Ok what's the point of your posts, you seem to be making a statement rather than asking a question or inviting discussion?