Thaddius Posted March 6, 2015 Posted March 6, 2015 Im texting a girl who tags a "lol, "haha" into 75% of her texts and she also tends to end a remark with an "!". I dont get why she does it cause sometimes what Im saying isnt even meant to be humorous. Can anyone shed some light? Her texts aren't just "lol","haha" but she would embed it into the beginning or end of a text sentence.
Jessie1231 Posted March 6, 2015 Posted March 6, 2015 I get irritated when people do that also. People cannot possibly be laughing out loud as often as they are typing lol. And I've noticed too that people end random sentences with haha that aren't close to funny. People cannot really be laughing this much. 2
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted March 6, 2015 Posted March 6, 2015 It's to show interest since texting is devoid of emotion behind the words. Some people go overboard with it, but when kept in check it helps let the other person know you're interested in them. I just had a girl I'm going on a date with later text me, and she said "See you at ____ ! " which conveys her interest in the meeting. If she said "See you at ___" I would think she was just feeling meh about getting together. 8
BlueIris Posted March 6, 2015 Posted March 6, 2015 For a long- but interesting- explanation, watch this: John McWhorter: Txtng is killing language. JK!!! | Talk Video | TED.com lol is at ~6:18 It's one of my favoritist Ted Talks.
badpenny Posted March 6, 2015 Posted March 6, 2015 I'm not a fan at all, of texting. I actually think such punctuation and additional exclamations are quite immature and demonstrate an inability to communicate effectively, verbally. Conducting relationships via text seems to be an increasing norm, but I deplore the practice. Seems to be on the increase judging by the prevalence of constant questions on here... What did she mean by this text? Why did he say this in his text? He texted me that, and now i don't know what to say.... If you have their number to text, you have their number to talk. Pick up the damn phone and speak! hah, lol! 2
NopeNah Posted March 6, 2015 Posted March 6, 2015 A girl I was seeing actually '#'d' me via text! I was stunned! Actually told her: "Did seriously just hashtag me?" Didn't talk to her much after that.
melodymatters Posted March 6, 2015 Posted March 6, 2015 Oh Lord, I know I'm guilty of this and I'll tell you why. I have a strong personality and can come off as bitchy so in person I smile a lot and use warm gestures. When the communication is over text it can sound very short and bossy, so I add ridiculous smilies and LOL's to let people know I'm "smiling" on the other side of whatever technical device I'm using. I think it might be more of a woman thing. 1
fitnessfan365 Posted March 6, 2015 Posted March 6, 2015 That's why you need to stop texting, and get her out with you. In the very beginning, I send one text. 'Now you won't mistake me for a wrong # when I call." This gives her my number so she'll know who's calling. When she responds, I call her. From then on, I try to keep most interaction on the phone if possible. If a girl texts me, I respond with "Call me". Then I let her call me, and when she does, I plan the next date, chat a bit, and get off the phone. By not being her texting buddy, you actually build more attraction in the long run.
rocketman122 Posted March 6, 2015 Posted March 6, 2015 lol I hate. haha I like. I like smileys also and when my exgf would always add emjicons. makes it personal. nothing wrong with that. 1
ASG Posted March 6, 2015 Posted March 6, 2015 LOL I am so very guilty of this. Seriously, most of my texts to the guy I'm seeing have either one or the other and certainly a lot of !!!'s. His are the same. For me they signify that something is funny or at the very least, amusing. Otherwise, there is no emotion in the texts and it can become a bit difficult to understand the meaning behind the messages. 2
SycamoreCircle Posted March 6, 2015 Posted March 6, 2015 This is a major red flag to me in OLD. To me, it signifies an extremely weak handle on language. It communicates insecurity, insincerity and the inauthentic. I may sound draconian, but language gives a very strong impression of what a person values, what they stand for, who they are. The use of this filler reflects emptiness, in my opinion. 1
guest569 Posted March 6, 2015 Posted March 6, 2015 I'm guilty of not being expressive enough and had misunderstandings over a full stop when I should have used a smiley or something. I think excessive use of lol and haha can be annoying though.
Versacehottie Posted March 6, 2015 Posted March 6, 2015 It's def a balancing act. But i even do emoticons to kind of poke fun of whatever we are texting about. I think the people I do with get it as they seem in on the joke and do it to me as well. There are people I text where i know they just won't get it or it will come off as I'm too nice or unsure of myself with the lol's. I guess I just err on the side that the pattern of how i text is similar to how I speak. Bubbly at times, lots of laughter so that's what I trying to convey. I think if you know me it's very much like I speak. Sometimes I receive texts from people where these sorts of things sound forced. It's definitely a girl thing though. Just like intonation going up at the end of a statement, making it question-y? There's a sociology for sure to back this up! lol, 1
spiderowl Posted March 6, 2015 Posted March 6, 2015 I've chatted to quite a few guys online and in my experience, the ones who use lol an awful lot are behaving like they are up to no good/being naughty. The tend to turn out to be married or really childish in their behaviour so I now see it as a bad sign. However, if a girl is very young then maybe it's in keeping with her age. I see it as a sign of insincerity in someone older.
Author Thaddius Posted March 6, 2015 Author Posted March 6, 2015 I guess to push it further, I was wondering if there are certain people one would more likely use it with than another? And if it has any meaning to it aside from habits?
venusishername Posted March 8, 2015 Posted March 8, 2015 (edited) I personally find it extremely annoying, and if a guy I'm dating uses "LOL" it knocks off major points. In fact, I think for me it's a deal breaker. Occasionally, sure, it can acceptable. If you're actually laughing your arse off, like 'haha you made a joke, I find that really funny'... ok, fine. But there are better means to communicate that you find something amusing and WHY. I have a girlfriend who uses it all the time for no reason, at least none that I can understand. I have never ever used "LOL" and I never will. I read a Tinder profile that said "if you use acronyms, swipe left"... I'm also one of those people. I agree with Sycamorecircle: it's unoriginal, mindless, and inauthentic. Edited March 8, 2015 by venusishername
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