Mjm1014 Posted March 6, 2015 Posted March 6, 2015 Okay so here's the deal...I've been dating a girl almost three months now and I'm not exactly sure where we stand together. See, I would ask her but I have a few reasons why I'm hesitant. First off, she still won't meet my parents...she said initially she wanted to take things slow (although she texts me 300 times a day and wants to be sexual), and when I asked her last week if she would meet them she said she isn't ready yet and maybe a few more weeks but she said no promises...Second, she told me she got out of a relationship a year or two ago that ended horribly (she dated a guy for 4 years that cheated on her with her best friend and she had a hard time getting over it). Basically told me its hard for her to like a guy again and for me to be patient. I don't have a problem keeping things the way they are but at the same time I feel if she was serious about me she wouldn't be asking the same question and want me to get to know my family by this point (she's intoduced me to her family though),....there is no question in my mind she likes me, but it also makes me wonder why she wants to progress with this at a crawling pace. Basically considering we are in our late 20's do you think this is an excuse and she's just keeping me an option?
GTR King Posted March 6, 2015 Posted March 6, 2015 id say tell her how u feel and what you want... If she likes you she will understand... If she still wanna take things slow then accept that for now
fitnessfan365 Posted March 6, 2015 Posted March 6, 2015 Be honest OP. You do have a problem with keeping things casual. Otherwise you wouldn't her to meet your parents or be venting online. You're making your true feelings to go along with what she wants. My honest opinion is that if a woman isn't ready to be serious with you after 2-3 months, she probably just considers you a sexual playmate to pass the time with. I'd cut way back on the texting with her and just keep it to one date/get together a week. Let her pursue you more and miss you a bit.
Assada Posted March 6, 2015 Posted March 6, 2015 I disagree with all the other posts above. the problemis with you OP. You are so needy, and lack confidence, you need her to tell you something, because you dont think that yourself is good enough. If you tell her any thing like the guys above suggested, she'll just leave you, because youre putting needy pressure on her. Go with the flow and live your own life, instead of trying to force her into a situation
fitnessfan365 Posted March 6, 2015 Posted March 6, 2015 I disagree with all the other posts above. the problemis with you OP. You are so needy, and lack confidence, you need her to tell you something, because you dont think that yourself is good enough. If you tell her any thing like the guys above suggested, she'll just leave you, because youre putting needy pressure on her. Go with the flow and live your own life, instead of trying to force her into a situation Actually what I did was call him out on not being cool with keeping this casual like he claims. If he was fine with it, he wouldn't be bringing up meeting his parents or on here venting. 1
Gary S Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 Sounds to me like she is on the rebound. They tend to act flaky and can drop you without notice.
preraph Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 Three months is nothing. That's very early stages still. You're trying to move too fast for her. Take the pressure off and just keep taking her out and getting to know her better and show her you're trustworthy.
d0nnivain Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 the fact that she doesn't want to meet your family doesn't indicate she's not serious. She may simply not want to deal with all the Qs & having to define everything to others. I can be very serious about somebody but still want little to do with their family.
mightycpa Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 Okay so here's the deal... she told me she got out of a relationship a year or two ago that ended horribly (she dated a guy for 4 years that cheated on her with her best friend and she had a hard time getting over it). Basically told me its hard for her to like a guy again and for me to be patient. I don't have a problem.. Oh yes you do. She's passing the time with you until something better comes along, or until you pressure her enough for her to move on anyway. You're in a rebound relationship. You're a distraction.
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