tbrad91 Posted March 6, 2015 Posted March 6, 2015 OK here it goes--we broke up with on January 8th after terrible verbal fight(we was together for 1yr and half) .the night before on her birthday is what started it she was drinking and of course every fight always involved drinking. I simply grabbed the remote from her and she was pissed for the rest of the night and we didn't talk until the next day after I got home after work so I drove over to her house and she still wasn't talking to me until I had to get on her nerves and her kids said something to her about it so that really pissed her of and it begun the argument in front of her kids which one of them ended up calling there dad then he told her that he was coming to get the kids because he didn't want them around that .so she told me I had to go and we was done. I then let my emotions get the best of by saying things in front of her kids and to them about there mothers past relationship. I regret that so so much! Then I ended getting into it with the dad when I was leaving. So 2 weeks have gone by with no contact with her because she had blocked me.then I started contacting her on fb. And for the past several weeks we have been seeing each other without her kids knowing. Well last Sunday I sent her a text askeif she misses me I she responded with yes tom I do but I think I hope I'm not sending you the wrong vibes because we have been seeing you to much lately so then we talked and she said she's going to back off and she would let me know if or when she will see me again. So Monday I call her and we talk about it so more and she said that her heart was so broken from the breakup and that she just don't see a future with me because she just don't love me like I'm loving her right now and that when's she's feeling like this there's nothing I could do to change her mind right now. So then we said bye because she was grocery shopping. And I haven't had any contact since. What should I do I want to contact her . the past few weeks after the break up has been great I have made some changes in my life and she was loving the new me then that happened Sunday and Monday? I need some help? I love this lady I want to fight for her ?advise?
d0nnivain Posted March 6, 2015 Posted March 6, 2015 If you want to reconcile you have to talk. Silence won't accomplish that goal. I do not know from your post what she wants. However if you have not addressed the issues which broke you up, what's the sense of going backwards.
Stercrazy Posted March 6, 2015 Posted March 6, 2015 She gave you an answer. She doesn't see a future with you. Also you stated that all your fights involved alcohol which we all know lossen inhibitions. She might have been feeling negatively towards the relationship but never expressed her anger or frustrations. I think it would be best to have NC and work on yourself to move on. The relationship ran its course and it's time for you to move on. 1
ZiggyZoo Posted March 6, 2015 Posted March 6, 2015 You had an argument so bad that you told inappropriate things about her past relationship to her kids, and they had to call their dad to come over because it got out of hand? And then getting into it with their dad? Also, you've been seeing each other behind her kids' backs? And she has told you that she doesn't love you the way you love her, and she's done? I don't see anything in your post that indicates a healthy future for this relationship at all. Just the fact that she's sneaking around so her kids don't know should be reason enough to stay away. I have children myself, and would never ever be with someone that they disliked. If she's not going to do the same for her own kids, then you should. If you really love her, then you should want what will make her the happiest. And she's told you that it's a life without you. So let her have one. 1
Author tbrad91 Posted March 6, 2015 Author Posted March 6, 2015 My post was about the break up and then the most recent episode between us. We shared a lot of great times together and she loved me I knew that we was close to moving in with each other so it was getting serious. Without her drinking all the time we got along the best. I do love her very much and I want her to be happy .just hard to let go without doing something. Sorry if I'm not explaining my situation right .
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