dcannon Posted March 6, 2015 Posted March 6, 2015 First of all, I want to make it clear: I am NOT complaining! I tried having a couple of conversations with some lovely young gals last evening, and it became a bit of a staring contest. These girls would say something and just stare wide eyed, not saying anything. I would then ask them something or say something, and they wouldn't say anything, just stare, wide eyed. Should I just stare at them in return? Should I ask them why they cannot stop staring? Do they even realize what they are doing?
Toodaloo Posted March 6, 2015 Posted March 6, 2015 Cross your eyes, poke your tongue out and grin at them!
katiegrl Posted March 6, 2015 Posted March 6, 2015 First of all, I want to make it clear: I am NOT complaining! I tried having a couple of conversations with some lovely young gals last evening, and it became a bit of a staring contest. These girls would say something and just stare wide eyed, not saying anything. I would then ask them something or say something, and they wouldn't say anything, just stare, wide eyed. Should I just stare at them in return? Should I ask them why they cannot stop staring? Do they even realize what they are doing? Yeah just stare back. Girls can be so freaking weird...never realized quite how weird till joining this forum and reading some of these threads created by men. Boggles the mind... 2
regine_phalange Posted March 6, 2015 Posted March 6, 2015 Maybe they tried to intimidate you? Or put a spell on you? When I look into the eyes of someone I like, I smile and feel my eyes and face relaxed and soft. Certainly not trying to poke a hole in his brain.
Frank2thepoint Posted March 6, 2015 Posted March 6, 2015 Next time smile, lean in slowly, and try to kiss the girl. She may kiss you back or back off, but either way it'll stop her from staring.
Author dcannon Posted March 6, 2015 Author Posted March 6, 2015 Maybe they tried to intimidate you? Or put a spell on you? When I look into the eyes of someone I like, I smile and feel my eyes and face relaxed and soft. Certainly not trying to poke a hole in his brain. Well the first girl was fine. She stared but she smiled and said hi. I tried to hold eye contact for as long as I felt comfortable and then some, but it felt like she was going to stare forever. The second girl sat closer to me, and again, I felt like I had to break eye contact or she was going to stare into my eyes forever. Nothing wrong with that, I suppose. Yeah, it felt a bit creeper but I'm going to read it as: sexual interest, romantic rather than creeper next time.
Assada Posted March 6, 2015 Posted March 6, 2015 Katiegirl got it absolutely right. Just stare back at them, and whatever you do, dont back down. They are just checking if you have enough confidence. stare at them till they look away
Author dcannon Posted March 6, 2015 Author Posted March 6, 2015 Katiegirl got it absolutely right. Just stare back at them, and whatever you do, dont back down. They are just checking if you have enough confidence. stare at them till they look away Yeah, I tried that but didn't feel like staring at them for half an hour straight. Both girls were absolutely relentless with the staring. The second girl I was seated closer to was staring daggers every time she spoke to me. Just a quick phrase and then STAAAAAAAARE. I can understand the confidence thing: these two girls probably are very confident. Two hot blondes in their 20's, they know the score.
preraph Posted March 6, 2015 Posted March 6, 2015 I didn't get until your last post that these were girls you were conversing with. I thought you mean from across a room. Big difference. You are supposed to look into someone's eyes when talking to them. I guess you're uncomfortable with that. It's normal. They're just talking to you and interested to see what you have to say. They're focused on you.
Assada Posted March 6, 2015 Posted March 6, 2015 Yeah, I tried that but didn't feel like staring at them for half an hour straight. Both girls were absolutely relentless with the staring. The second girl I was seated closer to was staring daggers every time she spoke to me. Just a quick phrase and then STAAAAAAAARE. I can understand the confidence thing: these two girls probably are very confident. Two hot blondes in their 20's, they know the score. If they stare at you for 2 hours, stare at them till they turn away. The idea of a aqauintance staring at you for a half an hour is absurd. - Im just calling you out on it. - No matter though, stare at em, for how long it takes
Author dcannon Posted March 6, 2015 Author Posted March 6, 2015 I don't think these girls are deliberately "testing" me. I think as high status young hot blondes, they have a natural confidence where they can act freely without thinking too much about consequences. They have a level of social freedom which can be startling compared to people who consider themselves to be average in social status. The first girl is a strong case in point. I've talked to her before and during our first meeting she said something like: "I'm going to follow you to the bathroom; isn't that creepy?", joking and laughing. She actually was following me to the bathroom, btw. I ignored her, as she had already stated she had a boyfriend. I think they are expecting me to act with the same level of brazenness and sense of impunity as they do, and take what I want without thinking too much about things. I tend to be very analytical and a bit cautious, so that doesn't happen very often.
Assada Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 the thing is people live their lives differently and after seeing your last post, I know know that your issue is confidence. So what, if the girl wants to follow you in the bathroom? Say go ahead. A confident man doesnt let anything faze him. What is there to analyze here?
Author dcannon Posted March 7, 2015 Author Posted March 7, 2015 I'm getting real good at catching girls eyeing me down now. I catch them in the middle of the act, red handed. So, they can't get away with lustful glances without talking to me. This includes bartender girls, check out girls, baristas, girls on the street, etc etc etc etc etc.
elaine567 Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 I get staring from across the room to get attention. But, they may be "hot" but anyone who cannot hold a conversation when you are actually in their company, and just spends a lot of the time staring, may actually be a bit thick or not very intelligent, as it doesn't appear they are in anyway shy.
GemmaUK Posted March 7, 2015 Posted March 7, 2015 First of all, I want to make it clear: I am NOT complaining! I tried having a couple of conversations with some lovely young gals last evening, and it became a bit of a staring contest. These girls would say something and just stare wide eyed, not saying anything. I would then ask them something or say something, and they wouldn't say anything, just stare, wide eyed. Should I just stare at them in return? Should I ask them why they cannot stop staring? Do they even realize what they are doing? What was being said? If they said something and were awaiting an answer they would look you in the eye. If you said something and they just stared wide eyed then they are quite likely to have been speechless for some reason. Or they simply felt intruded upon and didn't want to talk to you so kept it as brief as possible.
Author dcannon Posted March 7, 2015 Author Posted March 7, 2015 I get staring from across the room to get attention. But, they may be "hot" but anyone who cannot hold a conversation when you are actually in their company, and just spends a lot of the time staring, may actually be a bit thick or not very intelligent, as it doesn't appear they are in anyway shy. A lot of girls stare at me every day. It's normal. For me. It can just throw off the pace of a casual, first conversation.
Author dcannon Posted March 7, 2015 Author Posted March 7, 2015 What was being said? If they said something and were awaiting an answer they would look you in the eye. If you said something and they just stared wide eyed then they are quite likely to have been speechless for some reason. Or they simply felt intruded upon and didn't want to talk to you so kept it as brief as possible. Casual chit chat. Yeah, she was speechless all right. Like I said before, I am going to assume sexual/romantic interest in these cases, instead of a casual socializing frame. There was another gal who was "blocking" us however. if you know what i mean.
GemmaUK Posted March 10, 2015 Posted March 10, 2015 Casual chit chat. Yeah, she was speechless all right. Like I said before, I am going to assume sexual/romantic interest in these cases, instead of a casual socializing frame. There was another gal who was "blocking" us however. if you know what i mean. If they got speechless and wide eyed that is a whole other kettle of fish and by no means positive - as I thought earlier. Blocking by a friend, acquaintance or a woman they don't know is even more of a bad sign. I am aware now that you know of tells - I'm not so sure you are terribly clear about what they mean though. The devil is also always in the detail.
William Posted March 10, 2015 Posted March 10, 2015 Folks, feel free to address the general topic but don't expect any responses from the thread starter since this appears to be one of our select group of hydras who grace us with their postings when not harassing members or seeking to disrupt our forums. Where a particular topic appears consistent with our guidelines and has responses, we seek to retain that content for general consumption, regardless of the disposition of the author. I did clean up a bit of vulgarity that wasn't relevant to the topic.
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