SycamoreCircle Posted March 6, 2015 Posted March 6, 2015 Do you feel you know people who've been profoundly affected by the loss of a loved one? I'm speaking primarily in terms of divorce, break-up or separation. And I'm also speaking to their psychological and physical well-being. People whose physicality and outlook has changed due to loss. The impetus for this question came from watching Tinker, Tailor, Soldier, Spy and Gary Oldman's character. He plays this aged MI-6 operative living in retirement. Yet it seems like the wounds of a life centered around secrecy and deception have profoundly shaped him. There's also a telling moment when an old colleague alludes to his wife. He tersely shuts the colleague down. Oldman is probably one of the most accomplished physical screen actors of the last 100 years.
badpenny Posted March 6, 2015 Posted March 6, 2015 My mother. married to my father for over 50 years, his death in 2010 doesn't seem to be getting any easier for her to bear. If anything, it seems to weigh more heavily on her heart, as time goes by. Whenever his birthday, their wedding anniversary, or the date of his death roll round, she's always reminding the three siblings - like we need it.... I feel for her, very deeply. It must be so painful. She's altered a lot since he died, inwardly. But we really do sometimes feel like saying to her, "Mamma, for goodness' sake, let go! This is doing you no good!"
Priv Posted March 6, 2015 Posted March 6, 2015 The impetus for this question came from watching Tinker, Tailor, Soldier, Spy and Gary Oldman's character. He plays this aged MI-6 operative living in retirement. Yet it seems like the wounds of a life centered around secrecy and deception have profoundly shaped him. There's also a telling moment when an old colleague alludes to his wife. He tersely shuts the colleague down. Oldman is probably one of the most accomplished physical screen actors of the last 100 years. Read the books, they are good. Smiley's wife pretty much serial cheats on him. Can't remember if that happens in the movie too but that is why he shuts the conversation down. If you like that movie check ou 'A most wanted man' from the same writer. 1
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