Bobbi7 Posted March 5, 2015 Posted March 5, 2015 I was talking to this guy from a dating site, we exchanged a few messages, then he suggested we exchange numbers and talk on the phone. I told him I was going to call him today, so I did and when he answered he replied, "Who is this?" I don't know about you, but as a woman calling a guy and him saying that made me feel stupid. Then, we had plans on meeting up for a drink, so I kept telling him tomorrow night would be better because I'm busy tonight and I'm having dinner with my family. And then he kept on pushing and pushing to meet up tonight and he asked what time I get off work and I told him 5, then he said, "oh, well if you're just having dinner, then we have plenty of time to get drinks and go to a movie. I'm like wth? I kept saying tomorrow night! For gods sake!!!! Geez. And the fact that he didn't even ASK me what day of the week I'm free just angers me. He just demanded..tonight, tonight, tonight. I suggested Friday, but obviously he must have some hot date, because Friday is out of the picture! Who is right and who is wrong here? Now, I'm just turned off.
Gary S Posted March 5, 2015 Posted March 5, 2015 He sounds like a nincompoop. Don't let the bad guys win... loose his number and keep fishing. You only need one good one.
fitnessfan365 Posted March 5, 2015 Posted March 5, 2015 It's one thing to be confident and aggressive. But it's another thing to be controlling and needy. This guy sounds way too pushy and I think you need to listen to your instincts. If I'm asking a woman out, I'll always say "When are you free?" Then if what she says doesn't work for me, I tell her and make another suggestion until we both agree and make plans. That's how it should be done. 2
SincereOnlineGuy Posted March 5, 2015 Posted March 5, 2015 I was talking to this guy from a dating site, we exchanged a few messages, then he suggested we exchange numbers and talk on the phone. I told him I was going to call him today, so I did and when he answered he replied, "Who is this?" I don't know about you, but as a woman calling a guy and him saying that made me feel stupid. Then, we had plans on meeting up for a drink, so I kept telling him tomorrow night would be better because I'm busy tonight and I'm having dinner with my family. And then he kept on pushing and pushing to meet up tonight and he asked what time I get off work and I told him 5, then he said, "oh, well if you're just having dinner, then we have plenty of time to get drinks and go to a movie. I'm like wth? I kept saying tomorrow night! For gods sake!!!! Geez. And the fact that he didn't even ASK me what day of the week I'm free just angers me. He just demanded..tonight, tonight, tonight. I suggested Friday, but obviously he must have some hot date, because Friday is out of the picture! Who is right and who is wrong here? Now, I'm just turned off. Why didn't you just hang-up on the idiot, and "ignore" him for ever and ever after??? I think YOU are wrong for tolerating such idiocy! I mean, there's an initial line somewhere, and there is grey area, and then there is another line somewhere. When you're in the grey area, is when to post on Loveshack, but that dummy is WAY over both lines, and you're still entertaining thoughts of him... (so the pendulum swings back toward your being wrong)
todreaminblue Posted March 5, 2015 Posted March 5, 2015 I would have just said ...you are being pushy...and then ask them do they realize that they are being pushy....then i would say...can you please not....i have had guys get nasty when i say no you cannot meet me tonight ...not because i have anything on but i am not up to going out tonight....and they get nasty..i had one guy say to me...lol...ahem....that he had plenty fo other options and that why would he want to date a fat ass like me.....i said cool ...enjoy your date.....dont call me again......and guess what he had the hide to do.....yep called me again.......i have been stalked a fair bit by aggressive guys and they never appear that way at first.... i feel its really telling when guys when they are told you are pushing me push harder...shows a distinct lack of respect for personal and physical and emotional boundaries.....on a date...i would assume much of the same but a more hands on possible...and i would avoid dating a guy who made me uncomfortable over the phone...i really do suggest that you listen to your heart.......deb
Vintage79 Posted March 5, 2015 Posted March 5, 2015 Hmmm - I think this is a bit on both of you. Yeah, his behavior is very curious and at least his pushing for tonight is a bit crazy, but I've done the online dating thing, and if a call comes from an unknown number, I may ask who is this - I wouldn't worry about that part of the story. The reason it's a bit on you is that on some level you were pushing for a first date on a Friday night, which is kind of ridiculous for an online dating first meeting. He was trying to make it a midweek thing, with less pressure, although drinks and a movie - a movie is never a good thing for a first meeting and that's a lot of time for someone online that you have yet to meet.
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