wader Posted March 4, 2015 Posted March 4, 2015 Hello, My girlfriend is currently very angry at me and refuses to talk to me. Let me explain. We have been together for 10 years. We are in our 30's and have three kids. We are also engaged. I'm not going out often. My close friends and I planned to go to the restaurant and then head to the local pub to have a few beers afterwards. We had it planned for a week, so we went. Our wives stayed at home with the kids. It was a good old guys night out. At the pub, we accidently met a few old acquaintances (male and females-all married with kids) that we haven't seen for a couple years. They happened to be there also. We eventually snapped a few pictures. One shot, I was in the middle, surrounded by two (attractive) female acquaintances with their hands around my waist. I did not want to do the "hover hand" pose because I would look stupid so I put my hands around their waists for the time of a picture. Then a few minutes later, I receive a text from my girlfriend. "Who are they? Why are you holding them?" I text her back saying that these are old friends and we were taking group pictures. She did not reply. The acquantances left so we continued to drink a few beers and headed to another local bar. I tried to call her again a few times but she never answered. When I came home, the kids were obviously sleeping but she was not. She was on her computer. She was ignoring me. Didn't talk to me. I went to bed and she never joined me in the bed. The next morning, she ignored me. Is this normal behavior? What the hell? Why is she that jealous? I always was faithful to her. Is it normal for a 30 yo to act like a kid like this? Thanks
d0nnivain Posted March 4, 2015 Posted March 4, 2015 She's not mature enough to get married or be a mom. Geesh When I read the title of your post I thought you were in high school, possibly freshman in college. 30 year old engaged parents who have lived together for 10 years. If you told the truth & the pose was with old friends for a few seconds if your FI can't understand that, she has Problems, with a capital P. Get some serious premarital counseling about trust & communication before walking down the aisle.
Ninjainpajamas Posted March 4, 2015 Posted March 4, 2015 Why are you even giving into her tantrum? If they weren't attractive she probably wouldn't give a damn, but it likely made her feel a bit insecure, so in her eyes you're supposed to get on your knees and validate how special and beautiful, blah blah blah she is...basically make it up to her in her eyes. I wouldn't do it personally, but you're not me and it sounds like she has quite a bit of manipulative power over you...so for you, I'd suggest picking up some flowers and start kissing her @ss...because that's what she's waiting for and expects, explanations will do you no good. Oh and don't forget to say how sorry you are and it'll never happen again....sucka 1
badpenny Posted March 4, 2015 Posted March 4, 2015 Personally, I would ignore it, make out like nothing's happened, and leave her to it. If she persists in her little mind-game, then truly, that is her problem... There's a wonderful fable, which demonstrates the futility of hanging onto resentment: Two monks were on their way to a Holy site, on a pilgrimage. One day on their long walk, they came to a deep river. At the edge of the river, a young woman sat weeping, because she was afraid to cross the river without help. She begged the two monks to help her. The younger monk turned his back, without speaking. The members of their order were forbidden to touch a woman. But the older monk picked up the woman, and without a word, carried her on his back, across the river. He put her down on the far side, whereupon she bowed in gratitude, and went on her way. The two monks fell in, side by side and continued on their journey. An hour or two passed, as they walked on in silence, until, unable to contain himself any longer, the younger monk angrily turned on the older monk, scolding him and berating him for breaking his vows. He criticised him, and admonished him for daring to do such a thing.. Finally, when the young monk, in the midst of his indignation, paused for breath, the older monk turned to to him and said: "I only carried her a few yards, across the river. But see? You have been carrying her for miles, all day."
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