GoodDaze43 Posted March 4, 2015 Posted March 4, 2015 Over the summer my ex (girlfriend) invited me to her house for the week in her country. Her parents were super awesome and very welcoming . When we left to go back home and they came to visit, again they were so nice to me and always inviting me out for dinner and coffee. Her parents would send me and my mom christmas cards and her mom is a painter would send me little paintings. Recently her parents came back to town and I bought them art tickets and again they were happy & invited me out for dinner and coffee. A few weeks after this dinner and her parents left back home, my girlfriend breaks up with me. which took me by surprise. I know she's been making up things about me and telling people lies to make herself feel better about the break up. I want to email her parents and thank them for everything, but I dont know if that is too weird. I know she never told her parents the real reason of the break up which was I ended things because she said she got these feelings for her friend and don't know how she feels about this relationship.
kendahke Posted March 4, 2015 Posted March 4, 2015 Over the summer my ex (girlfriend) invited me to her house for the week in her country. Her parents were super awesome and very welcoming . When we left to go back home and they came to visit, again they were so nice to me and always inviting me out for dinner and coffee. Her parents would send me and my mom christmas cards and her mom is a painter would send me little paintings. Recently her parents came back to town and I bought them art tickets and again they were happy & invited me out for dinner and coffee. A few weeks after this dinner and her parents left back home, my girlfriend breaks up with me. which took me by surprise. I know she's been making up things about me and telling people lies to make herself feel better about the break up. I want to email her parents and thank them for everything, but I dont know if that is too weird. I know she never told her parents the real reason of the break up which was I ended things because she said she got these feelings for her friend and don't know how she feels about this relationship. No. Don't email her parents to tell on her. If you didn't pop a thank you card to them the day after your visit, it's too late to do that now. Your relationship with her is between you and her, not you, her and them. They can't make her do anything and they're not going to disown her. They will circle the wagons and see it was good policy on her part to cut you loose.
redglass Posted March 4, 2015 Posted March 4, 2015 If your ex-girlfriend has been making stuff up about you to feel better about the break-up, you have to be prepared for the fact she has probably told her parents quite a few white lies too. You might get a shock if you get in touch with them, and then receive a lukewarm response or no reply at all. However, there is a difference between keeping in contact with them and sending a simple card to thank them for their hospitality and wishing them all the best. I still wouldn't do it, but I think it's more acceptable and realistic than keeping up any form of regular contact with them.
MJAlex Posted March 4, 2015 Posted March 4, 2015 I believe it's fair to send an email, though as Kendahke mentioned, don't tattle. It's tough to leave behind parents that you've established a strong bond with, and it's valid to thank them for supporting you. In a way, it's a last good-bye to a couple you may not see for a while, if not at all. Deep down, you know the truth and that's all that matters. Gossip only adds fire to the flames and it won't help anyone. Keep it civil, and I think you're in the clear. 1
Vintage79 Posted March 4, 2015 Posted March 4, 2015 It's pretty weird - you should have said the thank you thing immediately after you left/met them. At this point, her parents are likely aware of the situation (even if fabricated), and it would just come across as desperate and needy. Don't bother - if you've heard of the no contact rule, this would effectively be breaking it. You need to move on and forget about her and her family. 1
Author GoodDaze43 Posted March 4, 2015 Author Posted March 4, 2015 Thank you for your response everyone, I don't plan on telling on her to the parents. I just was thinking maybe now that me and their daughter is over and I will never be seeing them again I wanted thanked them 1 last time for everything over the year.
Vintage79 Posted March 4, 2015 Posted March 4, 2015 Thank you for your response everyone, I don't plan on telling on her to the parents. I just was thinking maybe now that me and their daughter is over and I will never be seeing them again I wanted thanked them 1 last time for everything over the year. Not worth the effort - she'll likely find out about it, and regardless of what you say, it will probably come across as stalker-esque.
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