totenkopf Posted March 4, 2015 Posted March 4, 2015 Hi all would be grateful for any advice or opinions. My ex gf initiated contact with me around christmas 2013 when a mutual friend died I had known her for many years and was a close friend of her ex whom she has a child with they split many years before. We began talking and went into a relationship in jan 2014. I had always liked her and she claimed the same. The relationship involved her five year old son and I always made the best effort with him as well as her. We went away on several holidays the three of us and she would regularly leave him in my care if she was working and he even called me dad on several occasions which she never discouraged. I was signed off work from june due to a slipped disc and was awaiting a settlement for this and was being paid sick pay by the government which I would transfer into her account without fail. Around this time she suggested signing up to a site which does webcam and we both tried it out and made a fair amount of money she also arranged meeting a guy and performed a sex act. We both agreed that if either began uncomfortable with this that we would stop immediately. At the time I was married to my now ex wife who I had not been with for many years but she had made previous attempts to divorce her nearly impossible due to me not knowing where she lived. My then gf found out that she was living with her grandparents by arranging with a mutual friend to contact her she then put in a lot of effort to find the address through the voting register which was successful and we sent all paperwork recorded delivery and all went ahead. We had planned on getting married she even bought a wedding dress and had her finger measured and was calling venues etc. We were also planning to move in together when I got my settlement. In October it was her and her sons birthday we both arranged the party together and I wrapped all his presents and said I would get him a seperate card which she said we would give him a joint card which made me feel very wanted and happy. A week before she left she viewed a flat and the following monday was her birthday and we made a list of all we needed to furnish it while at a bar it was a happy time. Upon returning home she fell asleep and foolishly I drew a picture of a heart and penis on her back saying I love cock I took a picture and sent it to her. Upon waking up seeing it she put it on facebook saying " its my birthday and my loving caring bf does this to me". later that day we went to her dads house to pick up her son and brother to go out for a meal. upon arrival she showed both her brother and father the picture. We then returned to my house to pick up a necklace I had got her for her birthday and we then returned to collect her brother and son then went to meet her mum at the restaurant. The evening went well until her son as usual began crying crocodile tears to which I calmed him down and she gave me a loving look and thanked me. The next day I had a fight with a lorry driver who nearly hit us head on to which she filmed the event and later showed my father and laughed about it. The rest of the week went by and I collected her friday evening from work and asked her about some pictures she had on facebook of herself in underwear and corsets which had been on there for years and I referred to its a slag gallery no argument took place and the next day she removed the pictures. All seemed fine on the saturday we did a little shopping and the child stayed at home with her brother. Later that evening we had a drink and proceeded to have sex when disturbed by a takeaway we had ordered. She claimed that I had hurt her during the certain type of sex in a joking way to which I did not reply we both walked out to the kitchen to have our food and she said she was going to bed. I did not stop her and ate my food she came down again looked at me through the door and went up again I then heard things opening and closing so I went up and she was bagging up the presents I had wrapped and said it was over I asked her to calm down but she wouldnt I took the bag off her and said I would drop it round the next day. I then told her to leave and she sat on a wall at the front of my house and we exchanged heated words she claimed that I had made her a whore I said she needed to go but she continued shouting. I put an arm around her and picked her up off the wall and began walking her away from the house she then threw herself onto a grass verge I immediately stood back and went inside. I calmed down then went to find her at the bus stop the bus pulled up and I tried hugging her to which she then threw herself down onto the ground to which I once again walked away from. Upon returning home I noticed my phone was gone and all images of her deleted from the laptop. The next day I contacted her via message and she said it was over I said ok. The next week I tried everything to talk to her but she would not. Six days later I got a new phone and sim and she still had a picture of me and her son on whatsapp when I messaged her she took it down after about ten minutes. we spoke she said it was over and was I surprised she didnt want to be with me after I pushed her and that all we did was argue. Around christmas she announced on facebook she was with a bouncer from her work and the start of feb she also put up that they were engaged. He recently sent me a picture of the engagement ring and she has twisted everything saying that I forced her to do the webcam and perform the sex act and that I was a scrounger with mental health issues and that she never loved me. I asked why she would leave her son in my care and want to marry me etc to which he could only reply which " maybe she was bored I dunno" also he said she kept the child away from me in the end which is not true and a complete lie. I am most confused by all the events as you can imagine.
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