lamaga Posted March 4, 2015 Posted March 4, 2015 So, I have been single for 5 months now (LDR ended last October) and decided that, after being Mrs. celibate for 7 months, I want to get back into the dating pool. There is someone I like. However, the person I like might not realise that I like them that way. I have had relationships with women in the past (I think 80% of my relationships/sexual encounters were with men), but haven't liked one enough for a long time to pursue them. This girl is different. She is 8 years younger than me, we work together on a non-for-profit project. We spend a lot of time together every month for a week, sometimes up to 6 hours a day in a row, sitting next to each other, making jokes, being affectionate with one another, there's hugging and knee touching when fooling around, the things girls do... I realise now, after 1,5 years of working together, that I really, really like her. I always thought she was cute, but as she recently opened up more to me about her past failures with boyfriends, personal things and stuff she's gone through, I feel more connected to her. We have told each other a lot of private stuff, things we don't tell everybody, and it seems we are finally getting to a point where I'd say we are "close". We are both in our 20s, both very liberal and alternative, and I have mentioned to her that I find her very attractive and she did not shy away. I don't think she has had experiences with women in the past, but she has mentioned she loves "the female body" and is "fascinated by it" and that she would love to "explore" it more. I am not sure what this entails. She said she has felt romantic feelings for women before. We have not seen each other in private without working on the project, I think we both know it would entail a date if we do so. She has mentioned she sees me as a 'mentor' (as I am quite somewhat older), but I think that's also what she finds 'attractive' about me. She has told me she thinks I am beautiful. I must say that my attraction to her is mainly romantic and emotional, more so than sexual, although I am very much into her curves. I have always been with more men than women, but have often found myself fantasising about certain women and recently have 'entertained myself' most of the time with thinking of certain women, her included. If something would happen between us, this would be as much an experiment to me than it would be for her, I think, as I didn't like any of the women I have been with in the past as much as I like her. This one is special. I have known her for 1,5 years now and she really is one of a kind. She is funny, pretty, elegant, cool, smart and kind. And I love spending time with her. But it's more than a friendship, as I find myself giving her compliments (example, I see her at work and text her "your hair looks cute today", and she writes back "thanks darling, you're pretty", stuff like that). I have female friends who I would have similar interactions with without it being romantic. But it is different with this one... I think she feels similarly about me, but is scared to admit it. What do you guys think I could do here? We will only be working together on the project for another 3 months, as her task will be taken over by another person. I am scared we lose touch after, as we have never spend time outside of work. I really want to go out with her and see what happens. How do you think I can approach her? Should I just be blunt with her, tell her I like her that way? I wonder what could go wrong? I think at this point she'd be really open to give it a try, but am not 100% sure how to approach the situation.
catchthedrift Posted March 9, 2015 Posted March 9, 2015 it is difficult to say because both of you are rather inexperienced being with women, so this would, if at all, probably end in becoming an experiment, but probably not long-term. have you asked her out on a date yet? as you said, being blunt, sometimes it is the best option, you have got nothing to lose.
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