averis Posted April 7, 2005 Posted April 7, 2005 Hello All, Havent posted in here for a while, just thought id ask for a bit of advice,regarding the psycho ex fiance of mine! I seem to have a problem in getting her out of my head,now bearing in mind we broke up at the begining of Sept 04,she obviously had another love interest and has been with him since, even came up my house describing to me in great detail about the first time they slept together (see other posts)! we never really got on and the girl really was a obsessive jealous psycho,all we ever did was argue and even convinced myself it was all my fault when in fact it wasnt, anyways ive gotta be honest the few times we got on we really got on, and im not ashamed to admit i really loved her, although shes a tart that used me! Now how can i stop thinking of her, shes with someone else, so am I, i know its for the best, and i also know i wouldnt go back with her,im really wanting to move on,I cant see any reason why i shouldnt, i did the begging and the pleading lost all my self respect and pride,but that was months ago, i havent spoken to her in 2 months (NC), and doubt i ever will again! So how do i do it, as you can see i know its over, ive accepted its over, and i really want to move on, im with someone else (FWB) and im really enjoying the single life again,you know have the boys round,go out clubing, on the pull etc,but i just cant stop thinking about her. Am i crazy or what? Ive done the focusing on the bad and ive accepted its over but still think about her when i wake up and go to bed,even still dream most nites, I DONT WANNA FEEL LIKE THIS, IVE MOVED ON! So plz Alphamale, emotions, pocky, someone help me here, banish her from my brain, Cheers in advance
Marshbear Posted April 7, 2005 Posted April 7, 2005 I know exactly how you feel. I had GF who we haven't spoken for a year but I still think about her often. Why, I don't know. She told me she didn't want me and that she just was with me out of pity because I loved her. What a BIT*H. She is a lousy person but I still have feelings for her. I don't know the answer. Do we love the ones that don't want us? Is is the challenge that we want or do we like the pain? I feel for you and wish I could give you a sure fire way to stop but if I knew that I wouldn't be here posting...
Author averis Posted April 7, 2005 Author Posted April 7, 2005 Marshbear, Cheers Mate, it sucks dont it, you could have a point though it could basically come down to the "You always want what you cant have" syndrome, although i dont want her! The meaner they treat you the more you want them, bad logic aint it, but its true! Sorry to hear your going through the same although in 1 respect im glad, coz i know im not crazy, on the other i know i dont want her but it just brings me down so much! Constantly there like some kind of F***ing addiction, ive done everything i can to get over it but i spose we both need info on how others have managed it! So to the others out there, theres 2 fellas here wanting advice on how to get the biggest mistake of your life out of your head,even if you aint got any feelings for them left! A.
Aurionae Posted April 7, 2005 Posted April 7, 2005 Oh, dreams dreams... My long term relationship ended really bad. It's been a while, and my ex moved farfar away, penning a note to me once, saying he still thinks I'm great, was great to him, and he appreciated our time together, wouldn't trade it for the world, yadda. But he also said in the letter it wasn't written with the aim of getting me back. NOW. Being the kind of person I was months ago, I would have immediately taken said letter to mean he wants me back. But being the person I am now, I'm not going to assume this. I wrote back, but was short, making no mention of any want to return to him. Though I would have preferred it in person, I got some nice closure. Dreams still come about him. But since getting that kind of "ending" I feel I don't "need" him. This is something that only comes with time. If you stick it out, you'll get your feeling of self, back. I'm not saying you won't dream, but you won't wake up feeling sick because the dream ended and you're back to pining over them. Good relationships will always be missed. But there's a point, if you do the right things (for yourself!) you'll end up happier, and your next relationship will be better. Or you'll find you don't want a relationship for a while and are going to take time for yourself. It's whatever is about YOU. Your closure will come.
cubbbb Posted April 7, 2005 Posted April 7, 2005 I know the feeling. I'm going thru the on again/off again back and forth relationship right now with a girl that is totally wrong for me, but I can't get her off my mind. You know the saying "Nice guys finish last". Well we've got the "Bad girl on the brain" syndrome I think.
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