VedderisBetter Posted March 4, 2015 Posted March 4, 2015 (edited) I started a new 20's/30's Concert Meetup after having joined several meetups including a new in town 20's/30's meetup group. Well, I had noticed a girl from the new in town joined the concert meetup I started. I knew I couldn't run the group solo so I messaged her saying thanks for joining the group and asked her if she wanted to be a Co-Organizer. I also mentioned how I think she was going to an event which I was also going to this week in the New in Town Group. I just ended the message with a "See ya then!" When I checked that event tonight, it showed she wasn't going anymore. I don't think what I messaged her was odd in anyway but maybe she is super paranoid. I immediately thought she flaked on this event because of my message to her. I have yet to go to an event but had intentions of going to two this week. Now, I'm afraid this girl will talk bad about me when I meant nothing by the message. Edited March 4, 2015 by VedderisBetter
devilish innocent Posted March 4, 2015 Posted March 4, 2015 You're worrying far too much. There's any number of reasons why she would have changed her mind about the other event. I highly doubt she changed her mind because of you. It's also very unlikely she'd be going around talking bad about you to other people. I think you're very insecure. If anything, this is just more of a reason to get out and interact with people. So you can build up your confidence. Good luck!
clia Posted March 4, 2015 Posted March 4, 2015 First off, go to the event. She isn't going anymore anyway, and she may not end up going to any events with that group. I personally would've been a little creeped out by a guy who was seemingly monitoring what Meetup events I was going to. So, just go and see what happens. No need to worry about things that haven't happened yet. Second, your message to her was really strange. She joined the group and you came back and asked her if she wanted to be a co-organizer of the group? I'm sorry, but that's weird. It's fine if you think you can't run the group on your own, but the way to handle it is to organize a couple of meetups, get to know some folks who go to the meetups, and then ask if they want to co-organize -- not to just randomly ask the first person who joins the group if the they want to organize. Many people have no interest in organizing these things; they just want to show up. At any rate, don't worry about it. Just plan an event with your new group, go to events with your other groups, and see what happens.
dcannon Posted March 4, 2015 Posted March 4, 2015 Meetup girls on average are far more shy than the average girl. You didn't do anything wrong or strange, it's just meetup.
Author VedderisBetter Posted March 4, 2015 Author Posted March 4, 2015 I think I know why she cancelled lol. We are supposed to get 4-8 inches of snow on day of meetup so that makes sense lol. Luckily the one on friday will still happen I think because there's a cute girl going from a dating site I'm on and she used to be. Plus she responded to my meetup message and when I said looking forward to meeting her she said the same. Thanks for responses.
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