Glenn123 Posted March 3, 2015 Posted March 3, 2015 Ok so a bit of background... me: Early 30's, was married for 10 years been divorced for 2 years, 2 kids. Her: Early 30's, Single, no kids After I was ready 2 years following a rough divorce I decided I was ready to take the plunge finally. Having not dated for over 12 years it was difficult to jump back into it and lets face it, times have changed. The first date went well (According to me) I was nervous as hell but the conversation seemed to flow well for around 2 hours over a coffee. Her body language showed a bit of nervousness but some positivity with eye contact, smiles and a general show of interest. It actually went a bit better than I expected for a first date after not having dated for what seemed like a lifetime. We covered a lot of topics during that time and I don't know if the conversation would flow so well on a second date as I'm not the world's best talker, more a good listener. Her interests are also quite different to mine apart from one common interest which we thoroughly conversed about. It took a lot to actually get out there and date after going through a bad divorce. Basically I'm wondering if people here have been in the same predicament where they were unsure about arranging a second date and also where they went for their second date. I was thinking about going to dinner somewhere possibly. Thanks.
sunshine2 Posted March 3, 2015 Posted March 3, 2015 My first date was last week and we met for a drink at a local restaurant. Our second date was a movie and coffee after. So it really can be anything. Dinner is always good.
Foretold Posted March 3, 2015 Posted March 3, 2015 Hi Glenn, I was in your shoes last year too - ever since then, I've been seeing a magnificent woman for over 2 months. I also am more of a listener than talker. Because your situation includes you have 2 kids, I'd say you should take it very slowly in getting to know her. For second date, maybe a free day at the museum, seeing a live performance, or just a picnic in the park. If you guys don't end up eating much or anything, definitely go for food afterward but ask "do you want to grab a bite" or "are you hungry?" just so you find out if she wants to eat too.
Vintage79 Posted March 3, 2015 Posted March 3, 2015 Simple answer - if you'd like to see her again, ask her out and see what she says. I usually give people a second chance, unless things were awful. Is there a chance she'll say no, absolutely - but that also means she may say yes. To that end, don't get overly invested in her answer - you've only chatted for 2 hours, so if she says no, you shouldn't be extraordinarily disappointed. As for what to do - I'd try to find something more interactive than dinner. Dinner can be part of the plan, but make it a bit easier for yourself to flirt, touch each other, etc. The formality of dinner and sitting across the table from them, makes it harder to connect physically (i.e. arm bump, hand touching, etc.), which is pretty crucial in creating a romantic connection. Dinner as the singular activity is fine a bit later, but for the first couple of dates - try to make it more interactive and interesting. Once experience that I recently had that was pretty awesome was one of those painting classes with wine - definitely gets you lose and provides plenty of opportunity to tease each other...but there are plenty of cheaper/free alternatives...be a bit creative. My concern for you with a restaurant is that you've already said you're not a great conversationalist, and that's about all there is to do at dinner.
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