GoodDaze43 Posted March 3, 2015 Posted March 3, 2015 My girlfriend told me she don't have feelings for me as she had before & needs space & is not sure if she wan't this relationship. This caught me by surprise, because it was few days before valentines and our 1 year anniversary. I decided to end it. Days later she would msg me saying I love you, and have a great day. We talked some more and she said she may want this to work but needs space. I found that interesting considering we talk everyday and I seen her once a week prior to the break up. Everytime I would try to give her space and not talk she would message me goodnight I love you and goodmorning I love you and try talking to me. I went over to her house & said we need to go full no contact for 2 weeks because having space won't work if we are always talking and seeing one anothers social updates. We went no contact and as the days go on, her status updates and pictures were like she was having the time of her life going clubbing. I blocked her for the time being. I went to a concert the other day, I seen her on a dude the whole night when I left I asked her why you said on this break you were'nt going to dance on any dudes & take there numbers & she said you blocked me on twitter & you know that wasn't nice. I told her have fun with this new guy she met at the club & she replied Thanks I'm confused, why she is acting like this? I work 7 days/week and been trying to hangout with friends, I'm planning a trip, I'm staying busy but still can't get her off my mind.
rocketman122 Posted March 3, 2015 Posted March 3, 2015 My girlfriend told me she don't have feelings for me as she had before & needs space & is not sure if she wan't this relationship. This caught me by surprise, because it was few days before valentines and our 1 year anniversary. I decided to end it. Days later she would msg me saying I love you, and have a great day. We talked some more and she said she may want this to work but needs space. I found that interesting considering we talk everyday and I seen her once a week prior to the break up. Everytime I would try to give her space and not talk she would message me goodnight I love you and goodmorning I love you and try talking to me. I went over to her house & said we need to go full no contact for 2 weeks because having space won't work if we are always talking and seeing one anothers social updates. We went no contact and as the days go on, her status updates and pictures were like she was having the time of her life going clubbing. I blocked her for the time being. I went to a concert the other day, I seen her on a dude the whole night when I left I asked her why you said on this break you were'nt going to dance on any dudes & take there numbers & she said you blocked me on twitter & you know that wasn't nice. I told her have fun with this new guy she met at the club & she replied Thanks I'm confused, why she is acting like this? I work 7 days/week and been trying to hangout with friends, I'm planning a trip, I'm staying busy but still can't get her off my mind. ok, 1, dont believe a woman completely on what they say because they manipulate words to get what they need, and shes clearly doing it here. 2, shes playing the push pull game with you. you turn your back and then she tries to get your attention, you come back and then she turns it on you. 3-her showing you all these updates is a mind game and shes trying to show you she doesnt need u although its showing shes trying very hard to get your attention. 4-the guy was to really stick it to you and fire you up. she said so " she said you blocked me on twitter & you know that wasn't nice." personally from what I see, she has interest but shes playing games with you. if you were to do a selfie with another women and post it on your social page, all hell will break loose, I promise you. unblock her and watch how she will go nuts.
HBK3317 Posted March 3, 2015 Posted March 3, 2015 Dude, watch out a bus is going to hit you smack in the face! You need to take a step back and go full no contact. No texting, no phoning, no social networking nothing... I will go as far to say that once you do all this she will come back saying oh she loves you so much and she's sorry and all the bullcrap and you being the fool in love will take her back only to be hit by the bus you missed a while ago ! Just be strong and hang in there buddy... As to your original question I really have no clue as I also am going through the most ****ed up period of my life after my break up but hey we have this community with people like us so you can always vent out here... Eventually it shall pass (I sincerely hope it does) But just please do yourself a favour and kick her out from your life... You deserve better and one day when you least expect it someone will walk in your life who will be yours in every sense of the word.
Gary S Posted March 3, 2015 Posted March 3, 2015 When they say they need space, it's all over except for the cryin'. She's trying to ween herself off you. All she is doing is playing with you and constantly rejecting you, over and over again. Doesn't it make you mad that you are being taken advantage of? It should. I would cut contact, and date other girls... nothing can take your mind off the old girl like a new girl can! He who rejects first is the only one who gets to exercise his free will, and feel better about the breakup. When the love plane is going down, there is only one parachute. 2
HBK3317 Posted March 3, 2015 Posted March 3, 2015 When the love plane is going down, there is only one parachute. Beautiful.
LostOnes05 Posted March 3, 2015 Posted March 3, 2015 1) Kudos to you for ending it when she said she needed space, a break, etc. That's code for I don't to be in a relationship with you. Good job there... 2) As hard as it may seem, you should not have replied to her messages. That was a mistake. She wanted the break right??? By sending you those messages she was effectively keeping you in her back pocket in case she changed her mind. To me a break = break up. 3) She knew you were still watching her social media and most importantly that you still cared. Some women will do that...my ex did, because we all know getting drunk and going clubbing every weekend is the most mature and reasonable thing to do with your time post break up (sarcasm). 4) Going no contact and the fact that she wanted the break means she is no longer your concern...so you have to force yourself to break that habit. When you think about her call a friend, do some pushups, or other exercise. Trust me, it will help. 5) Go full no contact!! That means no social media related to her or anything. If a mutual friend asks about her...you don't know. If her girlfriends try to contact you to see what you're up to...you're busy right now. If she calls after her cat/dog dies, the guy from the club ditches her, or she gets a nosebleed...it's not your issue, you have more important things to do. I've learned that when people make you an option, your only choice is to look out for you [because she certainly isn't]. Good luck buddy and stay focused on you!
d0nnivain Posted March 3, 2015 Posted March 3, 2015 Everybody grieves the loss of a relationship at a different pace. There is no set time. Nobody can say it will take you 1 month, 2 weeks, 3 days & 9 hours to get over her. You have to feel the feelings of loss. You have to be upset & then you will start to feel better. Not seeing all the fun things she is doing is a good start on helping you heal.
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