SpiralOut Posted March 3, 2015 Posted March 3, 2015 What is your policy when it comes to pictures that have your ex in them? If it was a photo taken while travelling, would you be more likely to keep it? What if things ended on good terms? Should they be put in the photo album with everything else, or shoved in a shoebox, or thrown out? I am obviously not going to take my photos and frame them. However, I do have a box full of them and I don't know what to do with them. Many of them are from trips we made together, and I would like to remember the trip, if not my ex. Opinions?
BikerAccnt Posted March 3, 2015 Posted March 3, 2015 Depends upon how long the relationship was, but generally I'd say keep them, and just file them away for occasional perusal. I tend to keep all of my photographs. I know one of the greatest joys my mother had as she was dying, was looking thru old photo albums, and that included albums of her and my biological father. My step-father was sitting there turning the pages for her. Pictures are a snapshot in time of your life. Unless it is absolutely something you don't want to remember, I don't see a problem holding onto them. It doesn't' bother me a bit. 4
salparadise Posted March 3, 2015 Posted March 3, 2015 Didn't anyone tell you- that's what shoe boxes are made for! If you're holding onto resentment, throw that away and keep the pic. 3
autumnnight Posted March 3, 2015 Posted March 3, 2015 If you're holding onto resentment, throw that away and keep the pic. One of the best sentences ever 1
gaius Posted March 3, 2015 Posted March 3, 2015 I keep everything. Even the stuff associated with bad memories. Memories kind of fade into the background after a while, and I'd like to be able to crack that stuff open when I'm way older and remember my life, cause you only get one. 3
d0nnivain Posted March 3, 2015 Posted March 3, 2015 I have everything. I took the framed pictures down but there are pictures of EXs in albums. They are EXs. I don't hate any of them. Those photos were taken during good times. I'm not constantly looking at them but they are part of my past & represent some good memories.
Timshel Posted March 3, 2015 Posted March 3, 2015 Yeah, discretion is a good thing. All of your past is part of who you are today. When I start to date again, I'll have to deal with that shrine to my late babe. KIDDING, it's quite tasteful. Pull them out when you want, be respectful to your present. That's gonna work for me.
Otter2569 Posted March 3, 2015 Posted March 3, 2015 Definitely tuck them away somewhere if the memories are good. You may want to keep them somewhere out of site though. I had a crazy ex who went through my **** while I was out and tore up all of the cards and pics that she could find. It really pissed me off and sealed her ****ing fate. The things didnt mean anything to me but it was not her place to do that. Thankfully she didnt go on my phone and find the nude pics 2
CrystalShine2011 Posted March 4, 2015 Posted March 4, 2015 Depends on how it ended! I usually get rid of everything.
preraph Posted March 4, 2015 Posted March 4, 2015 I've got 65 framed photos in matching frames lining my hall. Everyone I know is in them, old bfs, friends, and music stuff. Now, if I hated someone, I wouldn't put it up there or want to look at it. But that hasn't happened.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted March 4, 2015 Posted March 4, 2015 I think its normal to take framed pictures down, but its OK to keep them in albums or stored away.
Author SpiralOut Posted March 4, 2015 Author Posted March 4, 2015 Thanks for the responses. I feel better now about keeping them. I might put some of them into albums, but put the more "lovey dovey" looking ones away. I might go to the craft store to buy one of those pretty decorated cardboard boxes to store the photos and keepsakes in.
GemmaUK Posted March 4, 2015 Posted March 4, 2015 I keep stuff from RS's that meant something to me. I ditch everything when the guy was a nightmare. My ex who I was with for 14 years - we swapped ex keepsake boxes to have a nosey. It didn't bother me nor him and to be honest it was pretty funny and sweet as things his ex's saw in him I did too and vice versa.
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