nyny123 Posted March 3, 2015 Posted March 3, 2015 I been with my boyfriend for almost a month now and he wants to come over and meet my dad if allowed. I didn't know what to say so I said yes. I know it very soon into the relationship but I believe without a doubt my dad would like him and my dad knows about him already If its too soon what can I tell him?
wb1988 Posted March 3, 2015 Posted March 3, 2015 Anything under 3 months is too soon, for me personally (at 26) it's a 6 month rule —*good for you for having reservations. You should only introduce someone to your parents if it's pretty serious and required (i.e. you live together, spend most days with him/her, etc so parents will notice). Just tell him that it's too soon and that there isn't a reason to. Mention that it could jeopardize the relationship by introducing other factors rather than just keeping it between the two of you, that it's better to move on slowly, and that you want to minimize the number of partners to introduce to your parents so you have a 3/4/5/6 month rule. 1
Gaeta Posted March 3, 2015 Posted March 3, 2015 You are over 18, your boyfriend is over 18 and your dad is over 18. Do as you wish. It's not a marriage it's just adults getting acquainted. 2
Gary S Posted March 3, 2015 Posted March 3, 2015 for me personally (at 26) it's a 6 month rule - This is the correct answer. 1
d0nnivain Posted March 3, 2015 Posted March 3, 2015 I would not go out of my way to make introductions so early in an adult relationship. However, if I bumped into my parents while out on a date, I would introduce everybody. That would routinely happen to me in my 20s because my parents were very social. As they got older, I always picked them up from their club on Fridays because their night vision to drive wasn't so good any more & I didn't want them drinking & driving. So when a new man pressed me for a Friday night date I would invite him to the club but tell him that involved dinner with my parents. Some came. Some didn't but it was more organic then a whole planned "meet the parents/ new SO" introduction. 1
Author nyny123 Posted March 3, 2015 Author Posted March 3, 2015 Anything under 3 months is too soon, for me personally (at 26) it's a 6 month rule —*good for you for having reservations. You should only introduce someone to your parents if it's pretty serious and required (i.e. you live together, spend most days with him/her, etc so parents will notice). Just tell him that it's too soon and that there isn't a reason to. Mention that it could jeopardize the relationship by introducing other factors rather than just keeping it between the two of you, that it's better to move on slowly, and that you want to minimize the number of partners to introduce to your parents so you have a 3/4/5/6 month rule. I'm 26 too. He seems so eager to meet my family. I think it's too soon also.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted March 3, 2015 Posted March 3, 2015 If you're serious about each other, I don't see why its a terrible idea. Of course everyone has to gauge it by their experiences with their parents, and if it could be awkward. I'd say after a month of being exclusive I would be open to meeting family. Family is important to some people and they want to share in it. 1
Author nyny123 Posted March 3, 2015 Author Posted March 3, 2015 If you're serious about each other, I don't see why its a terrible idea. Of course everyone has to gauge it by their experiences with their parents, and if it could be awkward. I'd say after a month of being exclusive I would be open to meeting family. Family is important to some people and they want to share in it. I agree with this.
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