waprah Posted March 3, 2015 Posted March 3, 2015 So, I got talking to this guy online in January. He was out of a 7 month relationship in November where the girl cheated on him A LOT!! We were getting on really well over the emails but decided to wait a few weeks as he was still hurt from the past relationship. We just kept texting and seemed to get on so well.... it was actually kinda weird!!!! We eventually decided we would meet up in February. As soon as we met - the connection was very strong.... intensely strong. We connected emotionally and spirtually. We met a few times over the next few weeks and it was very strong and lovely - but also scary! Then suddenly, he rings me last week and says he cant do it as he is freaking out too much about being in a relationship. I stayed completely calm and said to him "thats no problem. I understand" as I know how hurt he has been. Then I met him out in town on Saturday night. We took one look at each other and we were in each others arms kissing. I went home and stayed with him and it was lovely - kissing and cuddling (we havent slept together) I left then and I dont know what to think. My head is very confused. I plan on not contacting him again and giving him space and to be honest, giving myself space because I need it to. Whats everyones opinions on this? I'd love some insight
Versacehottie Posted March 3, 2015 Posted March 3, 2015 i think you are handling it right and I would continue to handle it like that. Take it slow and with lots of space. Don't let it be rebound-y. And it's very cliche, but I wouldn't sleep with him yet at all. Build a friendship, a solid base. Sounds like there's chemistry that's great so pull back and work on the other stuff so he can evaluate more clearly. He may not be thinking clearly AT ALL really. Be cautious 2
Tetley Posted March 3, 2015 Posted March 3, 2015 You seem to be handling the situation very well. Carry on giving him space and see if he comes to you - sorry, I know it's hard to be in limboland with a person you connect with. Not sure of the time scale here, but relatively soon you need to assume he isn't going to come back to you. Keep yourself open to meeting others who are avaliable. 2
rocketman122 Posted March 3, 2015 Posted March 3, 2015 So, I got talking to this guy online in January. He was out of a 7 month relationship in November where the girl cheated on him A LOT!! We were getting on really well over the emails but decided to wait a few weeks as he was still hurt from the past relationship. We just kept texting and seemed to get on so well.... it was actually kinda weird!!!! We eventually decided we would meet up in February. As soon as we met - the connection was very strong.... intensely strong. We connected emotionally and spirtually. We met a few times over the next few weeks and it was very strong and lovely - but also scary! Then suddenly, he rings me last week and says he cant do it as he is freaking out too much about being in a relationship. I stayed completely calm and said to him "thats no problem. I understand" as I know how hurt he has been. Then I met him out in town on Saturday night. We took one look at each other and we were in each others arms kissing. I went home and stayed with him and it was lovely - kissing and cuddling (we havent slept together) I left then and I dont know what to think. My head is very confused. I plan on not contacting him again and giving him space and to be honest, giving myself space because I need it to. Whats everyones opinions on this? I'd love some insight I dont think space is the right way to go about it. space to me (as a person whos wife cheated on him while I was shooting weddings at night) means youre distancing yourself and that relates to untrust. I think you should show him that he can trust you and be warm and caring. not distancing yourself. "As soon as we met - the connection was very strong.... intensely strong. We connected emotionally and spirtually" you need to continue more of that. build more trust and show him that u wouldnt cheat and strengthen your relationship. space is not good with this.
Author waprah Posted March 4, 2015 Author Posted March 4, 2015 I feel like if I do that I will only push him away though
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