Drifterofwood Posted March 3, 2015 Posted March 3, 2015 Hi guys and gals. I've posted a few times about my tinder encounter and things weren't going as well as I hoped. Now that I feel a little more emotionally stable (my dog recently passed away) I feel a bit different on how to approach the situation. I basically met a girl on tinder and we hit it off pretty well. First date was awesome. Second date I was a nervous wreck (I guess I caught feelings) and may have came off a bit awkward. Texts were not the same after that. A few days ago I found out she blocked me on instagram and I'm not sure why. I figured she would just block my number, but she responded when I asked her how her week was going. She wished me a happy birthday last weekend as well (she's probably one of the first people that remembered my birthday when I only mentioned it once). We are hanging out tomorrow and I'm not sure how I should approach this. Should I act like none of the stuff above happened? Should I bring any of it up? I feel like if this is the end of the road I would just like a honest answer, but at the same time I wouldn't mind leaving it open. Should I act like everything is well and leave it in her hands if she wants to hang out again? None of my friends can figure out why she blocked me. I plan on buying a chocolate she mentioned on our 2nd date (if it is available in this city) and giving it to her. Should I or should I not?
Buddhist Posted March 3, 2015 Posted March 3, 2015 She blocked you so you don't see photo's of her hanging out with other guys.
Author Drifterofwood Posted March 3, 2015 Author Posted March 3, 2015 She blocked you so you don't see photo's of her hanging out with other guys. That's what I also believe, but we both openly talked about social media and how both of us don't really 'document' our activities. Her pictures were mostly of her niece and family. Unless she lied then that's a whole different story. I was wondering if I should bring the instagram topic up since I'm seeing her tomorrow or should I just ignore that whole thing and see how it goes.
devilish innocent Posted March 4, 2015 Posted March 4, 2015 Since it's only the third date, I wouldn't bring up instagram or how awkward things have been. You want to try keep things light and fun. If it happens to come up in conversation, then you can ask. But bringing it up as a topic of conversation might make things even more awkward. Bringing her favorite chocolate is a nice thought If you can find it without too much hassle, I think you should do it. You shouldn't feel like you have to work too hard though if it's inconvenient. 2
Elias33 Posted March 4, 2015 Posted March 4, 2015 Since it's only the third date, I wouldn't bring up instagram or how awkward things have been. You want to try keep things light and fun. If it happens to come up in conversation, then you can ask. But bringing it up as a topic of conversation might make things even more awkward. Bringing her favorite chocolate is a nice thought If you can find it without too much hassle, I think you should do it. You shouldn't feel like you have to work too hard though if it's inconvenient. Good advice right here. Just play it cool. You want to show confidence? Don't nit pick about her actions. Bring the chocolate and focus on having a good time. The rest will come later.
Author Drifterofwood Posted March 4, 2015 Author Posted March 4, 2015 Since it's only the third date, I wouldn't bring up instagram or how awkward things have been. You want to try keep things light and fun. If it happens to come up in conversation, then you can ask. But bringing it up as a topic of conversation might make things even more awkward. Bringing her favorite chocolate is a nice thought If you can find it without too much hassle, I think you should do it. You shouldn't feel like you have to work too hard though if it's inconvenient. The local candy shop here did not have it so I couldn't surprise her with that. We had dinner and it was fun. I tried to keep it normal and I figured I should keep it short so I dropped her off after. She kind of seemed like she didn't want to go home yet, but I was already at her car so I didn't know if it was too late. I then drew a blank and got nervous again. I was supposed to mention another hang out and at least hug her. I did neither and just told her to text me when she got home and left. She did say that we will talk again soon. I'm not sure if that's a good indicator. I feel like I completely blew it. I have never been this nervous with anyone before and it's just ruining my thought process. Should I attempt to ask her out again?
angel.eyes Posted March 4, 2015 Posted March 4, 2015 If you like her and want to see her again, then yes! Ask her on another date.
Gary S Posted March 4, 2015 Posted March 4, 2015 She is dating you, yet she blocked you on instagram? That's a big red flag. She's just using you, she's not into you.
Author Drifterofwood Posted March 4, 2015 Author Posted March 4, 2015 She is dating you, yet she blocked you on instagram? That's a big red flag. She's just using you, she's not into you. She hasn't blocked me on other media that we are friends on. She also paid for my meal today (she insisted since it was my birthday last week) and she always offers to split the bill so she's hardly using me. I will bring the instagram question up at one point if we keep seeing each other, but for now I'm going to ignore it.
Author Drifterofwood Posted March 4, 2015 Author Posted March 4, 2015 If you like her and want to see her again, then yes! Ask her on another date. I do like her. This is what contributes to most of my nervousness, yet I never had this problem with any other girl. How soon is too soon? I was thinking perhaps this Thursday or this weekend?
Gary S Posted March 4, 2015 Posted March 4, 2015 Let me put it to you this way: Would you have done that to her? Think about it man. There are girls out there who are users, who will date with no intention of a relationship or love... for attention or because they have nothing better to do on Saturday night, or just for sport. Don't be a stooge.
Author Drifterofwood Posted March 4, 2015 Author Posted March 4, 2015 Let me put it to you this way: Would you have done that to her? Think about it man. There are girls out there who are users, who will date with no intention of a relationship or love... for attention or because they have nothing better to do on Saturday night, or just for sport. Don't be a stooge. Yes, I'm well aware of that, but there are some subtle clues that she seems interested. At least I'm not wasting money since it's pretty much equal. She blocked me on instagram, but she didn't block me on anything else. She could have blocked my number (which I thought she originally was going to do so I stopped texting her) but she wished me a happy birthday. She's actually among the very few people that remember my birthday after being only told once. While it might be completely stupid to ignore the instagram thing, I feel that she's worth seeing this through even if it doesn't end in my favor. Also blocking someone on instagram is extreme. I would only block someone if they were spamming or stalking me. I did neither of those (I only liked one photo). She liked one of mine and then two days later blocked me.
angel.eyes Posted March 4, 2015 Posted March 4, 2015 I do like her. This is what contributes to most of my nervousness, yet I never had this problem with any other girl. How soon is too soon? I was thinking perhaps this Thursday or this weekend? Ask her today about this weekend. I wouldn't engage in last minute requests. FWIW, my calendar is already completely booked for this weekend. As for blocking you, I wouldn't have given you access to my account in the first place. Random strangers on a dating site don't get access to my social media accounts just because I go on a date with them.
devilish innocent Posted March 4, 2015 Posted March 4, 2015 I was supposed to mention another hang out and at least hug her. I did neither and just told her to text me when she got home and left. The worst that would happen is that she'd be nervous you lost interest. Ask her out again soon, and it should solve the problem. I think trying for either Thursday or the week-end is fine.
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