adim Posted March 3, 2015 Posted March 3, 2015 So I recently started talking to this chick on Tinder. She seemed like a nice, normal girl, basically what I'm looking for, but there seems to be a twist... We messaged back and forth, and she immediately wants to hang out, and that she wants me to text her. So I bite, and we start texting. Soon after, we agree to meet up for some food and a movie. Well after this she probably said 10 times how excited she is to meet me and how she can't wait til we hang out. I mean I'm not ugly but I'm nothing out of the ordinary either, don't really see why she's so damn excited. I guess she's never been on a date before? Well since then it's been a relentless slew of 'Hey how are you?' 'What are you up to?'. Like every 6 hours she's asking what I'm doing. Then she tells me she had a bad night cause she had a fight with her cousin blah blah blah. Then she asks me if I think she's cute. WTF? I tell her, yeah based on her 2 profile pics on Tinder, yes. Then she's like 'oh you made my night thank you so much, people have told me I'm ugly before'...and I'm just kind of speechless at that moment. Seems like I may have gotten myself tied up with a chick that's got confidence issues... strike #1 Also, I searched (yeah, stalked) her on FB and despite her telling me she's a college freshman, seems like she's still in HS. But she keeps on telling me how boring her college classes are. Lying tendencies...strike #2 Now I know I shouldn't be judging her without even having met her but it seems like she covers up lots of stuff about herself. Luckily I had the common sense to tell her that it was NOT a date but we were only hanging out. Anyone have experience with similar girls? I'm wondering if it's not too late to back out before I get sucked into some weird shiet. At the same time, I feel like if I did back out of hanging out she'd think I see her as ugly and I don't wanna make her feel even worse about herself.
Dybbuk Posted March 3, 2015 Posted March 3, 2015 ABORT ABORT. If she really is in high school you don't want to go down that road for legal reasons, but honestly these are all red flags. Insecurity, constantly contacting you/weird sense of attachment before meeting, potentially misrepresenting herself/lying about her age. Even if she is telling the truth about being in college... are the potential headaches with this girl really worth it?
Author adim Posted March 3, 2015 Author Posted March 3, 2015 ABORT ABORT. If she really is in high school you don't want to go down that road for legal reasons, but honestly these are all red flags. Insecurity, constantly contacting you/weird sense of attachment before meeting, potentially misrepresenting herself/lying about her age. Even if she is telling the truth about being in college... are the potential headaches with this girl really worth it? Yeah, I mean it's her last semester in HS, but it's definitely not her second semester of college...pretty sure she's 18 so legal reasons I'm not too worried about. That's exactly what I'm thinking re: the potential headaches as well, but how do I 'let her down easy'? I hate having to be that dick that got her hopes up (I didn't really try to but pretty sure she sees it that way...) then bailed.
h0000 Posted March 3, 2015 Posted March 3, 2015 Tell her you found out she lied? she was probably fishing for compliment before as well. She sounds like a typical high school drama queen and is anything BUT normal.
LoverOfDance Posted March 3, 2015 Posted March 3, 2015 I think you also have confidence issues as well if you don't actually think you're amazing. Someone else thinks you're amazing and you seem to be turned off by that, lol. Do you want a girl who actually thinks you're average or nothing special? Read what you wrote again. Don't you want someone who thinks you're wonderful and special? It seems like you want her to be running away from you, like you want to be pursuing her. Maybe this will actually make you believe that she's worth something. You were created amazing. You're not ordinary. If you don't believe that then you don't have as much confidence in yourself as you think. And you need to adjust your self image.
wb1988 Posted March 3, 2015 Posted March 3, 2015 ABORT ABORT. If she really is in high school you don't want to go down that road for legal reasons The fact that he posted about this on LS probably means he doesn't give a fk about that. I think you also have confidence issues as well if you don't actually think you're amazing. Someone else thinks you're amazing and you seem to be turned off by that, lol. He says he's average looking so it's understandable to be skeptical about in-your-face interest. OP I think it's too early to decide on those two occurrences. Meet up with her first then start judging.
rocketman122 Posted March 3, 2015 Posted March 3, 2015 So I recently started talking to this chick on Tinder. She seemed like a nice, normal girl, basically what I'm looking for, but there seems to be a twist... We messaged back and forth, and she immediately wants to hang out, and that she wants me to text her. So I bite, and we start texting. Soon after, we agree to meet up for some food and a movie. Well after this she probably said 10 times how excited she is to meet me and how she can't wait til we hang out. I mean I'm not ugly but I'm nothing out of the ordinary either, don't really see why she's so damn excited. I guess she's never been on a date before? Well since then it's been a relentless slew of 'Hey how are you?' 'What are you up to?'. Like every 6 hours she's asking what I'm doing. Then she tells me she had a bad night cause she had a fight with her cousin blah blah blah. Then she asks me if I think she's cute. WTF? I tell her, yeah based on her 2 profile pics on Tinder, yes. Then she's like 'oh you made my night thank you so much, people have told me I'm ugly before'...and I'm just kind of speechless at that moment. Seems like I may have gotten myself tied up with a chick that's got confidence issues... strike #1 Also, I searched (yeah, stalked) her on FB and despite her telling me she's a college freshman, seems like she's still in HS. But she keeps on telling me how boring her college classes are. Lying tendencies...strike #2 Now I know I shouldn't be judging her without even having met her but it seems like she covers up lots of stuff about herself. Luckily I had the common sense to tell her that it was NOT a date but we were only hanging out. Anyone have experience with similar girls? I'm wondering if it's not too late to back out before I get sucked into some weird shiet. At the same time, I feel like if I did back out of hanging out she'd think I see her as ugly and I don't wanna make her feel even worse about herself. go see with your own eyes. dont be quick to assume or judge or come to conclusions. never say never. Ive been on many dates through old and many times things are not what they seem. dont be too quick on the draw. you could have something good here you might be throwing away. people disqualify before seeing face to face. thats the real test. face to face.
EgoJoe Posted March 3, 2015 Posted March 3, 2015 I once let an age related lie slip. She was legally aged but lied about how old she was until we were together for a few months. Liars don't improve until they are caught if ever. 1
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