bluebear2364 Posted April 7, 2005 Posted April 7, 2005 Hey all, I need some advice. My best friend and I are college-aged, both guys. Well, I'm in college, in my 3rd year, and my friend, Bryan, dropped out of college after his first year. He's right now working in construction. The thing is, he has so much potential. He got nearly straight As in senior year, even in calculus (high school), and I know him, he's smart, gifted, talented and damn curious about the world. But he didn't do too well in college (he didn't try to do well), and he quit after his first year. He really can succeed in college, even in academics, if he puts his mind to it. I've tried encouraging him to stay in school; he did, part-time for a year, but recently gave it up for good. When I talk to him about it, he says I'm a "show-off" and all, and ignores what I say. The root of the problem, I think, is his family. His two older brothers are late-20s, early-30s. They are both community college dropouts. They have no job, no girlfriends, and they stay at home often. His (or their) parents just don't care about their three sons. They don't care about their sons' futures and all. But I do. How should I encourage my friend to stay in school? Should I even? He tries to brush me off whenever I try. But he's my best friend, and he has so much potential. I care about him, and don't want to see it go to waste.
Gisèlle Cristina K.S Posted April 7, 2005 Posted April 7, 2005 Dear brother,if you really have all this fraternal love by your best friend,try to use your faith in God and have a sincere dialogue with Him,telling all situation. Some things in life my dear,have only solution thru' spiritual ways and it's no use to force in other manner,cause will generate a big conflict and maybe the end of this amity. Ask for God,sincere and with all of your heart and soul and,if your best friend merits this divine help,surely,it can change.Pray by your friend and family,me on my 42 years,I just received a lot of help thru' my sincere prayers. Receive a Brazilian kiss,stay with God and Stay in peace.Your sister GCKS.
Tamed Wildflower Posted April 7, 2005 Posted April 7, 2005 I imagine that when you bring it up with him you have been bringing it up casually, which would be easy to brush off. Try sitting the dude down. Tell him that you have to talk with him about something serious, and ask him to agree to here you out and take what you say seriously, even if its not what he really wants to hear. Then tell him how much potential you think he has, how talented he is, how smart he is, and that he is worth more than he pretends he is. Ask him to tell you with straight-up honesty why he decided to drop out of college. If he makes up some answer you can tell is bull****, tell him, "No man, I'm serious here, tell me honestly." It may be that he has these ideas about himself not being worthy of a college diploma and a well-paying job. If you get him to say this out loud, he can hear how ridiculous it sounds. It also may be that he truly loves construction, and that smart as he is he just isn't into the intellectual thing, that he simply feels at home working with his hands. If this is the case, is that so bad?
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