Anyone telling people that ex is dead (he's still very much alive)

[LYNNLH]

I have.

 

I have deep hatred for this person now. Not merely for dumping me but for treating me with no respect and has no remorse. Left me just like that after 7 years.

 

He messed me up real bad and doesn't even care.

 

Over the past week or so, I have started to develop feelings of anger and deep hatred for this person.

 

I started to imagine that he has died. Feeling this way has helped me cope. I actually feel good.

 

I have started to tell people that too. Well not people / friends close to me but acquaintances.

 

And I don't even care. I know I will not regret it.

 

Besides, he no longer stays in the country (so no worries of people thinking they saw a ghost if they happen to bump into him..heh) and has proudly told me that he is very happy in the country where he has relocated to for work and vowed never to come back again. He is so sure he will make it big over there, start a fabulous new life and will get lots of women. (yeah..he actually told me that. Can you imagine the pain I was in?)

 

Anyone who did the same? Tell people that your ex is dead?

 

Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned...

Edited March 3, 2015 by LYNNLH

[ApexTitanium]

When my ex left me one of the things my mother said to me was the best way to get over them, is to pretend they died. That's what she did when my father left her over 20 years ago.

Now I probably wouldn't go around telling people that she died. But its what im probably going to start telling myself, I blocked her on all forms of social media, removed all materialistic memories, and im going to block her number from my phone so she wont be able to randomly call or text me. (that would kind of mess with my plan if someone who died to me started trying to contact me).

 

 

It may work for some it may not....everyone copes differently.

[na49]

I haven't told anyone that my ex is dead. but to me, the person that I loved is dead. The person that she is today is not the person I miss. I miss the person who loved me, was obsessed with me, and wanted to marry me. Not the person who was looking for the first ticket out of our 3 year relationship so she can be with her friend's brother, or find some other douche.

[Price2Play]

YES! I did this when my exwf & I split. My buddy was going through a divorce too & we can up with the exact same conclusion. In an essence a part of them is dead, so it's fitting.

 

7 years here too.

[mightycpa]

No. I think that's pretty weird. It's like you can't accept the reality of the situation, and you have to change the past in your mind in order to justify or accept the choice he made. Death provides a pretty valid excuse for leaving.

 

Not convinced it's healthy, because it seems to mean that you're not dealing with the real issue.

[elaine567]

I think if telling yourself he is dead helps you, then fine, unless of course you were going to organise a funeral, BUT telling other people he is dead when he isn't, is not sane.

I suggest you go get some help to get over the break up.