Mizz Layta Posted March 3, 2015 Posted March 3, 2015 I have a crush on co worker i cant figure out if he is just shy or not interested in me.He had always been friendly when he got hired which i didn`t think anything out of but it sparked my intrest in him.Whenever we see each other we say we say hi to each other .However,last time when i worked on his floor i decided to wear make up .He noticed and said i look good which made me feel great.My feelings for him has been more intense. I think about him all the time and have dreams about him However,last time i decided to wait in my car for him to arrive in the parking lot.I decided to go inside the bulding the same time he arrived to make it look like a coincidence.When i got into the bulding he was waiting on the elevator as i expected.I am shy so i froze up and said good morning to him as i was passing by and said it back.He looked uncomfotable,i dont know if its just me.Then today i was in my car parked in the parking lot at work since i arrived at work early.He then drove in and it looked like he was going to park beside my car He glanced towards me then he parked on the other side which my car was facing.When he got out his car ,he didnt look towards the direction at my car which was fairly close to where he parked.I know he saw me .He kept walking,i thought he was going to wave or say hi since he clearly saw me.Maybe i am just reading too much into this. Anyways,i noticed he avoids eye contact with me and he seems aloof than before.There was tension between us when i ran into him the elavor sometime later today and it felt awkward.Does he sense that i have crush on him even i havent made it obvious How can we tell the different between a guy who is shy and the one who is just not interested?
todreaminblue Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 people have their own way of dealing with their days...sometimes it comes across in looks or not wanting to talk......their can be many reasons why he is quiet....none of them which i could tell you for sure to be true how i handle people i cant read.....is to be friendly anyway..i handle all people the same way regardless of how they are most of the time, towards me, and more so with people who confuse me..i show warmth and friendliness...who are a bit aloof or hard to read....this seriously does work...warmth and friendliness be warm be friendly....regardless of how he is.....thats his problem not yours..dont take it onboard...........if he compliments you....dont take it as interest or onboard either......guys often compliment women on how they look...means nothing....thank him and move on with your day...eventually you might get closer and find out why he is the way he is...until then....be warm ...be friendly....deb 1
katiegrl Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 Back off. Clearly, he senses *your* interest and it makes him uncomfortable. And frankly, just because a guy says hi, or good morning, or compliments you does not mean he's interested in you. Sounds like you were (are) projecting "your" own feelings on to him, and it's making him uncomfortable. Thus, the reason he is avoiding you now. No he is definitely not interested... so back off. Sorry. 2
Mrin Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 Ya I agree with Katie. The dude isn't interested and is uncomfortable around you. I'd definitely back off. I'm really sorry.
Gary S Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 The only way to be clear is if someone asked the other for their phone number. Actions scream.
gaius Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 He's probably interested in you in his head, but his body won't cooperate for whatever reason. =/ Just like how you're interested in him but froze up on the elevator. Unfortunately, the body always wins. =/
katiegrl Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 (edited) The only way to be clear is if someone asked the other for their phone number. Actions scream. Lol, no actually what works better than that is utilizing some basic common sense. If someone is going out of his/her way to AVOID you, it's safe to presume that person is not only NOT interested... but feels uncomfortable around you to boot! That's your cue to back off....not push it further by asking for phone number! Sheesh! Edited April 11, 2015 by katiegrl
Gary S Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 Katie, if you are walking down the street and you see a stranger crying, are they crying because they are happy or sad? How do you know? 1
katiegrl Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 Katie, if you are walking down the street and you see a stranger crying, are they crying because they are happy or sad? How do you know? I have no idea...what's your point? In *this* case, the guy is clearly avoiding the OP (in particular)...and as such, she needs to back off accordingly. If that isn't clear to you, based on what she has posted...then dude don't know how to advise ya there... :bunny:
preraph Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 I think he is fully aware you are crushing on him and isn't really interested. You may have scared him off with all the maneuvering to "run into him" too. On the off chance he's so shy he can't even bear to run into you and say hi, how is that ever going to be fun in real life? That's too extreme, if it's true. Does he have friends he socializes with at work? If so, he's not even shy. 1
Gary S Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 I have no idea...what's your point? In *this* case, the guy is clearly avoiding the OP (in particular)...and as such, she needs to back off accordingly. If that isn't clear to you, based on what she has posted...then dude don't know how to advise ya there... :bunny: - Easy smarty pants Hey, you could be right. I'll just say if you are not sure, make a move, ask for their number or ask them out.
fred123 Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 I have a crush on co worker i cant figure out if he is just shy or not interested in me.He had always been friendly when he got hired which i didn`t think anything out of but it sparked my intrest in him.Whenever we see each other we say we say hi to each other .However,last time when i worked on his floor i decided to wear make up .He noticed and said i look good which made me feel great.My feelings for him has been more intense. I think about him all the time and have dreams about him However,last time i decided to wait in my car for him to arrive in the parking lot.I decided to go inside the bulding the same time he arrived to make it look like a coincidence.When i got into the bulding he was waiting on the elevator as i expected.I am shy so i froze up and said good morning to him as i was passing by and said it back.He looked uncomfotable,i dont know if its just me.Then today i was in my car parked in the parking lot at work since i arrived at work early.He then drove in and it looked like he was going to park beside my car He glanced towards me then he parked on the other side which my car was facing.When he got out his car ,he didnt look towards the direction at my car which was fairly close to where he parked.I know he saw me .He kept walking,i thought he was going to wave or say hi since he clearly saw me.Maybe i am just reading too much into this. Anyways,i noticed he avoids eye contact with me and he seems aloof than before.There was tension between us when i ran into him the elavor sometime later today and it felt awkward.Does he sense that i have crush on him even i havent made it obvious How can we tell the different between a guy who is shy and the one who is just not interested? I wish as a guy u could answer the same question cos girls its hard to read. As a guy if im shy itl still be obvious i fancy you. Il try talk to you at least and make convo. But its hard for us to know when a girl likes us. All the things you are doing iv had girls do that before with me and then say to me im stupid to think she liked me and that she was just friends or being friendly. Its difficult for both sides
JohnsonBaby Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 Sometimes I feel very akward around people I m attracted to ,i think it's easier to feel totally at ease with people we re not attracted to at all. Op I d say go with your instinct 1
JohnsonBaby Posted April 11, 2015 Posted April 11, 2015 (edited) Lol, no actually what works better than that is utilizing some basic common sense. If someone is going out of his/her way to AVOID you, it's safe to presume that person is not only NOT interested... but feels uncomfortable around you to boot! That's your cue to back off....not push it further by asking for phone number! Sheesh! See that's not necessarily true ,I avoided a guy I liked alot for a long time and anytime I see him I felt really uncomfortable ,I literally felt like I wasn't even there . Being in his presence clouded my mind .i guess it depends on the person .Men are alot less complicated than women . When they want you they will show you. Edited April 11, 2015 by JohnsonBaby 1
katiegrl Posted April 12, 2015 Posted April 12, 2015 See that's not necessarily true ,I avoided a guy I liked alot for a long time and anytime I see him I felt really uncomfortable ,I literally felt like I wasn't even there . Being in his presence clouded my mind .i guess it depends on the person .Men are alot less complicated than women . When they want you they will show you. ^^How would you have felt, if that guy who made you so uncomfortable that you went out of your way to avoid him, suddenly and without warning, approached you and asked for your phone number? Or worse, actually asked you out on a date? How would you feel? Just curious...
Author Mizz Layta Posted April 12, 2015 Author Posted April 12, 2015 (edited) Hey everyone,thanks for your answers but I posted this thread 2 weeks ago and he is friendly towards me now. I don't know maybe I was just reading too much into it thinking he was avoiding me and seeing something that's not there.Maybe he was just having a bad day or something.Who knows I worked with him few days ago and he was friendly and kept making eye contact with me. However,I wont read too much into for now unless if he were to make a move.Time will tell Edited April 12, 2015 by Mizz Layta 2
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